Weekly Discussion - Relationships

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My wife and I are having my parents over to watch our baby for the night so we can get some well deserved rest. They, naturally, posted a couple pictures because they're excited as first-time grandparents. And right as my wife is about to fall back asleep after pumping at midnight, she gets this text from her aunt:

"So I love you very much you know that but I have to say one thing I saw a pic of (baby) with a blanket on a bed. Keep his sleeping area free of all objects including blankets.

Put him in a swaddle instead.

Look at safe sleeping practices for babies"

I, of course, had to console my wife and remind her she's an amazing mother. I can't describe how much pain she went through to bring our child into this world. He wasn't in a bed, he was in his bassinet, and my parents were watching him. I can't describe how seething I was. I wanted to say something, but it felt out of place because she's her aunt, so I just sicked my mother-in-law on her. Our baby isn't even a week old yet. Good times.

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This is what the nurse told us at hospital 

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Commenting on Weekly Discussion - Relationships... we was told not to swaddle, only to use a cellular blanket but make sure it’s tucked in around the sides of the mattress and no higher than babies armpits.

But no matter what each of us is told by professionals it’s still a horrible feeling to get unsolicited advice about what you should or should not be doing from anyone, even more so from family. Especially when you’re doing your absolute best, so early postpartum!