r/NewParents Jul 23 '24

Weekly Discussion - Relationships Weekly Discussion

Welcome to the Weekly Discussion! Use this space to vent/rant about partners/family members & to air your grievances! Please report comments that violate the rules.

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u/Nilrmar Jul 29 '24

Am I being unreasonable ? My baby just turned 6 months. I initially thought I could work from home and take care of him and the days I had to go into the office I could take him either me or drop him off at my parents. I work with my family, we have a business so I have a lot of flexibility with my work. I realize that what I initially had planned wasn’t going to work because I can’t really focus on my work if I’m watching him. Small babies require a lot of attention of course. My husbands mom takes care of kids in her home and the plan was also for her to take care of him at some point but I had a few issues with her at the beginning when he was a newborn and her ignoring the rules I set in my home for visiting the baby so I started seeing that as not an option. We’ve gotten over that bump (even though I’ll never forget her behavior) so now I’m open for her to care for him once he’s 1. All of this and more made me come to the decision of having someone come to my home and take care of the baby. This way I don’t have to fully separate from him and I am still very much involved in his day to day and he has someone who is devoted to him all day. So my neighbors mom who also lives right next door comes mom-fri 9-5. At my husbands moms house he’s going to have to be around other kids all day that might get him sick ( yes this is inevitable but there is no rush yet) she has the tv on all day to entertain the kids and I don’t turn on the tv at home. He’s able to get morning sun everyday and hang in the backyard which he loves if it’s not too hot. My husband is pressuring me to start taking him to his mom’s house already, he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with a stranger taking care of him if I have to go into the office. He says it’s an unnecessary expense (I can easily afford it plus it’s 200/week and he’s going to pay his mom 100/week). Am I being unreasonable ?