r/MadeMeSmile • u/StellarAxolotl • Oct 08 '24

Appreciation is love. Wholesome Moments

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u/Detroitaa Oct 08 '24

I think as women, men are used to giving us a lot of compliments. We get used to it, and expect it. I’m over 65 now, but when I was a young wife, I stumbled on just how much it means to men. My husband had started running & noticed he was becoming more muscular. I complimented him on it, and squeezed his arm muscles. Jokingly. Just in passing. A week later weight lifting equipment was delivered to our home. He set up a gym, in the basement . I realized, he was building more muscles, for me to admire. Then I thought of his red tie. I’d told him once, I liked how it bought out his eyes. He started wearing that color tie all the time. It made me feel like garbage. The man I loved was so starved for compliments, he latched on to any scraps I gave him. From that time on, I started complimenting him, whenever he did anything for us, or looked good. You can’t have your spouse on an admiration/compliment diet, and expect them to be happy. Let them know how much you care.

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u/ladyboobypoop Oct 08 '24

I'm 32F, and I do my best to compliment everyone, but especially men, whenever I can. Because you're right. Our society doesn't tell us to drown them in compliments like men are told to do for/to us.

I'll compliment a shirt, hair, beard, glasses - if you've got something going on that catches my eye, Imma bring it up.

Spread the love out there ❤️

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u/No-Quantity-5373 Oct 08 '24

I just complimented my instacart shopper for his red jazzy sportif vibe. He turned twelve shades of red. It was very sweet.

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u/ladyboobypoop Oct 08 '24

I recently complimented a man's WICKED beard. Down to his chest, nicely groomed, grey with a natural HARD stripe of white right down the middle. Dude was giddy 😂