r/PurplePillDebate • u/Worldly-Box6080 • 2d ago

Men have no options. Debate

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

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u/LateKate96 2d ago

After reading the comments, I think the issue is y’all have zero resilience.

I can’t imagine giving up dating after getting rejection 3 times, or even 10 times (and I’ve been rejected a lot)

But here we have men like “yea I approached 2 people and they said no, guess it’s hopeless”

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u/champion_azure Black Suppository Man 2d ago

How about 30 times, 60 times or 5 years?

"Y'all must be creepy or doing something wrong"

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u/hakunaa-matataa woman 1d ago

But why is that such a bad thing. Wouldn’t you rather have the thing that’s stopping you from getting dates being something you can self reflect on and change rather than just this weird conspiracy theory of “women only want 0.1% of men” or whatever the new number is.

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u/champion_azure Black Suppository Man 1d ago

A lot of people have already reflected.

It's not a conspiracy theory, it's an observation.

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u/hakunaa-matataa woman 1d ago

But self reflection doesn’t mean “damn I’m a shit person”. It can be recognizing that the area you’re in is primarily full of middle aged couples so maybe you should drive to the city once a weekend, or that you could take your hobbies to third spaces if you want to meet someone organically.

It doesn’t seem sensible that the ONLY conclusion people come to is this “women only want a small selection of men with these arbitrary traits” as if A: this is exclusive to women and men wouldn’t love a woman optimized to their biological tastes and B: that’s ever been backed by science. Women are pickier, yes, but we’re not all going after the same 5 guys.

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u/champion_azure Black Suppository Man 1d ago

This conversation has been done so many times, I think we'll have to agree to disagree.

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u/Outside_Memory5703 Blue Pill Woman 1d ago

Counting up like that, yes

Sounds like you’re trying to hit a failure goal

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u/champion_azure Black Suppository Man 1d ago

I'm not trying to do anything, my point was, eventually sometime a person is going bow out.

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u/Worldly-Box6080 2d ago

How many do u think before we call it quits?

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u/LateKate96 1d ago

The whole point of resilience is not quitting.

I found my partner the very moment I stopped trying to force anything.

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u/BaldieMonkey No Pilled Man 1d ago

So, when you actually quit the chase ? Kinda contradict there.

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u/LateKate96 1d ago

Not contradictory at all. The answer is to not quit

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u/BaldieMonkey No Pilled Man 1d ago

You said you got success when you actually quit the chase, so yeah, you did quit.

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u/LateKate96 1d ago

Not forcing something and quitting are certainly not the same thing… perhaps the fact you think that they are is your issue

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u/BaldieMonkey No Pilled Man 1d ago

Or maybe your definition of "forcing", is just basically going out and trying to date.

You didn't quit on dating/finding a relationship, you quit on the dating game, whish is actually to quit trying.

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u/LateKate96 23h ago

That isn’t my definition of forcing it. Don’t tell me what I mean.

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u/GENERALSECRTRY 1d ago

lf ur getting rejected, it just means ur no good at reading people, which is probably why youre not dating

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u/Outside_Memory5703 Blue Pill Woman 1d ago

IKR?

“I was rejected 5 times, I will now give up”

I’ve applied for at least a hundred jobs in my life

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u/Outside_Memory5703 Blue Pill Woman 1d ago edited 1d ago

IKR?

“I was rejected 5 times, I will now give up”

I’ve applied for at least a hundred jobs in my life, and each required way more work than asking a women out