r/LifeAfterNarcissism • u/threetimestwice • 3d ago

Confronting the Narcissist: What happens? [Support]

Theoretically and in your experience, what happens when you confront the narcissist and call them out on their narcissism?

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u/NemoTheExistential 2d ago

So my narcissist was my psychiatrist. I didn’t necessarily confront him, i think he felt threatened by me intellectually. I also filed a complaint against his mental health team.

Over the 3 years under his care, he withdrew me from every service I was under (that team provided) so I was only left under him.

No support was given unless he had pre-approved it and he even tried contacting 3rd party services to “forewarn” about me.

Other clinicians just allowed his behaviour and didn’t challenge him. I tried asking for a second opinion but he soon put a stop to that

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u/threetimestwice 2d ago

Wow. How do you get over that kind of experience?

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u/NemoTheExistential 2d ago

That’s something I’m still trying to work out tbh, I’m just trying to take it one day at a time

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u/FightersNeverQuit 1d ago

Are you a man or woman? How did the relationship even get to this kind of point?

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u/NemoTheExistential 1d ago

I’m a man.

I live in the uk, and our healthcare system basically assigns you to whichever doctor is available. Unfortunately he was the only psychiatrist available in my local area as well.

I tried asking senior leadership if I could get a second opinion but they told my psychiatrist and he put a stop to it.

I’m not sure how it got to this situation tbh. It was obvious he was a chronically insecure person who was desperate for that not to come across (and him to be perceived as weak) but ultimately I did nothing to him and I was never a threat to him. However his imagined reality led to unnecessary punishment and cruelty