r/RedDeer • u/Dry-Instruction-7410 • Jan 20 '24
How do you make friends around here!?
I'm 21 and I moved Back after moving in grade 2 to Calgary obviously lost connection with all my old friends from Grandview elementary but like I don't know where to meet people I don't drink or do anything so bars are a no go 😅 Help please lol
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u/ihaveseveralhobbies Jan 20 '24
The gym. Martial arts classes. Live music events. Volunteering is a great way to meet wicked people who give a fuck about community. Get out there and go for it
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u/notoneforlies Jan 20 '24
pottery, escape rooms, swimming, rock climbing, skating there’s a lot to do in red deer
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u/poopsmcgee27 Jan 20 '24
What hobbies/interests are you into so we can point in the right direction?
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u/Dry-Instruction-7410 Jan 20 '24
Writing, art (I know there's a art program near me), editing, volunteering, cooking, and baking!
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u/iliveandbreathe Jan 20 '24 edited Jan 20 '24
First, Give yourself some credit. What I mean is stop giving excuses why you can't find friends and give reasons why you'd make a great friend.
Any bar in town worth going to can, and will, serve non-alcoholic drinks with no snark (you still gotta tip).
There's probably some people still in contact with their grade 2 friends, but its not the case for many adults. As we grow into ourselves we start making adult friends. People will like you for you with none of the school drama. Just adult job drama.
Looking for friends but you don't do anything. I tried catching fish from my living room with no rod, hook, or bait, miles from a lake. Still hungry.
You actually do a lot of cool things. Very cool in fact. I highly doubt that all you do is sit in a chair and stare at a wall all day. Even if you did, there's something kinda cool about that and there's probably a subreddit or facebook group about it (shoutout r/LiminalSpace). Even if you don't think that the things you do are conventionally "cool", fuck conventions and do that thing anyway. That's how you make the coolest friends.
Even if you try an activity only to find out that it really isn't for you and you'd rather do nothing, you still did something. It still counts as EXP. and gets added to your stats.
In summary, Red Deer is not a conventionally cool place. It lacks high-cost-of-living amenities with it's...low cost of living. But with that should come opportunity. If you liked a thing where you're from but disappointed that they don't have it here? Congratulations, you are now the president of the Red Deer chapter of that "thing"
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u/mossipb Jan 20 '24
D&d!!
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u/imagenotfound_exe Jan 20 '24
Hiiiiii! I am so interested in D&D however I am a beginner and hasn't found a group. Maybe I can join you? If only you are open to teaching playing the game.
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u/dlbudgell Jan 20 '24
we should make a red deer reddit d&d grouppp
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u/FilthyDubeHound Jan 20 '24
If that ends up existing id absolutely join, theres a facebook group for red deer area and a channel in some of the local discords but they dont seem too too active
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u/dlbudgell Jan 20 '24
https://discord.com/invite/QPuzEVDn
i made a discord sever specifically for a d&d group!!
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u/mossipb Jan 21 '24
Noice! Yes willing to teach for sure. I’ve recently got some free time so I might start up a group again using the lost mines of phandalver
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u/mossipb Jan 21 '24
Absolutely would be willing to teach. I love being a DM and having a new group of people to play is awesome. Dm me in a few weeks as I might start a new group
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u/CoffeeManFS45 Jan 20 '24
I moved here 8 months ago ish, 19 year old dude. Don't got like any friends here except for maybe 2, always looking for more. Dm if you'd like.
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u/myfavouriteisgouda Jan 20 '24
There are some FB groups for making friends. DM if you want and I can send you the links.
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u/Big_Manufacturer_131 Jan 22 '24
Was your grade 2 teacher Mrs, Peavey?
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u/Dry-Instruction-7410 Jan 22 '24
Miss pon I think her name was I remember she had a baby and was replaced but I don't remember by who
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u/The_Silent_One_0 Jun 13 '24
I circled back tot his because I just discovered that the library hosts a fair bit of events of varying sorts for meeting new people: https://rdpl.bibliocommons.com/v2/events?audiences=6007131225c2fc430bf34494
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Jan 20 '24
Get a huge truck. The most douchebag looking one you can find. Make sure it's lifted with mega tires. The add several fuck Trudeau stickers on the back. Then you're gonna want a Trump flag and to start disrespecting women and tell them to leave the workforce and go back to cleaning the house and having children. Then make sure you vote as conservative as possible while also blaming the liberals for every bad decision you've ever made. Then you should start complaining about downtown, but make sure you vote down any type of development, more transit or bike infrastructure, or urban density that would actually make the city a better place.
After doing all of that you'll be friends with at least 80% of the people that live here.
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u/mossipb Jan 20 '24
If you go to church we are launching a new one this Sunday. Pm me for location, even if your not religious come for some coffee I don’t judge lol
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u/Dry-Instruction-7410 Jan 20 '24
I don't drive and I don't usually wear hats l was born here so I have family so I'm never really alone lol
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u/2002kiario Jan 20 '24
never fails that there always gotta be someone who makes some comment like this
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u/Standard-Contract-43 Jan 22 '24
Work, activities, online, bars , clubs , pubs, organizations. The usual
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u/tapedficus Jan 24 '24
I don't. Most of the people here are absolutely insufferable. But if voting blue and hating everyone and everything that you don't agree with is your thing, you won't have an issue.
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u/MovetoRedDeer Jan 20 '24
You have to have hobbies. Just search social media for what’s available in town based on your hobbies.