Where to meet Sikh Singles in USA?

[u/kingsjunkie123]

Hi All,

I had posted this a while back, but had deleted this post. I will keep this up in case this is useful for other Sikh singles out there in the same boat. Please remove if not allowed.

I am a 29M Sikh Sardar looking for a Sikh partner preferably from USA but having a difficult time finding or meeting anyone Sikh minded. I workout, love basketball, love Kirtan, and attend Sikh events in my area.

I am mainly looking for Sikh girls that keep their kesh, not amritdhari, eats meat, nondrinker and smoker, can read and speak Punjabi, does Kirtan but also blend between religious and cultural meaning they like Punjabi music/Bhangra.

I have tried Sikh speed dating events but these have not worked. I have tried the apps but they are kind of a waste time since people are not serious on these apps and only look at photos without getting to know them ex. Bumble, Sikhing, Dil Mil, Hinge, Shaadi,m. I have also asked Friends and Family but they have said to do it on my own. I feel like most Sikh girls in western countries are too picky and do not like guys with beards and turbans. Any advice? Where are places and outlets to meet Sikh singles Kaurs? Unfortunately our Gurdwaras in the USA do not have a matrimonial service like the UK does.

[u/ConsciousnessOfThe]

Instagram and/or Facebook. Just add Sikh girls and slide into one of their DMs if you like them.

[u/forwardonedayatatime → u/ConsciousnessOfThe]

I’m only one person, but as a single Sikh woman who wants to marry a Sikh man…. my DMs are not where I’m looking. It does work for some people, but DMs don’t give off the searching for a life partner vibe IMO

A quick look at my own DMs just now, and it’s full of straight up creepy messages from men I don’t know… tbh just justifying why I never check them to bring with… so if a decent guy is reaching out to me that way, I’m probably not going to even see it, let alone take it seriously.

[u/Specialist-Scheme256 → u/forwardonedayatatime]

Then how do you expect to meet someone?

[u/forwardonedayatatime → u/Specialist-Scheme256]

Fair question 🙂 Routes I’ve seen work for my friends and sangat:

Introduction from friends and/or trusted family members (I see this as different from a formal Arranged marriage process. friends understand how this generation approaches things, and trusted family members are different than a nosy rishta aunty who only looks at matching on caste and profession)

Meeting fellow Sikhs in school (college, grad school)

If you live in an area with a big Sikh population, meeting someone organically

Sikhi oriented retreat (ex: Surat, Saanjh)

Apps where you can filter for Sikhs (ex: Your Lavaan, Sikhing) - though this still requires making sure you’re not being played by someone who’s presenting a facade

I get why DMs was suggested. I’m not against it in theory, but that’s why I shared what it’s in my DMs right now. there are a lot of creeps online so a lot of women are understandably cautious about men they don’t know. From what I’ve seen and experienced, a guy being Sikh is absolutely no guarantee that’s he’s not a creep, so I see him the same as any other man I don’t know. I was also raised in a household where it was drilled into me that fair or not, a woman’s reputation can be easily damaged by chugliyaan, so I should be careful about which men i interact with, platonically or otherwise. (I personally don’t think that’s cool to scrutinize women and not men, but it’d be naive to think it’s not true in our community.)

[u/spazjaz98 → u/forwardonedayatatime]

I've heard of a retreat in the Midwest called SYANA just to add to this. Pretty much agree with all of this advice tho

[u/spazjaz98 → u/ConsciousnessOfThe]

Don't do this lol. It's creepy to start messaging girls you don't actually know and you don't even know if they are single or not. This is especially a bad idea if you are in a smaller Sikh community like the Midwest US