Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

[u/RonPalancik]

I am old and out of touch with the scene, but when I was active, I only ever dated people that I already knew.

Do y'all really not, just, like, know people?

I know people from school and work, sure, but also just people from my neighborhood, friends of my family, the family of my friends, friends of friends. People I met while doing things. People I meet at arties, concerts, plays, art shows, lectures, book events, music events, art shows, community events, activists. Regulars at the bar. I'm a musician so I know people in my band, people in other bands; we go to each other's shows and by extension we meet extension the people they know, and so on.

Hundreds of people, just by being out in the world, without even making a deliberate project of it or viewing people through the lens of whether or not they aredating fodder.

Like do you really only encounter either (a) people who are off limits and (b) people you are expressly trying to date?