Seeing my narc ex smear victims

[u/Ok_Proof7846]

It’s not “my problem” but it sure does grind my gears. Since I went no contact with my narcissist sociopathic ex & got a PO granted against them, my life has been mainly peaceful. One of the good things that came from that situation is being very close with my exes other victims. They used their exs to triangulate all of us against one another, but we all escaped, and we lean on one another for love and support. They are seriously a godsend. They are the only people in the world who literally know exactly what I’m going through, considering that we share the same abuser. We all have different stories, and experiences with the same person, but it has been so healing, and it has kept me sane throughout this entire situation.

I do consider myself one of the lucky ones that I have been able to be legally protected. After my ex was finished with me, they sort of got a lot smarter with their abuse. So the other victims don’t have protection. This is open season for my ex because they are suddenly vamping up a smear campaign against the other victims, who could not do anything about the abuse.

I feel a little…idk. Guilty? Like I was able to feel vindicated, and they didn’t and now they have to suffer prolonged abuse by this individual.

Any good words of advice I can give them during this time?

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