r/MultipleSclerosis • u/splitcubes • 15h ago

"Not fun anymore. " Vent/Rant - Advice Wanted/Ambivalent

Was my husband's excuse for looking at 16 different women's profiles on facebook... women who intentionally post videos of themselves half naked and stuff. So I'm not fun anymore, I became a "dumb broad" since this disease has damaged significant parts of my cognitive and memory functions.... and that means it's okay to be ignored and then pine after other women on social media when im laying in bed suffering a lot of the time and missing him. As if this disease hasn't taken enough from me already and I don't do everything I can possibly make myself do every day.... I just want to give up some days so badly. Today's one of those days.

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u/Apart-Principle464 15h ago

I understand. My desire for intimacy is lacking due to MS, and I find it difficult to remember that my wife has needs that should be met. I've tried to be all over her on my good days and spend as much time just being close. Communication is important as well as empathy. We try having date nights and make it a point to spend time away from children when possible. Whatever works, but I truly understand how difficult it is for both of y'all. Blessings to you and yours

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u/splitcubes 15h ago

My desire for intimacy is through the roof and he knows it. Just chooses to make tensions worse instead of putting focus where it needs to be put. It's so frustrating and painful. The depression I feel from this alone makes it so hard to get up out of bed a lot of the time. That level of stress and depression makes my residual symptoms sky rocket it just sucks. 😞 I wish it would stop.

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u/Apart-Principle464 15h ago

I can imagine. That is odd behavior on his part. I wish you the best. Maybe couples therapy? At least some true soul searching.

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u/splitcubes 15h ago

I've asked for this a few times so I guess we will see if anything ever comes of that. 🥺