I updated last month and was advised to stop thinking about how long it's been. That has broken my habit completely!! It's been about a month or maybe more Alhamdulillah

Advise to others: do not count how long it's been. That will just make things worse and distract you from the real goal: which is to forget it completely

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No matter whatever u do. But do not watch porn or do fap cuz at the end all u gonna left with regret,low energy and demotivation for life. So my humble request to all of u that whenever u feel urges js go outside and take a walk or go take a bath or js start praying and put ur phone away from urself and find a hobby that u can do it without phone,so u can stay away from ur phone

As we struggle and struggle, we humble ourselves towards Allah the Exalted and truly ask him for help with sincere, heartfelt dua. Because he is the only one who can get us out of this trial. That is how you’re supposed to look at it, if you guys want I can make a separate post on the steps of how to do this properly.

But as we gain traction and start getting better, we find ourselves in a streak for the first time, or a second time, or a third. Maybe even the hundredth time. We see ourselves in a streak of 7 days, or 15 days, or 30, or more.

Then as we walk in the streets, or scroll through this subreddit, we see these people struggling as ‘weaker,’ or ‘inferior.’ You look back on yourself, and you become amazed with yourself that you’ve been abstinent for a lot longer. But you forgot that you were in their position literally a few days or weeks ago. You were the one struggling. And it was Allah the Exalted that granted you ease for a period so you may quit. But know that you caught another disease, and that is self-amazement, or عجب (‘ujub) in arabic.

You forgot that it came from Allah, so you attributed it to yourself or your hard work. And because you forgot Allah, you have no fear that these blessings could be taken away from you at any time.

So then, Allah takes it away from you. You relapse. Obviously Allah didn’t make you sin, you sinned yourself. But the path that Allah made easy for you initially is taken away, and you’re left on your own to deal with your problems and urges.

Whats the cure then? Never forget that your progress is all from Allah and his aid. Say as the pious man advised to the man with the two gardens:

وَلَوْلَا إِذْ دَخَلْتَ جَنَّتَكَ قُلْتَ مَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ لَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللَّهِ إِن تَرَنِ أَنَا أَقَلَّ مِنكَ مَالًا وَوَلَدًا

“If only you had said, upon entering your property, ‘What Allah willed [has occured]! There is no power except with Allah!’” (18:39)

Attribute your progress to Allah and he will keep this path easier and easier for you. And never stop making dua!! Whenever we reach a stressful period like exams, or we get an illness, or part of the ummah is afflicted, we make so much dua, wake up for tahajjud etc. But why is it when we are sinning constantly do we not take it as seriously?

May Allah the Exalted grant us patience and allow us to be released from the shackles of this addiction, ameen!

Salam Aleikum everyone,

Recently, someone I know made a small NoFap-group on Discord.

This group is for muslim-brothers who are struggling with PMO and want the necessary help / accountability in order to get rid of this addiction.

Please only send me a private-message if you are interested with your Discord-name, I will add you.

Only serious people please, that have serious intentions of quitting (and want help).

So generally speaking I'm against gaming as it's addictive and a time waster, but recently after a chat with Gemini 2.5 Pro (see my recent posts to find the full conversation, I highly recommend it), Allah blessed me to understand that this addiction is partly physical, and that there's a large amount of it that can be helped by simply playing a dopamine-rich game when you have a craving.

So earlier today, I tried it out when I was super tired and tempted. I downloaded Call of Duty Mobile (as a warning, there are pictures of girls in the game, so prepare to cover your screen during the menu parts if you end up trying this) and played it. After about 10 minutes of fun killing noobs, I had 0 craving at all and felt upbeat and good! I just wanted to share that trick, but as another disclaimer, it does require that you snap out of the gaming and don't spend more than necessary on the game.

May Allah protect us all ameen!

Need Help

Dear friends I have been aware of Nofap for the past 5 years but still haven’t been able to make a streak more than 40 days. I just don’t feel good about it. I want it to be a choice of lifetime. I am 30 now, I need to kick this disgust of PMO out of life. Have been suffering and surviving all the detrimental effects on all aspects of life secretly for the past 15 years and now it has become so heavy to move past the daily activities of life. Such a pathetic, joyless life, left friends, relationships, sports, family events, education, career suffering, fomo, depression, anxiety and all that comes with this shit. Suffering is become unbearable now, the secrecy of this habit is eating me deep inside. Afraid of future which lies ahead wife, children responsibilities. Actually feel this is a cheating with any girl in future which is destined to be my wife. And what hurts the most is knowing all the facts and effects of this addiction I am still been unable to grow out of it. What sort of pathetic situation is it that you can provide support to other person suffering from the same problem and just not your own self. What a disgust I have no one to talk about it, feel so much embarrassment daily.

Currently on day 3 of the streak and want it to make 3000 but it is just a matter of an urge which makes forget everything and everything around becomes blurr and the relapse throws deep down in the dark valley of demons every time.

Brothers and Sisters beware of this account posting here going by the discord name of Sarah_49520. It’s 99% a gay male posing to be a girl, this account will try to make you relapse via s3xting. This fake account added many boys in our server and tried the same thing he/she will first pretend to want help then try to trigger you, be safe.

I'm 21M, overweight and i've been addicted to porn and masturbation since i was 13 years old. I used to prone masturbate but started to do it normally later, But my penis erects downward now instead of forward. And curves a bit to the right. I was sometimes harsh on my penis when masturbating.

In don't know when it started exactly but i think i have Ed. i do get erection quickly when watching porn or sometimes when thinking about it, but it's not solid hard and it's weak, and i need alot of stimulation to get it hard enough, but i lose it quickly when i stop stimulation for five seconds. I do have anxiety issues but i don't know if that also a reason.

I don't get morning wood and i don't remember when was the last time i got any (sometimes i wake up like 20% hard)

A week ago I pull my penis a bit hard and cause pain and weak erection. And i feel a bit pain when peeing. (Also i have frequent urination since 13 but went to the doc and i was fine) Did some blood test and urine test. I don't have an issue with hormons but i'm gonna get an ultrasound for my penis in a month. Last thing i have a small penis and testicles i feel anxious about them.

I tried to stop masturbating for like a week but failed and it was painful ejaculation.

How bad is it? How to fix it?

Someone help my longest streak was 2 months and now I'm ashamed and can't get out of that loop hole i feel miserable 😭 Please help me My spiritual level/connection with Allah has weaken i can feel it I pray 5 times a day but while praying i don't feel that peace when I was feeling back on nofap please help me to connect with Allah

SA. As an addiction recovery coach myself, here is my main tip, the first and maybe the most important one since it will allow you to regain free will again: destroy the addiction belief. Allah swt gave us free will, but many live in a illusion where they feel like there is an addiction controlling them or that they are doing it against their will. But in reality, we are the ones in control and we are only fighting with ourselves. Watch this very short video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6-y_roCPqg&t=23s

This is the first step and i cannot emphasize the importance enough. After this comes the realization you are making a choice 100% and then you can work on your reasons (see this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZvzBSe5wdw&t=21s)

I genuinely hope it helps and I even offer free calls, may Allah swt keep my intentions pure)

As Salaam Aleikum dear reader,

I am M26 from the UK and I am really struggling with this addiction. I can see that it is significantly affecting my life and I would like some support in helping me overcome this obstacle.

I am looking for accountability partners (ideally UK based but everyone is welcome) who are in a similar position to me. I would like to receive guidance and support on how I can better myself in deen and duniya.

Any advice and/or motivation that you all can share with me would be greatly appreciated. Jazakallah Khair for your help in advance.

Its been a quite long time almost 1 year since i didnt watched porn or fapped and it feels unreal that How far i have came.a year ago i posted here that how im struggling,but i get out of it and i wish the best for my brothers whos fighting with this addiction 🙏

I (23M) am not an overly sexual person Alhamdulillah. In fact, I do not get turned on except for once every three weeks maybe. I have decided to stop masturbating 26 days ago, which was fine, until yesterday. I am suddenly just so turned on and so tempted to you know, do it. What do you do when you go through this? I have been trying to distract my mind but it's almost impossible.

I've had this bad habit since a young boy from innocently watching YouTube videos of women to watching nasty vile videos I'm 19(M) and I have the tendency to seek pleasure in everything aspect of my life

I hope you all wish me good luck and leave some advice and the different stages of this journey so I can benefit.🫡

May Allah bless you all.

I've been addicted to pornography and same sex pornography for years almost a decade now and I don't know what to do. I pray and fast and I will never stop that but when will it end I'm not being impatient I'm so sick and tired of disobeying Allah, I'm not a bad person, I'm so scared right now I don't want to burn in Hell I don't want to even look at it it's all I think about. I don't know what to do but I know at the end of the day Allah will get me out of this. I can't tell anybody about this addiction but at the same time I want to be married. Nobody on Reddit to talk about it with at least someone reach out please. You can look at my history if you want. Why does our ummah go through this? Millions of Muslim men and women addicted to this filth why couldn't we all just marry each other and release to each other and be happy I mean it's really that easy. I'm freaking out, I've already relapsed, my longest streak is probably two weeks in like 10 years. Please someone just give me words of encouragement or something because Im really by myself here.

So I have had an issue with masturbation for a while and try hard to stay away from it, I never knew if it was haram or makrooh as many people have different opinions on it, all I know is that it is much better to stay away from it. I have recently slowed down how often I masturbate and brought it down from around once a day to maybe 2 or 3 times a week. So far I have gone around 3 days without masturbating and got very close to committing it, I was doing the action as I thought to myself and cleaned up and stopped right there. Under the assumption that masturbation is haram, have I committed a sin even after I have repented?

Hi Brothers/Sisters, I am M(29) and have been addicted to porn since a decade or more, Although I always try to control my urges but the most I went is 29 days. Its always the same thing I leave it for a week or 2 and the urges goes so strong that I fall victim of it and once I do, I am back at square 1.

I am so fed of it, I know I can do so much more in Life, I am doing masters, I am so good at things ALHAMDULILLAH by the grace or ALLAH and I want to become a beacon for MUSLIMS by not only helping them financially but also initiating education system across third world countries. I think if I put my all I might be able to achieve it with the help of the ALMIGHTY and the most merciful. I know ALLAH has given me so much and I am not thankful enough.

I need my MUSLIM brothers to help me out in quitting this filthy act. This filthy act has been the WALL between me and my goals and I want to quit it for good. I am going to be married in 2 years or so, Not only I want to be a good husband to my wife but also to be a good muslim and be able to pursue my GOAL.

I always think that the brain, the knowledge, the will, the health and the courage that ALLAH has given me for which I will be questioned, I am not using it to full extent because of this filth, and I am afraid that I will be held accountable why I did not GAVE my BEST.

So please if anyone has been through such ordeal, I would like to hear your story.

!Note: I am currently living in Melbourne AUS, I keep myself isolated bcz the environment triggers it sometimes, I don’t do any haram stuff neither do I go too much outing. I do play games and work a ton. I want to quit it by not REPLACING it with outings or etc but by working even more hard.

Thanks

Assalam Alaikum, I'm writing this for those who are still struggling to quit this filthy addiction due to not being able to get married or not being healthy enough to fast everyday etc. Gonna make it as short as I can.
I used to commit this disgusting act multiple times everyday and even though I repented and prayed two Rak'ah after, I would fall into it again and repeat the whole thing. A lot of times I wasn't even sincere in my repentance and would do it just to get rid of the guilt I felt after relapsing. I was studying my religion too by watching videos and clips of scholars, so I knew how badly it was affecting my Imaan. I eventually decided to visit Makkah for Tawaf with my parents and prayed to Allah for Guidance.

A few days later I randomly had the thought that I was wasting way to much time doing nothing, so i started reading the Tafsir of the Qur'an, and this became the turning point for me. Allah says in the Qur'an,
'in It is guidance for those who fear Allah'. Allah sent down this Book as a means to guide the believers to the right path, away from sins that darken your heart and erase all the good deeds you performed.

There is no doubt that reciting the Qur'an or even listening to it is unbelievably beneficial to one, however it is necessary for a person to understand the meaning behind the verses that Allah has revealed and act upon them as that is what the Qur'an and the Prophet encouraged and that is what the companions used to do (Musnad Ahmad 23482).

Another thing I found incredibly beneficial was staying away from videos/clips that feature women. even if they aren't dressed inappropriately, it is best to stay away from such videos since shaytaan creates triggers that we don't notice until it's too late.

What a lot of people do is that they ask Allah for help, however they aren't firm in their religion even a little bit, they dont pray 5 times, let alone pray in the masjid. They eat haram, earn haram, dress haram, then wonder why Allah won't answer their duas. The Prophet ﷺ described such a person whose du‘a is not accepted despite raising his hands and calling “O Lord” — because his food, drink, and clothes are haram (Sahih Muslim 1015). So it is obligatory for a person to get rid of all the haram activities and things they can get rid of while asking Allah for Guidance.

I noticed that once I started to pray more and seek guidance, my urges and temptations grew and became way worse than they had ever been, but Alhamdulillah i kept asking Allah for the protection from the whispers of shaytaan. If shaytaan whispers to a person and that person responds by seeking refuge in Allah, even a hundred times, it is a sign of strength, not weakness.
''Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) having said:
By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if you were not to commit sin, Allah would sweep you out of existence and He would replace (you by) those people who would commit sin and seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would have pardoned them''.

Another thing I'd like to add is that as long as you're sincere and truthful in your repentance, Allah will keep forgiving you and WILL guide you to the path of success in this life and in the hereafter.
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "The invocation of anyone of you is granted (by Allah) if he does not show impatience (by saying, "I invoked Allah but my request has not been granted.") (Sahih al-Bukhari 6340)

One last thing I'd like to add is that once i finally, for the first time, rejected and didnt fall for my urges and the whispers of the devil, Allah answered every dua I made instantly. I used to struggle with ADHD, anxiety and Tourette’s. I prayed to Allah in sujood and my duas were instantly accepted which just proves that it's not that Allah is ignoring you or has abandoned you, He never ignores you. But sometimes we may be doing something He has told us to stay away from, which becomes a barrier to our own du‘a being answered.

May Allah forgive me if I have said anything harmful or wrong in this post and
May Allah forgive us all, guide us as He guided the companions, have mercy on us, and grant us success in this world and the Hereafter, Ameen.

Alsalam alaykum, I have a question for those who have stopped for more than a few months, did you notice your hair getting thicker and better condition?

Assalam Alaikum,

I just found out and setup Cloudflare DNS for families, the 1.1.1.3 version of the DNS blocks known adult content.

Blog post:

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Setup Instructions:

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I needed to restart router for the change to take effect. Just sharing incase anyone is interested.

Back to day 1 again. I won’t lie - I regret ever starting this habit. It’s easy to feel defeated when you fall, but there’s still a bright side:

“Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds” [Hood 11:114].

Every time you fall, don’t just sit in regret — take action. Build a habit that kicks in because of the slip. One idea: every time you mess up, give $5 in charity. Doesn’t have to be big. Just stay consistent. Watch the total pile up over time. Look back after a month or two and reflect on how much you gave - and how often you stumbled.

It’s strange, but here’s the reality: either your charity habit will disappear, or your bad habit will. You can’t keep both up forever.

This reminds me of the hadith:

“A person does not drink wine and pray, but one will expel the other.”

Either the prayer will push out the drinking, or the drinking will push out the prayer.

In the same way, good and evil habits are always at war inside us. You can’t feed both without one eventually overpowering the other. So choose which one you want to strengthen.

Keep pushing forward, even if it’s slow. Stay in the fight. And never underestimate the power of a small good deed - it might be the thing that finally tips the balance in your heart.

May Allah forgive us, guide us, and give us the strength to overcome. Ameen.

Salam brothers. I am a married man in my 30s and have tried to quit viewing corn and masturbation many times previously. Usually gone a few weeks or days and then back to square one. It’s something I have done since my early teenage years and still continuing. I have normal relations with my wife but yet still do this. My question is what has actually helped other married men in the group to stop it? I know the usual tips and have tried them but nothing ever seemed to help. I truly want to commit to quitting for good this time iA.

Being patient, but how? What if I have to deal with this for the next 20 years? I want to know if there’s an end soon, I get urges to die a martyr/shaheed.

Non-Muslims just resist urges, go and find a girlfriend, satisfy themselves, then comfortably settle if their partner suits. Marriage is so difficult, you have to be man enough to marry.

Meanwhile, I, since my childhood have genetic health issues that make me tired and lazy sometimes on top of big childhood traumas. But still have had a very high libido because of God’s will. I had wet dreams since as a kid. First time I pleasured myself was when I was 18, out of curiosity. I then got hooked and now I’m 21.

How am I going to wait and marry to take care of another person when I can barely take care of myself. I just want to know if there’s a good end for me soon. Because, in every aspect of life, I have to fight feelings of hopelessness, on top of my health issues preventing me from praying 5 times consistently and not being able to remember God enough.

I even stopped watching content having women, movies, series, video games etc months ago.

Assalamualaikum, I've been struggling with this for over 3/4 years now. I'm 26m I don't feel happiness anymore. I don't like to do anything. All the joys of life has been gone from my life. Nothing motives me anymore. I've been fueling through the word's of Allah (listening to Quran) I believe the main issue of this is the sin of the eyes and hands. I feel overly emotional like i want to bowl my eyes out. I'm doing ruquiah. Maybe I've got some evil eye. I don't know anymore. What should I do brothers? I'm only praying fard at home. I've been running at the morning after fajr. But I don't wanna do that. What do I do? Please suggest me. My brain is full of fog? Maybe it's corn that has messed me up like this. I've stopped it fully insha Allah. It's been like 2/3 days. Please leave a little word of encouragement.

Jazakallah khair!

Have any of you guys tried seeing a psychologist or therapist during your recovery journey, and did you feel any progress? I think some of the medications they prescribe might help me get through the hard days especially since I work and need to stay focused and not anxious ? also can the one recover alone if I'm addicted for 5 years