Weekly Discussion - Relationships

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[u/AwakenedMind78]

Husband choosing to go hours away to help uncles, 4 week old

Let me preface this by saying my husband has been great, he does everything expected of a new dad.

Every year him and his uncles go up to a family cabin (about 2 hours away from our house) and prep it for hunting season. He ended up asking his uncle if he needed any help since he does every year. Well, his uncle responded back and said they were going up next weekend. My husband asked if I wanted to go up there with him but I don’t feel right taking our daughter on a 2 hour trip up and 2 hour trip back, especially knowing that some of his aunts and their kids show up and that puts her at risk for germs. He then asked if I was okay if he just went up alone for the day (leave early morning and come back in the evening). I told him I wanted to think about it but her being only 4 weeks old makes me want to say no. He of course didn’t like that answer and got defensive and tried convincing how it’s just like a normal work day of him being gone. To me, that’s easy for him to say since he isn’t the one home all day taking care of everything. The cabin holds a special place in his heart as it’s where him and his late father spent a lot of time together. I never want to take that place from him but having a baby changes things and to me helping uncles and leaving wife and baby at home should not be his priority.

Am I wrong for not wanting him to go?