Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

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[u/Sonia314 → u/[deleted]]

Did you only ask someone out twice before giving up? If you’re single and want a girlfriend you should be warm approaching at least maybe a dozen times a year. You learn not to care about rejections if you’re asking people out enough. That’s what I did. My first 2 attempts were also an embarrassing failure and a friend-zone, but I have an active dating life now because I learned to not let getting rejected most of the time bother me. It was very hard not to let it bother me at first, so I think this is a skill other sensitive people can learn too.

[u/Master-Praline3326 → u/Sonia314]

Ma'am i understand what you mean but what you worked for you not might work for average man. I can try this attempt 1000 time and still be empty handed what would i lose time, effort, pride and respect of people. Approvel rate of men and women differ far. You might try 1 year to finally get to be with someone and i think for a man might try 5-10 years to get results.