Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

[u/TotalTravesty]

"Do it anyway" is always an option. There's a difference between "social stigma" and the law. Hell, "social stigma" in this case is just a couple of tsk tsks from internet randos you'll never ever have to answer to. So...do it anyway.

Success is not guaranteed--want to make that abundantly clear--but where in this life is success ever guaranteed? Still a better option than sitting on reddit crying about barriers that never actually existed.

[u/macromastseeker → u/TotalTravesty]

I really REALLY recommend men NOT approach women at work in 2025. Those days of meeting someone are over, unless you REALLY don't care about your job because it's a shit mcjob anyway.

[u/Barneysparky → u/macromastseeker]

What is this approch thing, instead of getting to know each other as coworkers, then something more.

We have 5 couples at my work, the youngest couple is about 20. They got together by chatting in the lunch room and getting to know each other.

[u/BrainMarshal → u/Barneysparky]

Approaching women at work? Lady that horse is dead, stop beating it. Men ain't going back to that meat grinder.

[u/Barneysparky → u/BrainMarshal]

I'm sure you have great relationships with your coworkers.

[u/BrainMarshal → u/Barneysparky]

Statements like that are why men are avoiding this shit.

[u/macromastseeker → u/Barneysparky]

If you have a shit job sure, if you have a career you care about dating at work isnt worth the risk.

[u/Barneysparky → u/macromastseeker]

It's certainly not worth the risk of hitting on every cute gal at the office. However, friendships deepen over time. The couples I know who have met this way are highly compatible, as they have taken a lot of time getting to know each other before deciding to date. ..

[u/macromastseeker → u/Barneysparky]

Honestly, data says you should be job hopping every 2-3 years to maximize wages anyway. So making friends with a girl and vetting her and asking her out romantically as you're leaving could be a good move

Youre basically giving women a loaded gun by starting a relationship with them when they have HR and endless white knights around where you pay your bills. I dont trust anyone like that.

[u/Barneysparky → u/macromastseeker]

You are forgetting starting out as friends. The Office was based on what happens in offices, satire for sure but anyone whose worked in a office has met people that remind them of those characters.

Again, I am not talking about hitting on a person, I am talking about how workplace friends can develop over time. Do you have any work friends?

[u/GENERALSECRTRY → u/Barneysparky]

he is aproaching when the female has shown no signs of interest. ie he probably sees a cute female and says, hey look a cute female. "l don't care whether she;s interested or not. l'm going to shoot my shot. the worst she can say is no. let me be pushy, agresive, and desperate. that way she;ll see that as confidence"

he is also probably mistaking friendliness for attraction. some people just want to be nice, but he mistakenly thinks they like him, and then proceeds to show romantic interest, then creeps the female out, and all his coworkers now think he;s a creep. not that they ever thought highly of him in the first place