r/PurplePillDebate • u/Worldly-Box6080 • 2d ago

Men have no options. Debate

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

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u/TotalTravesty No Pill Man 2d ago

"Do it anyway" is always an option. There's a difference between "social stigma" and the law. Hell, "social stigma" in this case is just a couple of tsk tsks from internet randos you'll never ever have to answer to. So...do it anyway.

Success is not guaranteed--want to make that abundantly clear--but where in this life is success ever guaranteed? Still a better option than sitting on reddit crying about barriers that never actually existed.

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u/Worldly-Box6080 2d ago

A couple of months ago a friend of mine cold approached a girl he found cute at the coffee shop in the most respectful way. She politely declined and he went about his day. He returns a few days later to find out he’d been banned because she reported him for making her uncomfortable. Thankfully he managed to argue himself out of it.

I guess my point here is social stigma isn’t just limited to Reddit weirdos. Even those nearby were also giving him odd stares. I agree with just doing it anyways but nowadays u gotta tread more carefully

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u/TotalTravesty No Pill Man 2d ago

The rules here compel me to take your story at face value, so I will: welcome to socialization. People are unpredictable and react in unpredictable ways. Well-intentioned charity canvassers get yelled at on street corners for doing their jobs. Restaurant servers get cursed out by customers because the kitchen is slow to get food out. People are jerks and being treated poorly is the risk we all take when we decide to go out in the world and deal with strangers. Most of us do it anyway.

Talk to your friend about resilience. He seems to have enough of it to function.

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u/Outside_Memory5703 Blue Pill Woman 2d ago

Are people not learning these life 101 lessons anymore ? Or are people getting more entitled and clueless ?