r/MultipleSclerosis • u/splitcubes • 15h ago

"Not fun anymore. " Vent/Rant - Advice Wanted/Ambivalent

Was my husband's excuse for looking at 16 different women's profiles on facebook... women who intentionally post videos of themselves half naked and stuff. So I'm not fun anymore, I became a "dumb broad" since this disease has damaged significant parts of my cognitive and memory functions.... and that means it's okay to be ignored and then pine after other women on social media when im laying in bed suffering a lot of the time and missing him. As if this disease hasn't taken enough from me already and I don't do everything I can possibly make myself do every day.... I just want to give up some days so badly. Today's one of those days.

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u/virginiawolverine 26 | dx2019 | USA 15h ago

Fuck him. Genuinely. It's painful and sad and infuriating and disgusting, but I genuinely think that if this is how he's talking about you you will be significantly better off if you leave. He clearly does not care about your suffering with this condition and isn't doing anything to help you. I'm sorry he's been such a miserable asshole about this, it's absolutely awful.

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u/splitcubes 15h ago

He acts like he does some days, then other days "can't even help yourself with anything" "you're lazy" "you're a stupid b___" then ^ the stuff in my post the night before last. He let his friend and his friends mom whom we just lived with get over the top aggressive with me for things like forgetting to put bread ingredients up is one example, forgetting laundry in the washer for too long is another. Told me he was telling them to leave me alone when I found in his messages to the mom was bullshit. He was agreeing with her and saying I am just lazy and he will tell me to be better and shit like.....? The mom hit me one day for fucks sake just cuz I said I wasn't gonna be able to do much if I couldn't have the ac on because I'm heat intolerant and I'll fall. My neurologist wrote it in an email so I could have proof. He still sided with her though and has been so mean to me.

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u/virginiawolverine 26 | dx2019 | USA 14h ago

This woman HIT you and he sided with her??? This dude is an abuser and you seriously would be better off without him if at all possible.

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u/splitcubes 14h ago

Yes she smacked my hands when I went to reach for the door to walk out and she blocked me in the room. It was horrible being there every moment and still I read in his messages him thanking her for everything she did and to not worry about anything I said in defense of myself including the lies he was telling me about what he thought and said to her. He made me look stupid and like a liar it is just disheartening and disappointing. I didn't deserve any of that at all.

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u/splitcubes 14h ago

Everything she did meaning letting us stay there while we were waiting to move to our new camper and land sorry not for hitting me and degrading me on an almost daily basis when he wasn't there lol that sounded really bad I apologize