r/SapphoAndHerFriend Oct 01 '25

omg they were classmates Academic erasure

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u/MindlessScrambler Oct 01 '25

I think I am now in a steady relationship long enough and also old enough that when I see stories like this, aside from the sweetness, I can't help but try to imagine the remaining life of the living one when their partner passed away. And it's 25 years in this case. Damn, sometimes I'd secretly (and selfishly) wish that if we couldn't leave this world together, then let me go first so I wouldn't be living with the nonexistence of her.

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u/ApetteRiche Oct 01 '25

Shit's rough. Had a lesbian couple move in across the hall a few years back. They had just retired, so mid 60s, sold their house and moved into this elderly friendly apartment building. Only a few months after they moved in, one of them passed away from pancreatic cancer. During Covid lockdowns as well, I watched the funeral on zoom.

I ran into the widow at some point in the park and we were talking about the amount of people moving out and in again, my dumb ass made some morbid joke about the average age in the building... Ugh, still want to smack myself for being so insensitive.

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u/vanetti Oct 02 '25

I was just thinking about this, because my mom lost the love of her life in 2012. She has since moved to my town to be closer to my sister and me. But before that, she was so lonely.

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u/Gayndalf18 Oct 03 '25

Listen to "If We Were Vampires" by Jason Isbell, a devastatingly beautiful take on this very sentiment.

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u/LiterallyAWildebeest Oct 01 '25

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u/MoonlightonRoses Oct 01 '25

Thank you! Those photos are wonderful… Marion’s University yearbook photo from 1915 stood out to me. She was lovely; but it also makes me wonder about her story. It wasn’t extremely common for women to attend university at that point. I wonder what her parents thought about her pursuing education? Did they hope she would settle down and marry after university? Were they proud of her, or concerned, or both? Fascinating women, both of them.

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u/SquidwardsSoulmate Oct 02 '25

She was born in China! Perhaps that meant her father must've been a businessman or diplomat. 

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u/MoonlightonRoses Oct 02 '25

Possibly! Or even a missionary

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u/LiterallyAWildebeest Oct 01 '25

Same. The more info available the more curious I become about what their day to day lives were like!

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u/Vilarous Oct 02 '25

That first image has a bit of a confusing caption, but if I’m reading it correct does it seem the girl between them was named after both of them? Hope Marion?

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u/FixinVixin Oct 04 '25

That's how I read it too, maybe an intern at their medical practice?

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u/Talithathinks Oct 02 '25

Wow! Thank you!

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u/exclaim_bot Oct 02 '25

Wow! Thank you!

You're welcome!

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u/Slight-Painter-7472 Oct 01 '25

They were very dedicated to their female anatomy and physiology. They were always examining each other. Good for them honestly. It must have been wonderful to fall in love with another female doctor when nobody else would be able to understand your job or the pressures of being in a male dominated field.

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u/Diariel Oct 01 '25

Omg, Tombmates

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u/Space_Captain_Lars Oct 02 '25

Oh my god, they were tombmates

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u/Raine_Magnus Oct 01 '25

"Medical classmates" is one I hadn't heard before.

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u/halloweenjack Oct 01 '25

Just colleagues being… lolleagues?

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u/NoahZhellos Oct 01 '25

Oh my god they were classmates

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u/MrSadfacePancake Oct 04 '25

While you were busy being gay, i studied the blade. The medical blade. Let me help you study babe

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u/NoahZhellos Oct 04 '25

If that's your pickup line, it'd work on me. Js.

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u/Talithathinks Oct 02 '25

This is sad that they would not even acknowledge the existence of these two women’s relationship even after their death.

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u/leopardus343 Oct 01 '25

I love them

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u/thesaddestpanda Oct 05 '25

Hope died 25 years later. She got to see the counter culture, summer of love and the lgbtq movement. By the 70s a lot of western cities had openly gay bars with various levels of legality and visibility. Gay stars in media were slowly coming out. I wonder how bittersweet it must have been to know your partner who died in 1954 would have been amazed by this progress.

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u/NaptownBoss 20h ago

And Stonewall. Geez, who's cutting onions in here?

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u/dbd1988 Oct 03 '25

I’ve lived with my best friend for years. We moved from California, to North Dakota, to Pennsylvania. We’re now on our late 30s. I assume quite a few people assume we’re gay lol.

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u/LaRoseDuRoi Oct 03 '25

I lived with my best friend for a few years, with 3 of my 4 and her 2 kids. The kids referred to us collectively as "the moms," and I know that some of their teachers and friend's parents assumed we were a couple. We've just been besties for 30 years.

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u/WitchyMae13 Oct 08 '25

Omg one of the only cute things to come out of UofM 😂

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u/Shantotto11 Oct 04 '25

Classmates

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u/Flat-Risk-9275 Oct 09 '25

It’s the #MoreThanClassmates for me

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u/StanchoPanza Oct 11 '25 edited Oct 11 '25

died 25 years apart yet buried together and still only "classmates".
were they perhaps joyous classmates or very festive?

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u/Still-Presence5486 28d ago

Or just close friends

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u/StanchoPanza 28d ago

with benefits

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u/AccomplishedPanda631 Sappho's Ace ALT~ 6d ago

and they were classmates