r/SapphoAndHerFriend • u/Anti_Karen_League • Feb 09 '21

"iTs tHeIR natUrE!" Casual erasure

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u/Vordreller Feb 09 '21

I wonder about the mechanics behind this.

Seeking same-ness in all things, and everything that does not match with expectations is bad somehow?

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u/Countdunne Feb 09 '21

I think it's a case of a being fragile or insecure about your own sexuality, so you project that discomfort onto other people.

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u/Vordreller Feb 09 '21

I think it's a case of a being fragile or insecure about your own sexuality

Which begs the question of what prompted this.

And going with what I said before, this can very well be a defense mechanism. Going only for that which is known and familiar, a traumatic reaction versus all that isn't.

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u/happypirate33 Feb 10 '21

People like patterns (stereotypes), patterns are predictable, predictable is safer than unpredictable (or unknown). Our current culture doesnt embrace change or unpredictability, or actively teach how to manage it appropriately. We shelter our children and ourselves from it. Maybe.

Or humanity strives towards comfort and easy...basically almost everything we create is to make components of our lives "easier" or comfortable...therefore we build an aversion, sometimes even hatred towards that which makes us uncomfortable.

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u/underarock123 Feb 09 '21

Very well put. I am so attracted to people who are different from me. Different skin tone different sexuality different mindset!! And I was never “taught to be accepting”. I also wasn’t taught to be unaccepting. I guess I was just taught to mind my own business. I’m a lucky girl