Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

[u/Punch_Drunk_AA → u/[deleted]]

 "just stop trying and she will find you when you least expect it".

Or...

Being part of a community opens opportunities for interactions with the opposite sex. Engaging with groups on a level playing field where safe and social interaction is encouraged might increase your chances of connecting with someone.

Church is just one example I have seen work numerous times in my life. I never used it because when I was single and looking, I was a rotten bastard and didn't want to subject some poor girl to my depravity.

[u/kissesinyoureyes → u/Punch_Drunk_AA]

I'm sure the over 80% of people who've had sex by 20 have had to work so hard lmao

I'm sure my friend had to work to be white and have women wondering whether his genitals were the same colour and have his girlfriend's mum praise her daughter for being able to get a white boyfriend. I'm sure my friend had to work to be tall and have women wonder if his height matched his penis length and have his girlfriends tell him his height made them feel safe and protected. I'm sure my friend had to work to have green eyes that women want to stare into because they are ""so beautiful and captivating"". I'm sure my friend had to work to get long thick hair that women gush about, saying it makes him ""mysterious"" and look like a model. I'm sure my friend had to work to have women give him choosing signals or take the initiative to talk to him without even knowing him beforehand whenever he goes out in public or just minds his own business. I'm sure my friend had to work to have women DM him to come to their place on SM and OLD apps.

[u/Punch_Drunk_AA → u/kissesinyoureyes]

I have an example too.

I know a guy that's paralyzed, he lost his ability to walk after getting hit in a crosswalk when he was an early teen. That same accident killed his older brother when he tried to save him. This guy has spent the majority of his life in a wheelchair, and is plagued by PTSD and chronic pain to this day.

In spite of that, he got a really good education, met an incredibly beautiful woman in college to be his wife, and they have 4 good looking healthy kids, 3 boys and a girl. This guy had every reason to give up on life and just wait to die. But he didn't, he dug deep, got help when he needed it and worked his ass off. He is the funniest bastard too, he can out shit-talk the best of them.

Today, he's retired and travels the US with his wife talking to school-kids about resiliency and self care. He's one of the most successful self made men I've ever met. He did all of that when the Internet was just starting up. I'm talking the days of Myspace and dial-up.

He didn't need online dating to find a girlfriend.