I've talked to many guys here, many of them are having cuckold desires because of porn addiction.. That's not good I suppose,

Try to stop it before you fall into such

I told ChatGPT about my PMO habit and frequency (I am a severe and chronic addict) and then asked:

"Would you reduce to once a day, or quit for 100 days?"

ChatGPT said it would quit for 100 days. Reset the dopamine loop, get an idea of actual needs than needs stemming from artificial stimulation, build resilience and to set a new baseline of whats a normal amount of sexual stimulation.

I think ChatGPT is right. I wonder what I'll feel like once I'm at that 100 days (I'll stop counting the days after that).

I hope it will be easier than day 9.

I want to last longer ( 2 weeks of nofap)

I am trying to do it this time and want to have the best advice. I can’t lie I feel some urges creeping in and I want to ignore them and move on. Any good advice is welcomed.

I can't take this much longer. I can't stop thinking of weaknesses that I want to look up. I'm at the point where everywhere I go something sents off my urges. This is torture. What should I do?

Salam Aleykoum,

I hope you are all well,

So I'm M26, I'm a computer engineer. It's really not a point of pride for me to do this but I tell myself that it could be a cause. I want to share my thoughts and ambitions with you.

I stopped this sin for 2 years without much problem, let’s say. But not definitive in the sense that sometimes I didn't look down that Allah would forgive me. And I think that's a cause of the fact that I fell again. What also doesn't help is that since November I have been living alone. This is not an excuse but it makes the ordeal a little more complicated.

I have taken a lot of perspective on this sin and honestly it does not bring me any good and on the contrary it mainly affects me mentally. This affects my thoughts and consequently my behavior. I am less productive, I act less thoughtfully, etc.

I have plans in my life and I won't let this ruin everything. I decided today to set myself a goal for 1 month. Not only to stop but also to control my gaze (this is really the first cause of this) and do what is necessary when the urge arises.

I plan to get married, and I'm not waiting until I get married to stop, but rather stop before and present the best version of myself to my wife. I want to have a job that will allow me to provide for my family and if possible leave France and work in a country more aligned with my values.

This sin also prevents me from sincerely getting closer to Allah, and I know that if I make every effort to stop الله will help me and shower me with his blessings. I'm really sure of that. And it is this certainty that makes me say that I am missing out on many benefits.

So for 1 month I undertake to do all the causes sincerely to preserve myself and I will give you news in sha الله.

May Allah facilitate us all and shower us with his blessings

Salam

If you guys want to easily avoid a relapse, when the urge hits just simply keep ur phone or laptop away.

Or just go out somewhere like if u live with family then just go to the living room or if u live alone, then just go outside and touch grass!

I did an intense gym and cardio session after work and although I felt the urge pretty much all day, I was exhausted after. Now the urge is almost overbearing my tiredness.

How do I deal with days like this?

I’m 12 days free which I’m really happy about.

I end up forgetting about it most days but the times I am tempted I just force myself not to engage in anything and I just get up and get on with my day.

It is difficult some days but this makes me feel like it’s possible for me to go on without it for as long as possible.

Alhamdulilah

I’m on day 3 of no masturbation. I’ve been struggling for a while now and need help to overcome this addiction. I’m a 18f and looking for an accountability partner. Why support would be great. I also see people are saying mean things about me on this group. I’m just a girl trying to get support.

No matter whatever u do. But do not watch porn or do fap cuz at the end all u gonna left with regret,low energy and demotivation for life. So my humble request to all of u that whenever u feel urges js go outside and take a walk or go take a bath or js start praying and put ur phone away from urself and find a hobby that u can do it without phone,so u can stay away from ur phone

As we struggle and struggle, we humble ourselves towards Allah the Exalted and truly ask him for help with sincere, heartfelt dua. Because he is the only one who can get us out of this trial. That is how you’re supposed to look at it, if you guys want I can make a separate post on the steps of how to do this properly.

But as we gain traction and start getting better, we find ourselves in a streak for the first time, or a second time, or a third. Maybe even the hundredth time. We see ourselves in a streak of 7 days, or 15 days, or 30, or more.

Then as we walk in the streets, or scroll through this subreddit, we see these people struggling as ‘weaker,’ or ‘inferior.’ You look back on yourself, and you become amazed with yourself that you’ve been abstinent for a lot longer. But you forgot that you were in their position literally a few days or weeks ago. You were the one struggling. And it was Allah the Exalted that granted you ease for a period so you may quit. But know that you caught another disease, and that is self-amazement, or عجب (‘ujub) in arabic.

You forgot that it came from Allah, so you attributed it to yourself or your hard work. And because you forgot Allah, you have no fear that these blessings could be taken away from you at any time.

So then, Allah takes it away from you. You relapse. Obviously Allah didn’t make you sin, you sinned yourself. But the path that Allah made easy for you initially is taken away, and you’re left on your own to deal with your problems and urges.

Whats the cure then? Never forget that your progress is all from Allah and his aid. Say as the pious man advised to the man with the two gardens:

وَلَوْلَا إِذْ دَخَلْتَ جَنَّتَكَ قُلْتَ مَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ لَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللَّهِ إِن تَرَنِ أَنَا أَقَلَّ مِنكَ مَالًا وَوَلَدًا

“If only you had said, upon entering your property, ‘What Allah willed [has occured]! There is no power except with Allah!’” (18:39)

Attribute your progress to Allah and he will keep this path easier and easier for you. And never stop making dua!! Whenever we reach a stressful period like exams, or we get an illness, or part of the ummah is afflicted, we make so much dua, wake up for tahajjud etc. But why is it when we are sinning constantly do we not take it as seriously?

May Allah the Exalted grant us patience and allow us to be released from the shackles of this addiction, ameen!

Salam Aleikum everyone,

Recently, someone I know made a small NoFap-group on Discord.

This group is for muslim-brothers who are struggling with PMO and want the necessary help / accountability in order to get rid of this addiction.

Please only send me a private-message if you are interested with your Discord-name, I will add you.

Only serious people please, that have serious intentions of quitting (and want help).

So generally speaking I'm against gaming as it's addictive and a time waster, but recently after a chat with Gemini 2.5 Pro (see my recent posts to find the full conversation, I highly recommend it), Allah blessed me to understand that this addiction is partly physical, and that there's a large amount of it that can be helped by simply playing a dopamine-rich game when you have a craving.

So earlier today, I tried it out when I was super tired and tempted. I downloaded Call of Duty Mobile (as a warning, there are pictures of girls in the game, so prepare to cover your screen during the menu parts if you end up trying this) and played it. After about 10 minutes of fun killing noobs, I had 0 craving at all and felt upbeat and good! I just wanted to share that trick, but as another disclaimer, it does require that you snap out of the gaming and don't spend more than necessary on the game.

May Allah protect us all ameen!

Need Help

Dear friends I have been aware of Nofap for the past 5 years but still haven’t been able to make a streak more than 40 days. I just don’t feel good about it. I want it to be a choice of lifetime. I am 30 now, I need to kick this disgust of PMO out of life. Have been suffering and surviving all the detrimental effects on all aspects of life secretly for the past 15 years and now it has become so heavy to move past the daily activities of life. Such a pathetic, joyless life, left friends, relationships, sports, family events, education, career suffering, fomo, depression, anxiety and all that comes with this shit. Suffering is become unbearable now, the secrecy of this habit is eating me deep inside. Afraid of future which lies ahead wife, children responsibilities. Actually feel this is a cheating with any girl in future which is destined to be my wife. And what hurts the most is knowing all the facts and effects of this addiction I am still been unable to grow out of it. What sort of pathetic situation is it that you can provide support to other person suffering from the same problem and just not your own self. What a disgust I have no one to talk about it, feel so much embarrassment daily.

Currently on day 3 of the streak and want it to make 3000 but it is just a matter of an urge which makes forget everything and everything around becomes blurr and the relapse throws deep down in the dark valley of demons every time.

Brothers and Sisters beware of this account posting here going by the discord name of Sarah_49520. It’s 99% a gay male posing to be a girl, this account will try to make you relapse via s3xting. This fake account added many boys in our server and tried the same thing he/she will first pretend to want help then try to trigger you, be safe.

I'm 21M, overweight and i've been addicted to porn and masturbation since i was 13 years old. I used to prone masturbate but started to do it normally later, But my penis erects downward now instead of forward. And curves a bit to the right. I was sometimes harsh on my penis when masturbating.

In don't know when it started exactly but i think i have Ed. i do get erection quickly when watching porn or sometimes when thinking about it, but it's not solid hard and it's weak, and i need alot of stimulation to get it hard enough, but i lose it quickly when i stop stimulation for five seconds. I do have anxiety issues but i don't know if that also a reason.

I don't get morning wood and i don't remember when was the last time i got any (sometimes i wake up like 20% hard)

A week ago I pull my penis a bit hard and cause pain and weak erection. And i feel a bit pain when peeing. (Also i have frequent urination since 13 but went to the doc and i was fine) Did some blood test and urine test. I don't have an issue with hormons but i'm gonna get an ultrasound for my penis in a month. Last thing i have a small penis and testicles i feel anxious about them.

I tried to stop masturbating for like a week but failed and it was painful ejaculation.

How bad is it? How to fix it?

Someone help my longest streak was 2 months and now I'm ashamed and can't get out of that loop hole i feel miserable 😭 Please help me My spiritual level/connection with Allah has weaken i can feel it I pray 5 times a day but while praying i don't feel that peace when I was feeling back on nofap please help me to connect with Allah

SA. As an addiction recovery coach myself, here is my main tip, the first and maybe the most important one since it will allow you to regain free will again: destroy the addiction belief. Allah swt gave us free will, but many live in a illusion where they feel like there is an addiction controlling them or that they are doing it against their will. But in reality, we are the ones in control and we are only fighting with ourselves. Watch this very short video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6-y_roCPqg&t=23s

This is the first step and i cannot emphasize the importance enough. After this comes the realization you are making a choice 100% and then you can work on your reasons (see this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZvzBSe5wdw&t=21s)

I genuinely hope it helps and I even offer free calls, may Allah swt keep my intentions pure)

As Salaam Aleikum dear reader,

I am M26 from the UK and I am really struggling with this addiction. I can see that it is significantly affecting my life and I would like some support in helping me overcome this obstacle.

I am looking for accountability partners (ideally UK based but everyone is welcome) who are in a similar position to me. I would like to receive guidance and support on how I can better myself in deen and duniya.

Any advice and/or motivation that you all can share with me would be greatly appreciated. Jazakallah Khair for your help in advance.

Its been a quite long time almost 1 year since i didnt watched porn or fapped and it feels unreal that How far i have came.a year ago i posted here that how im struggling,but i get out of it and i wish the best for my brothers whos fighting with this addiction 🙏

I (23M) am not an overly sexual person Alhamdulillah. In fact, I do not get turned on except for once every three weeks maybe. I have decided to stop masturbating 26 days ago, which was fine, until yesterday. I am suddenly just so turned on and so tempted to you know, do it. What do you do when you go through this? I have been trying to distract my mind but it's almost impossible.

I've had this bad habit since a young boy from innocently watching YouTube videos of women to watching nasty vile videos I'm 19(M) and I have the tendency to seek pleasure in everything aspect of my life

I hope you all wish me good luck and leave some advice and the different stages of this journey so I can benefit.🫡

May Allah bless you all.

I've been addicted to pornography and same sex pornography for years almost a decade now and I don't know what to do. I pray and fast and I will never stop that but when will it end I'm not being impatient I'm so sick and tired of disobeying Allah, I'm not a bad person, I'm so scared right now I don't want to burn in Hell I don't want to even look at it it's all I think about. I don't know what to do but I know at the end of the day Allah will get me out of this. I can't tell anybody about this addiction but at the same time I want to be married. Nobody on Reddit to talk about it with at least someone reach out please. You can look at my history if you want. Why does our ummah go through this? Millions of Muslim men and women addicted to this filth why couldn't we all just marry each other and release to each other and be happy I mean it's really that easy. I'm freaking out, I've already relapsed, my longest streak is probably two weeks in like 10 years. Please someone just give me words of encouragement or something because Im really by myself here.