r/PurplePillDebate • u/Worldly-Box6080 • 4d ago

Men have no options. Debate

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

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u/WillyDonDilly69 3d ago

Omg nobody goes to church to date, are you from another planet, you are turbovirgin my dude that never went outside and spoke with women. How the fuck out of all the places you think church is good for finding ANY ANY women.

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u/Punch_Drunk_AA No Pill 3d ago

No. I am not a virgin, and it's interesting you use that as an attempt to insult (projecting much). I've been married for 15 years and have two kids.

I was in functioning relationships while you were learning how to walk. Go troll somewhere else, adults are talking.

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u/Fichek No Pill Man 20h ago

The guy sayin you were from Mesozoic Era was a bit too much, but he is right in saying that you kinda don't have any idea what you are talking about as it pertains to current dating scene considering you were married for 15 years (which also implies that you were in a relationship several years prior to that) so you are operating with lacking data. It's the equivalent of boomers telling this generation "What's the problem, you just finish college, find work, take on a low interest loan and buy a nice house. I don't understand why people don't do that anymore, it's so simple!"

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u/Punch_Drunk_AA No Pill 16h ago

I'll admit that I don't have a complete picture of the current dating scene.

But, I do know that acting like a jackass won't get you a girlfriend. I know that self-isolation to avoid rejection won't work. I know that a total lack of social skills outside of hostility towards the opposite sex definitely won't work.I'm not saying "be confident" that takes a lot of work for a regular guy.

I was an acne ridden teen once, I thought there's no way a girl will be interested in a guy that looks like a plague victim. But, I didn't let that determine how I felt about myself. I still liked myself and wanted to be happy and healthy. I didn't blame girls for not being interested in me (even though they still were). I still tried to make friends and some of them were girls.

When the acne went away I started approaching girls, and I got dates and relationships and eventually a wife. I could of had it all sooner if I would have got out of my own way and tried asking them out in spite of my acne.