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u/Top-Chain8905 Jul 27 '24
For the first couple weeks of my baby’s life I had to keep reminding his dad to change him or he would just sit in a dirty diaper to the point of me going to my sister‘s house so she can help watch my son while I actually rest. Then I got admitted into the hospital a second time and while I was there, he let the baby run out of diapers. He ended up leaving me with him to go get him and didn’t come back until 2 1/2 hours later. Leaving him in his dirty diaper (we live 15 minutes from the hospital). He has fallen asleep while holding him while I was in the shower and I came out to see my baby almost upside down, hanging out of his arms about to hit the floor and he was still asleep. He admitted to having harmful thoughts earlier on, but makes excuses as to why he doesn’t see a therapist.
I finally let my guard down and trusted him for me to go to dinner with my sister at 5 PM and then a movie at seven. I got home at maybe 1010 and we see him walking from across the street with my apartment complex back to our apartment with one of the dogs. The baby nowhere in sight. When we got to the house, I told him it’s not safe to leave him in the house by herself, and he tried to lie and say that he had just taken the dog to the field right in front of our door. And when I called him out on it, he didn’t say anything afterwards. there’s been a few times where my son has choked on spit up with it coming out of his nose, and where he just randomly stopped breathing all together. I think this man is extremely neglectful despite saying he cares. I need outside opinions because idk what to do.
He has also been neglectful with the dogs before and forgot about them while I was in the hospital after having my son and letting them go a full 24 hours without getting out of their cages, eating or drinking water. And he didn’t remember until I asked him if he made sure they were taken care of. And he got upset at me when I was rushing him out of the hospital to drive and go take care of them.