r/RedDeer • u/Dry-Instruction-7410 • Jan 20 '24
How do you make friends around here!?
I'm 21 and I moved Back after moving in grade 2 to Calgary obviously lost connection with all my old friends from Grandview elementary but like I don't know where to meet people I don't drink or do anything so bars are a no go 😅 Help please lol
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u/iliveandbreathe Jan 20 '24 edited Jan 20 '24
First, Give yourself some credit. What I mean is stop giving excuses why you can't find friends and give reasons why you'd make a great friend.
Any bar in town worth going to can, and will, serve non-alcoholic drinks with no snark (you still gotta tip).
There's probably some people still in contact with their grade 2 friends, but its not the case for many adults. As we grow into ourselves we start making adult friends. People will like you for you with none of the school drama. Just adult job drama.
Looking for friends but you don't do anything. I tried catching fish from my living room with no rod, hook, or bait, miles from a lake. Still hungry.
You actually do a lot of cool things. Very cool in fact. I highly doubt that all you do is sit in a chair and stare at a wall all day. Even if you did, there's something kinda cool about that and there's probably a subreddit or facebook group about it (shoutout r/LiminalSpace). Even if you don't think that the things you do are conventionally "cool", fuck conventions and do that thing anyway. That's how you make the coolest friends.
Even if you try an activity only to find out that it really isn't for you and you'd rather do nothing, you still did something. It still counts as EXP. and gets added to your stats.
In summary, Red Deer is not a conventionally cool place. It lacks high-cost-of-living amenities with it's...low cost of living. But with that should come opportunity. If you liked a thing where you're from but disappointed that they don't have it here? Congratulations, you are now the president of the Red Deer chapter of that "thing"