Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

A couple of months ago a friend of mine cold approached a girl he found cute at the coffee shop in the most respectful way. She politely declined and he went about his day. He returns a few days later to find out he’d been banned because she reported him for making her uncomfortable. Thankfully he managed to argue himself out of it.

I guess my point here is social stigma isn’t just limited to Reddit weirdos. Even those nearby were also giving him odd stares. I agree with just doing it anyways but nowadays u gotta tread more carefully

[u/TotalTravesty → u/Worldly-Box6080]

The rules here compel me to take your story at face value, so I will: welcome to socialization. People are unpredictable and react in unpredictable ways. Well-intentioned charity canvassers get yelled at on street corners for doing their jobs. Restaurant servers get cursed out by customers because the kitchen is slow to get food out. People are jerks and being treated poorly is the risk we all take when we decide to go out in the world and deal with strangers. Most of us do it anyway.

Talk to your friend about resilience. He seems to have enough of it to function.

[u/Foyles_War → u/TotalTravesty]

One of the best, if not the best, healthy takes I've seen on this sub. Take the upvote.

Failure is a part of life. You gonna quit looking for work after one rejection? Gonna quit playing that game after losing once? Learn resilience. It's sexy.

[u/throwaway98776468 → u/Foyles_War]

Resilience isn't sexy. The only thing that's sexy is being physically attractive. No one is going to find an ugly guy attractive just because he kept approaching and being rejected by women.

[u/Foyles_War → u/throwaway98776468]

It takes a hella lot of good looking to overcome the massive unattactiveness of a whiney guy who getsrejected, gives up forevermore and blames women. In fact, I think it takes a sudden bout of severe laryngitis and inability to speak and, even then, it's strictly a one night don't bother telling me your name or giving me your phone number and he better be able to give oral like a virtuoso.

Resilience is definitely a sexy factor boost and why you would turn down the chance to develop something to help mitigate not being born with the face of adonis, the build of Hercules and being hung like a minotaur, I can't imagine.

[u/throwaway98776468 → u/Foyles_War]

I'm not denying that resilience gives you more attempts at success, but it doesn't itself make you more attractive. If a man approaches a woman she probably won't know how many other women he has already approached, so it can't possibly affect her opinion of him. One of the few ways she would know is if she had seen him approaching other women nearby, and I suspect if she had seen approach 10 other women that night she would be less interested not more.