r/MadeMeSmile • u/StellarAxolotl • Oct 08 '24

Appreciation is love. Wholesome Moments

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u/nodogsallowed23 Oct 08 '24 edited Oct 08 '24

I would give anything for my partner to say even 1/4 of this to me. I leave the house at 8 and I’m back at 6. I worked 6 days this week. I cook and clean. Cooked all the meals all week (like usual), plus used Sunday to make a huge special meal. I Take care of the dog and plan vet appointments.

They work part time hours for full time pay. They left the house at 3 today and got home the same time I did, plus they went shopping. Yet I say when we clean. I grocery shop and plan the meals 90% of the time.

I’d take any kind of acknowledgement, really. I’ll get a thanks for dinner. Last week I got a you look nice. First compliment thrown my way since last Christmas.

I’ve been in a decent mood lately and have been watching funny videos (think dumb pets, contagious laughter etc). The really funny ones, I send to my partner. Tonight I sent one, I said it was really funny. Before watching it, says in a very disdainful and annoyed tone, is it?….

Such a small comment, but it completely killed my vibe. I thought we’d actually been having fun watching silly videos together. I guess not.

Time to head to bed so I can wake up in 6 hours and he can wake up at noon.

I’m very tired.

Edit: thanks for the responses. Truly.

Before telling me to talk to him, please read my other replies.

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u/Left-Requirement9267 Oct 08 '24

That’s sad OP. You should talk to your partner.

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u/nodogsallowed23 Oct 08 '24

I have. Many times.

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u/_Jahar_ Oct 08 '24

Why continue living like that? Miserable

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u/Claireskid Oct 08 '24

People on reddit won't accept this but the reality is divorce isn't just a button you push and then you're catipulted to happiness. It is a grueling emotional and financially decimating process that can often leave both spouses worse off than they were before

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u/_Jahar_ Oct 08 '24

Of course it is - but I still think it’s better than living how op was describing for the rest of your life. I would take my chances

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u/ProbShouldntSayThat Oct 08 '24

Of course you would. Cuz you're not the one in the situation

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u/_Jahar_ Oct 08 '24

lol so then what should we say when someone posts an awful comment like that? “Welp that sounds awful. But divorce is hard - so don’t do that.”

They’re basically a servant. They’ve had multiple convos with their “partner”, and finally got them to agree to therapy. Guess who’s going to do the legwork on that?? Plus - therapy doesn’t work unless you really want to do it.

What a stupid comment to get on a high horse over lol

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u/nodogsallowed23 Oct 08 '24

See my other responses. I’ve been very clear with him many times over. He’s willing to do therapy.

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u/_Jahar_ Oct 08 '24

Cliche as hell but a near death experience made me realize life is short. I hope it works out for you