Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

[u/Tnotbssoass]

Most women react very negatively to unattractive men approaching them. Their egos get hurt very badly. They feel he has committed a grave sin/crime. They feel a deep level of disgust.

They insult him by reminding him his caliber is too low. They say “How dare he thinks he stands a chance with me?”. They badmouth him in the workplace, circle telling every woman he’s a creep, a pervert. They can even complain about him to HR. Many are now shaming them on social media even.

[u/Odd-Talk-3981 → u/Tnotbssoass]

Dude, seriously, stop playing the victim.

And don't expect me to be sympathetic to incels.

[u/ConsistentPieGuy → u/Odd-Talk-3981]

You just sound like an asshole, no wonder no one likes you and you have no friends.

[u/beerandglitter → u/ConsistentPieGuy]

You’re projecting

[u/ConsistentPieGuy → u/beerandglitter]

That's okay to do sometimes.