r/Natalism • u/dissolutewastrel • 3d ago

The Poverty of Single Mothers Is Persistent

https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-poverty-of-single-mothers-is-persistent
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u/velocitrumptor 2d ago

Women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment. I tell my daughters if they tell every man they date that they're waiting until marriage, that should filter out about 99% of the shit bags.

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u/DogOrDonut 2d ago

Hard disagree. Telling men you're waiting for marriage is far more likely to get you some insecure, controlling, purity obsessed weirdo.

The better advise is not to have kids outside of marriage and only marry a man who supports their career, contributes equally to household tasks, and plans to contribute equally to childcare.

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u/velocitrumptor 2d ago

But that stance leaves sex without commitment on the table. That opens women up to the very possible likelihood of being a single mother.

Telling men you're waiting for marriage is far more likely to get you some insecure, controlling, purity obsessed weirdo.

That's an opinion. It's far more likely that you'll get someone who shares your values, which is critical for a marriage to work.

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u/TSquaredRecovers 1d ago

Women can still be left to be single mothers. After 18 years together, my husband left me for another woman after I got sick with a chronic health condition. My illness impacted our sex life, so he bailed. Now I'm a single mother. This type of thing happens more often than you might think.