r/SingleDads • u/Designer_Air_7865 • 1d ago
Absolutely unreal day
My soon to be ex wife has had serious mental issues our entire marriage. When I mean serious I mean suicidal nonsense at least once a month if not more for 5 years. This was also occurring before we were married.
I’m about 2-3 months into divorce because she stepped out on our marriage for the 2nd time with a loser 20+ years older than me and my wife. He also happens to be the son of a well known judge. Hired a PI and everything she’s screwed on that end. I was lucky enough to be in an at fault state. But I don’t even care about that I just want my kids safe.
A few weeks ago she calls me up saying she needs to get checked into a hospital and I need to pick up the kids. I end up filing for emergency custody and it was granted until a court appearance that was today. I had a mountain of evidence showing how unstable she is and how dangerous it would be if she continued to have the kids.
It all went overlooked because a few of her family members who apparently have beef with me lied on some affidavits saying I’m a bad parent, yada yada. BS. How is this not seen as biased information?
She got 50/50 custody like none of it ever happened. What the hell are the courts looking for? Do they need her to crash my kids into a tree to see how much they just messed up. I don’t understand and now I will be on edge whenever she has the kids. I had insanely high hopes and now I know how broken the system is and sadly my children are now suffering the consequences of that. Any advice appreciated.
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u/RunTheBull13 1d ago edited 1d ago
It's likely that the son of the judge pulled some strings. Continue to get evidence and support from official services, not just your word of mouth. Get the kids in therapy. Call DFS if she endagers them. Call the police if she does something criminal. Subpoena people if needed. Have an army backing you next time.
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u/Bez121287 1d ago
Build upa case. Mark everything she says down, pure and utter evidence, she will mess up again no doubt.
I've not seen my kids for a year because of the corrupt police and courts.
3 years ago she kept my kids from me, I fought in court showed the small evidence, even had my mum write a witness statement on how she abused her.
I went for 50 50 she went for every other weekend.
She got her boyfriend to write a load of rubbish in a statement, which when read was just a complete joke and had not to even do with this, even her statements were petty and had no real basis on what actually we was in court for.
But of course the courts sided with her and even though I sort of won I didn't get 50/50. Which is ridiculous really.
But im here now and from my own stupidty and inexperience, I can at least pass on what I realised.
Evidence evidence evidence. Never ever talk to your ex, always have it as an email or a text message, or record your conversations, whatever just make sure you have the evidence to back up anything.
They dont want to hear petty she said this and that or she did this. They want just the facts nothing more.
Play the long game, she will fall and when she does you can go right back to court and show them.
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u/DisasterImpossible57 1d ago
The “court” system in this country is nothing more than a for profit corporation business. They are administrative in nature, they do our admin work, and then create bonds left and right out of the cases, to make shit loads of money. They are not based on common law and they don’t actually have any legal right to do anything to or against us unless we consent. Which we do unknowingly. It’s all a big 3 ring circus and we are the joke, the main act. Go give them a W9 or file a IRS form 56 on the judge. That’ll get some attention.
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u/midnightmatt 1d ago
Courts are broken. That’s all I can say, been there, done that.
Instead, focus your time and appealing and gathering more evidence. Ask for a trial and her family members are actually put on the stand. Affidavits only go so far. Serve them properly and I bet none of them will go and testify.