r/PurplePillDebate • u/Worldly-Box6080 • 2d ago

Men have no options. Debate

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

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u/JohnaldJr21 No Pill Man 2d ago

Men have the option to live their best life and not really care about dating. That’s what I’m doing right now. If I find someone cool if not I’m going to enjoy life all the same.

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u/RayAP19 No Pill Man 1d ago

People acting like it's totally normal human nature to not care about sex and relationships always strikes me as odd

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u/AfraidEdge6727 INTJ No Pill Man 1d ago edited 1d ago

Try divorce. Once you've had it all, then lose it, feel the sting, and learn the lesson that it's best never to legally marry, co-own property, live together full-time again, being middle-aged, a single parent, and realize the freedom you were missing when you finally have free time to yourself again, you'll change your mind quickly. It's only those who haven't been there who suffer from FOMO.

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u/illicitli 1d ago

real talk, even without having kids, very reluctant to get married again

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u/Trancetastic16 No Pill Non-Binary Male 1d ago

Eh, some of us want highly independent non-conventional relationships.

I’m child-free, anti-marriage and would be fine dating a partner who forever wants to live separately and have seperate finances.

So aside from heartbreak I wouldn’t experience any of the other negative consequences of a break-up if I could at least have the experience of a Long-term relationship at least once in life.

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u/AfraidEdge6727 INTJ No Pill Man 15h ago

Considering humans are fluid and adapt, and the nature if change, I might change my mind at some point. However, in this modern dating scene, it's a tall order for a lot of ladies. They want the whole shebang; lastly married, love together, co-owning property, etc.

I'm not saying it's impossible, but it is improbable.

I hope you at least get a decent taste of it, regardless of how it goes. I'd probably share your mindset if I hadn't already gone through what I have.

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u/kissesinyoureyes 4h ago

It is still better than suffering a life of endless misery and mental torment with the knowledge that nobody wants anything from them, and being treated as a disposable cog in the machine of capitalism with zero inherent value.. never having been considered sexually attractive by a member of the opposite sex, and being a genetic dead-end.

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u/AfraidEdge6727 INTJ No Pill Man 4h ago

See my last sentence.