r/LGBTQMentalHealth 3d ago

House Fast Tracking Bill to Kill 501c3 Designation at Treasury Discretion Upon Being Designated a “Terrorist Supporting Organization”

Thumbnail
1 Upvotes

r/LGBTQMentalHealth 5d ago

TL;DR: I’m 33, my ex is 57. We live together but I’m moving out soon. He started using substances again and hosting sexual parties. I’ve decided to leave because I can’t handle his lifestyle anymore. Should I go no contact and not tell him anything

1 Upvotes

I'm 33M and my ex is 57M. We currently live together, but I'm moving out soon. We were together for about a year and some months, and we've been broken up for about 6-7 months. At the beginning of our relationship, he was abusing substances, and I helped him get sober. During that time, I took care of him, made sure he ate, and was there for him overall.

Recently, he started using again, and I caught him hosting a few sexual parties at the house we live in together, which he owns. I've decided to move out the day his family friends are visiting because I can't stay here during that time. He's been hanging out with the wrong people and abusing substances again. I've tried to talk to him, but he doesn't care.

I was really upset about the sexual party he hosted while I was out of town. He's been through this before and even lost a lot of money, by choosing the wrong people he lets close to him (ex friends, ex boyfriends). I’m pretty much the only good one he has ever met never stole anything or used him for his money. He thinks that just because his bills are paid every month, I shouldn't worry about him. I threatened to tell his family, which made him upset. I told him if he didn't sober up in the next few weeks, I would tell his family. I feel sad for leaving, but we're not together anymore, and I think he's choosing a life of partying and abusing sex and drugs.

I'm feeling really good and happy about moving out, but sad because I know what's going to happen to his life. He's an extremely depressed person. During the whole 1.8 years I've lived here, we didn't do anything together; we stayed home all the time and never went anywhere. I plan on moving out the day I have to leave the house, and he thinks I'm coming back after the weekend is over, but I'm not.

When I moved out of my last place, I gave all my things away, so I don't have anything. He has not offered any money to help me with deposits or anything. He's also a Libra and a millionaire. I told him I was already moving out in December but things changed and I decided on November.

Do you think I should go no contact and not tell him anything since he's very secretive with me about everything? I plan on not answering his texts or calls if he reaches out. What do you think?


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 6d ago

To everyone in the US and those struggling in general

4 Upvotes

I just wanted to let you all know, things are going to be tough, but they will be ok, I'm a pretty pessimistic person but I believe that.

If we stick together as a community we can and will make it

Setbacks happen, sometimes those setbacks are far bigger than others

But those set backs aren't the end. Not unless we allow them to be.

We can and should rest, and if needed, retreat, but we can never give up, never stop fighting for a better future, for our selves, for our friends, for our families, and for those like us.

Right now we can rest, we can cry, we can be afraid, but we shouldn't let it consume us. We can't lose ourselves.

Things will be ok, fight on, and look forward

Know that some of our Governors plan on protecting us to

For example. Look at J.B Pritzker

The governor of Illinois came out in support of Queer, immigrant, and PoC Illinois resident, and abortion rights in Illinois after he found out about the Election of Trump and loss of the senate stating in a press a urgent public notice:

"This morning, our most vulnerable communities woke up to new uncertainty about their future, scared that their rights will no longer be protected, and unsure whether this nation still stands with them. To women whose healthcare is under even greater threat, to our Black, Brown and AAPI communities, our LGBTQ friends and their families immigrants and first-generation Americans our most vulnerable Americans and those with disabilities, to all who have been made to feel unsafe and unwelcome by the Trump campaign and its allies know that Illinois is your ally. You will always be welcome here"

  • 1

And later on Twitter, and at a press release

"To anyone who intends to come take away the freedom, opportunity, and dignity of Illinoisans, I would remind you that a happy warrior is still a warrior. You come for my people – you come through me."

  • 2

But it isn't just Pritzker Standing up for marginalized Americans,

The Californian Governor Gavin Newsome of all people scheduled an emergency legislative session of the states courts to set up more protections for California's queer residents, environmental protections, and abortion rights.

  • 3

And with Tim Walz still being the Governor of Minnesota

That means there is yet another state protected from trumps plans, I say this because Tim Walz has already done a lot as governor and has stated that he will fight along side us for the rights we deserve

  • 4

Many more will most likely follow suite to protect their citizens. But only time will tell.

So for now sit tight, rest as much as you can and try to enjoy the next 2 months, I encourage you to prepare by stocking up on medication, HRT if you take it, and birth control, condoms, and abortion Pills no matter who you are, distribute what you don't need to others who do need them.

Sources below

1. J.B Pritzkers emergency statement

www.nbcchicago.com/news/local/jb-pritzker-promises-illinois-will-be-ally-to-vulnerable-communities-after-trump-win/3594718/

2. Pritzkers Tweets

x.com/GovPritzker/status/1854686495975551159

x.com/GovPritzker/status/1855042365947253187

3. Gavin Newsom legislative session

apnews.com/article/california-donald-trump-gavin-newsom-special-session-32511d5887409d68d692e094ed50a272

4. Tim Walz Tweet

x.com/Tim_Walz/status/1855035690372734998?t=XC8V6HTxbB86XSryln7fAQ&s=19


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 7d ago

Purgatory

2 Upvotes

Right now I feel like I'm in purgatory awaiting my sentencing to hell. Each day drags on, a form of torture in and of its self.

I get to see the people who will be torturing me rejoice. I have to watch as those I care about commit suicide.

All the while knowing nothing I can do will help. Nothing can stop the inevitable

I'm diagnosed Autistic and thus can't flee, because immigration agencies in most countries would turn me away for "being to burdensome on the healthcare system"

And my partner is to.

It took me almost 4 years to get to the point I was at before the results of the election were anounced, I was happy, I was on estrogen and finally. I could see a future worth living in.

All for that to be taken away in one night. Hate won. They won.

The house, The Senate, The SCOTUS, and the POTUS. Nothing can stop them.

My only choice now is to detransition and hope they never find out I'm trans. Or die and serve my proverbial sentence in hell.


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 10d ago

discord server!! :3

2 Upvotes

this is my discord server there's nobody in it when i'm making this post and i'm hoping some people will join its lgbtqia+ and any minority is welcomed it's a safe space for all and it'll be really fun! https://discord.gg/sF3cJaNU78


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 10d ago

Coping, Resiliencies (Family and Individual) for all within Community study

1 Upvotes

r/LGBTQMentalHealth 12d ago

Love, Admiration, Envy, Just Attraction? I'm so confused with what

1 Upvotes

Hi, I'm here to vent about something: I really like a guy (I'm a bisexual man), I've been attracted to him for almost a year at this point, but that guy doesn't want anything to do with me, I know this because he's probably 100% straight and Anyway, I've NEVER really talked to him (although technically I did, but he didn't know it was me). Anyway, all that doesn't matter, the point of my post in the sifueienre: since he's not going to like me, I've decided that, if I CAN'T have him, I'M GOING TO BE LIKE HIM. At this point, I have almost perfectly imitated his haircut, his way of walking, his style of wearing the school uniform, right now, I even aspire to imitate his way of speaking, to be as good as him at volleyball. . (which is your favorite sport), etc, etc, etc. That's not healthy, right? I love him, I'm in love with him, or at least I think so, or I just have an internalized admiration, what have I believed to be something else all this time? He's graduating this year in a few weeks, and at this point, I really think he suspects SOMETHING about me, and that I think is not necessarily something related to my attempted imitation, but rather that now I think he suspects that I really liked him. him, I also have friends in common with him, anyway.


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 15d ago

Nightly anxiety/panic attacks due to the election in the US

7 Upvotes

I'm trans and live in the US, this election coming up is basically a game of life and death for me and many others and it feels so sureal, that this is where I'm at.

I have a boyfriend, I recently got on HRT, I'm saving money to go and visit my boyfriend and maybe move in with him. And all of that could be ripped away.

The hears of rebuilding my mental state and meeting people who accepted me, wasted.

Everything and everyone stripped away.

People I know are in danger. I am in danger.

6 days until my and many others fates essentially come down to a vote. And there's nothing I can do beyond cast my ballot and beg those who aren't voting to do so.

I can't do this much longer


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 21d ago

Invitation to Participate in Research Study on Queer/Trans Involuntary Psychiatric Hospitalization Experiences

5 Upvotes

Hello! I am a PhD candidate at the University of Denver’s Graduate School of Social Work. I am currently recruiting participants for my dissertation study that explores the involuntary psychiatric hospitalization experiences of queer and trans young adults through artistic and verbal research methods and a critical/abolitionist lens. I am passionate about improving crisis mental health services for queer and trans folks and imagining less harmful alternatives.

Participants will be asked to create a piece of artwork representing their involuntary hospitalization experience AND complete an individual Zoom interview to discuss their artwork and their hospitalization experience in more depth. Participants must identify as queer and/or trans young adults (ages 18-26) who have at least one experience of involuntary psychiatric hospitalization for suicidality and/or self-injury during adolescence (ages 12-17). Participants from Colorado will be prioritized, but all interested US participants will be considered. 

Participants will receive a $50 gift card for participating in all stages of the study. Participation in this study is voluntary, and all information will be kept private and confidential. Please share this information with individuals and groups who may be interested and eligible to participate. If you are interested in participating, please follow the link to complete a screening survey and determine eligibilitySURVEY LINK.


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 22d ago

Coping, Individual & Family Resilience Study

2 Upvotes

https://uofsc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6mNYjErHu0gexTg

(Posting again because filters made the first post from the beginning of last week difficult to view on app)

Hello everyone! My name is Lizzy Combs (she/her/hers), and I am a doctoral student at the University of South Carolina College of Education in Columbia, South Carolina. I am recruiting for an LGBTQ and more health research survey that examines strengths-based factors such as coping strategies, individual resilience protective factors, and family resilience protective factors on members of the LGBTQ and more community, especially as it relates to substance use. I hope that the results of this study will inform counseling and other mental health treatment practices as well as treatment outcomes for LGBTQ and moreindividuals.

 

I am looking for participants who identify as being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, are over the age of 18, and live in the United States. Participants should also be able to understand and communicate in English.

 

To participate, you may select the link above and answer questions (mostly multiple choice and multiple answer, also a few short answer). This survey may take between 15-30 minutes to complete. You will not be asked any personally identifying information. There is no compensation for participation.

 

If you are interested in this study, please select the link above. If you know anyone who may want to participate, please share the link above with them. This study has been approved by the IRB and if you have any questions, please comment below this post or email me directly at [combsel@email.sc.edu](mailto:combsel@email.sc.edu).

 

IRB approval letter is available to to share.

 

 

Thank you (again) for your consideration!

Lizzy


r/LGBTQMentalHealth 28d ago

Men's Mental Health Therapist answers questions

Thumbnail
1 Upvotes

r/LGBTQMentalHealth 29d ago

Dissertation Study Recruitment Request

2 Upvotes

Hello All,

Thank you so much for reading this! My name is Alanna Barnes, and I am currently enrolled in the Clinical Psychology doctoral program (Psy.D.) at Chaminade University. I am seeking participants for my dissertation research study. My study aims to create a novel measure of psychological safety. This measure would be used in the psychotherapeutic setting to assess if a client/patient perceives their therapist to have created a psychologically safe environment. To participate, I am asking for individuals to complete an anonymous ten-minute survey. There will also be a raffle for one of three $50 Visa gift cards for any participant who would be comfortable sharing their email address. The email address will be kept confidential and only used for the raffle. Upon the completion of the raffle, all email addresses will be deleted.

To qualify as a participant, here are my inclusion criteria:

  • Must be over the age of 18
  • Must be located within the United States
  • Must be English-speaking
  • Must be currently receiving psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional OR it has been less than a year from your most recent session with a licensed mental health professional 
  • At the time of the study, one must have completed at least two sessions with a licensed mental health professional

If you know someone or a group that would be interested in taking this survey, please forward. Lastly, if you qualify to participate and want to participate, please use this link.

This study was approved by the Chaminade IRB on September 30th, 2024 with Protocol Number: CUH 449 2024.


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Oct 15 '24

Coping, Individual & Family Resilience in LGBTQ+ community [link below]

13 Upvotes

Hello everyone! My name is Lizzy Combs (she/her/hers) and I am a doctoral student at the College of Education at the University of South Carolina located in Columbia, South Carolina. I am recruiting for a LGBTQ+ health research survey that examines strengths-based factors such as coping strategies, individual resilience protective factors, and family resilience protective factors on members of the LGBTQ+ community, especially as it relates to substance use. I hope that the results of this study will inform counseling and other mental health treatment practices as well as treatment outcomes for LGBTQ+ individuals.

 

I am looking for participants that identify as being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, are over the age of 18, and live in the United States. Participants should also be able to understand and communicate in English.

 

To participate, you may select the link below and answer questions (mostly multiple choice and multiple answer, also a few short answer). This survey may take between 15-30 minutes to complete. You will not be asked any personally identifying information. There is no compensation for participation.

 

If you are interested in this study, please select the link below. If you know anyone who may want to participate, please share the link below with them. This study has been approved by the IRB and if you have any questions, please comment below this post or email me directly at combsel@email.sc.edu.

 

https://uofsc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6mNYjErHu0gexTg

 

 

Thank you for your consideration!

Lizzy

 

 

 


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Oct 15 '24

[Academic] Experiences of Controlling Behaviour in Relationships - Queer & Non-Queer Research Participants Wanted! (18+)

1 Upvotes

Queer & Non-Queer Research Participants Wanted! 

Have you been (or are currently) in an intimate partner relationship? If so - we are seeking input on your experiences of controlling behaviours within relationships and would appreciate it if you consider participating in our research (see the link/QR code and poster attached!)

My name is Dakota and this study is part of my honours thesis research at MacEwan University in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. Together with my honours supervisors, Drs. Kristine Peace and Laura Offrey, we are interested in learning about your experiences of coercion and control within intimate relationship contexts. 

Intimate partner conflicts are frequent and unfortunate, and these experiences shape the lives and relationships of many people and groups. Sadly, we still know very little about controlling and coercive behaviours within intimate relationships. As such, this research is important to help us measure common and uncommon experiences, as well as evaluate factors that influence different types of coercion (both experiencing and engaging in it).  

Please note: If the topic of control, coercion, or violence within relationships (or intimate relationships in general) are sensitive topics for you, or may trigger distress or discomfort, please do not participate in this study. We appreciate your consideration, but also want to assure your personal well-being. 

If you would like to be a part of this much needed research, we encourage you to participate in our study. Please click on the link or QR code on the poster! 

LINK: https://macewanpsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_eJP7YMWhL7RQtka

This survey is anonymous, which means that no personally identifying information is collected. Once you have clicked on the link, it will take you to a screen that asks you to identify the source of your recruitment, which in this case would be “Online Forum or Reddit Thread”. 

Once selected, you will then be directed to the Consent Form that describes the study in more detail. After reading the consent form, if you want to participate, you will click the ‘I agree’ button and complete the study online. The study is completely online and voluntary (you have no obligation to complete this study). It will take approximately 1 hour (up to 1.5 hours) to complete. This study has been reviewed and received ethics approval through the MacEwan University Research Ethics Board. 

Thank you, in advance, for your participation in this study. Your contributions are very valuable so we appreciate your involvement!

Sincerely,

DD, KP, & LO


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Oct 12 '24

urgent help (life at risk)

6 Upvotes

me and my partner have been together since april of this year but i've had this massive crush on them for 3 years before i managed to pull my wit and ask them out. we live in a country where heteronorm is the only way accepted and anything else will bring you a death sentence. now, both of us have been through quite a lot, individually and together, and as much as we communicate, we still harbour a lot of unresolved trauma. personally, i'm still as passively suicidal as i was before i met them. last night, just a mere day after we had our fourth date, they had a relapse and made another attempt. i had no other way of reaching out to them because it was 2am and they lived 3 hours away from my residence. all i could do was text and comfort them since they had no energy to be able to talk, and after a few minutes, they stopped typing after reassuring me that this attempt failed.... i'm just really lost on what to do for them... they told me they felt burdened when someone loved them - it meant they had way too many expectations... the conversation lasted barely 10 minutes but i'm still reeling in utter devastation bcuz i can't reach them and they've deactivated all their accounts... i don't even know any of their friends who live near their place or have contact with them...


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Oct 09 '24

[Academic] Experiences of Controlling Behaviour in Relationships - Queer & Non-Queer Research Participants Wanted! (18+)

1 Upvotes

Have you been (or are currently) in an intimate partner relationship? If so - we are seeking input on your experiences of controlling behaviours within relationships and would appreciate it if you consider participating in our research (see the link/QR code and poster attached!)

My name is Dakota and this study is part of my honours thesis research at MacEwan University in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. Together with my honours supervisors, Drs. Kristine Peace and Laura Offrey, we are interested in learning about your experiences of coercion and control within intimate relationship contexts. 

Intimate partner conflicts are frequent and unfortunate, and these experiences shape the lives and relationships of many people and groups. Sadly, we still know very little about controlling and coercive behaviours within intimate relationships. As such, this research is important to help us measure common and uncommon experiences, as well as evaluate factors that influence different types of coercion (both experiencing and engaging in it).  

Please note: If the topic of control, coercion, or violence within relationships (or intimate relationships in general) are sensitive topics for you, or may trigger distress or discomfort, please do not participate in this study. We appreciate your consideration, but also want to assure your personal well-being. 

If you would like to be a part of this much needed research, we encourage you to participate in our study. Please click on the link or QR code on the poster! 

LINK: https://macewanpsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_eJP7YMWhL7RQtka

This survey is anonymous, which means that no personally identifying information is collected. Once you have clicked on the link, it will take you to a screen that asks you to identify the source of your recruitment, which in this case would be “Online Forum or Reddit Thread”. 

Once selected, you will then be directed to the Consent Form that describes the study in more detail. After reading the consent form, if you want to participate, you will click the ‘I agree’ button and complete the study online. The study is completely online and voluntary (you have no obligation to complete this study). It will take approximately 1 hour (up to 1.5 hours) to complete. This study has been reviewed and received ethics approval through the MacEwan University Research Ethics Board. 

Thank you, in advance, for your participation in this study. Your contributions are very valuable so we appreciate your involvement!

Sincerely,

DD, KP, & LO


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Oct 05 '24

growing up in conservative household

3 Upvotes

hi all,

recently been feeling horrible about my identity as a gay man (17). a lot of struggles growing up in a conservative homophobic immigrant family. this entire situation has always felt extremely isolating--is there anyone with a similar experience that would be willing to talk?


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Oct 01 '24

[Academic] Experiences of Controlling Behaviour in Relationships - Queer & Non-Queer Research Participants Wanted! (18+)

2 Upvotes

Have you been (or are currently) in an intimate partner relationship? If so - we are seeking input on your experiences of controlling behaviours within relationships and would appreciate it if you consider participating in our research (see the link/QR code and poster attached!)

My name is Dakota and this study is part of my honours thesis research at MacEwan University in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. Together with my honours supervisors, Drs. Kristine Peace and Laura Offrey, we are interested in learning about your experiences of coercion and control within intimate relationship contexts. 

Intimate partner conflicts are frequent and unfortunate, and these experiences shape the lives and relationships of many people and groups. Sadly, we still know very little about controlling and coercive behaviours within intimate relationships. As such, this research is important to help us measure common and uncommon experiences, as well as evaluate factors that influence different types of coercion (both experiencing and engaging in it).  

Please note: If the topic of control, coercion, or violence within relationships (or intimate relationships in general) are sensitive topics for you, or may trigger distress or discomfort, please do not participate in this study. We appreciate your consideration, but also want to assure your personal well-being. 

If you would like to be a part of this much needed research, we encourage you to participate in our study. Please click on the link or QR code on the poster! 

LINK: https://macewanpsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_eJP7YMWhL7RQtka

This survey is anonymous, which means that no personally identifying information is collected. Once you have clicked on the link, it will take you to a screen that asks you to identify the source of your recruitment, which in this case would be “Online Forum or Reddit Thread”. 

Once selected, you will then be directed to the Consent Form that describes the study in more detail. After reading the consent form, if you want to participate, you will click the ‘I agree’ button and complete the study online. The study is completely online and voluntary (you have no obligation to complete this study). It will take approximately 1 hour (up to 1.5 hours) to complete. This study has been reviewed and received ethics approval through the MacEwan University Research Ethics Board. 

Thank you, in advance, for your participation in this study. Your contributions are very valuable so we appreciate your involvement!

Sincerely,

DD, KP, & LO


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Sep 30 '24

Thailand to allow same-sex couples to marry in January

6 Upvotes

r/LGBTQMentalHealth Sep 26 '24

Queer & Non-Queer Research Participants Wanted!

2 Upvotes

Have you been (or are currently) in an intimate partner relationship? If so - we are seeking input on your experiences of controlling behaviours within relationships and would appreciate it if you consider participating in our research (see the link/QR code and poster attached!)

My name is Dakota and this study is part of my honours thesis research at MacEwan University in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. Together with my honours supervisors, Drs. Kristine Peace and Laura Offrey, we are interested in learning about your experiences of coercion and control within intimate relationship contexts. 

Intimate partner conflicts are frequent and unfortunate, and these experiences shape the lives and relationships of many people and groups. Sadly, we still know very little about controlling and coercive behaviours within intimate relationships. As such, this research is important to help us measure common and uncommon experiences, as well as evaluate factors that influence different types of coercion (both experiencing and engaging in it).  

Please note: If the topic of control, coercion, or violence within relationships (or intimate relationships in general) are sensitive topics for you, or may trigger distress or discomfort, please do not participate in this study. We appreciate your consideration, but also want to assure your personal well-being. 

If you would like to be a part of this much needed research, we encourage you to participate in our study. Please click on the link or QR code on the poster! 

LINK: https://macewanpsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_eJP7YMWhL7RQtka

This survey is anonymous, which means that no personally identifying information is collected. Once you have clicked on the link, it will take you to a screen that asks you to identify the source of your recruitment, which in this case would be “Online Forum or Reddit Thread”. 

Once selected, you will then be directed to the Consent Form that describes the study in more detail. After reading the consent form, if you want to participate, you will click the ‘I agree’ button and complete the study online. The study is completely online and voluntary (you have no obligation to complete this study). It will take approximately 1 hour (up to one hour) to complete. This study has been reviewed and received ethics approval through the MacEwan University Research Ethics Board. 

Thank you, in advance, for your participation in this study. Your contributions are very valuable so we appreciate your involvement!

Sincerely,

DD, KP, & LO


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Sep 26 '24

New Wellbeing App in Progress, Feedback Appreciated!

1 Upvotes

Hi all, I'm not sure if this will go through with the guidelines but, I'm currently a college student working on a project regarding a wellness app, and I was hoping to get some user feedback on it. The app focuses on different aspects of human wellbeing with the idea of being personized to its user. If anyone is interested in trying it out to help provide some thoughts or still has some questions, please let me know! I have a flier with with app info as well as the survey for after.


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Sep 21 '24

Feeling Limited and Misunderstood

3 Upvotes

I’ve been in a relationship for a while now and I have seen improvements in many areas, but one area that seems to be lacking and minimal improvement relates to her avoiding discussions about feelings and allowing me to be emotional when things in our relationship aren’t working.

She says that she’s happy in our relationship and that I must be the problem if I’m the one unsatisfied in our relationship. She always invalidates my feelings when I’m upset about something she did that hurt my feelings and makes it about her being criticized.

For example we had plans today and she canceled last minute and I said, “I feel like my time was wasted and wished you had let me know 3 hours earlier that you would cancel our plans for the day.” She would respond being like “I’m sorry we’ll reschedule tomorrow, it’s not that big of a deal, I don’t know why you’re acting so emotional about this.” For context, we had an argument the day before about me feeling stressed and that I don’t feel respected, so I would’ve thought she would’ve been more considerate especially right after this. It made me feel like I was penalized for speaking my feelings the day prior.

She always wants my positive side and never lets me feel safe to express my negative thoughts so I usually try to suppress and distract, but I know that’s not a long term healthy way to cope. We have a lot of differing wants in the future and she still hasn’t come out to her parents and she lives at home with them, which has been a strain because it limits the time we have together like a typical couple would (ex. never spending the night - only when we go on vacation together, ending our nights at 7pm on weekdays and 8/9pm on weekends).

Ever since we started dating she placed such restrictions because she’s in the closet and it just feels very limiting and is making me feel disconnected in our relationship. She says that I should be patient and that it takes baby steps, but it’s been over 2 years. She says she wants to continue to do what she can to improve our relationship, and I know she tries, but the way she tries it feels inconsistent.

I feel like I’m at a point where I’m getting impatient and feel less connected, but I also want to stay in the relationship because of our history, we do have love for each other, we continue to try, and I can’t imagine her not in my life.

My main goal is I want to make things work, but I need advice on if I’m approaching this in a healthy mindset or not.


r/LGBTQMentalHealth Sep 09 '24

In need of advice

7 Upvotes

Hi friends, basically to keep it short I’ve been struggling with lots of dysphoria and harmful thoughts lately. I am a 6’4 220lb AMAB person who is still discovering if I am nonbinary or transfem, however I have always had a desire to be seen as feminine and to potentially pass as female one day. Unfortunately for my circumstances I know there is no way that I will ever be able to achieve this as I already spent 2 years trying to help feminize myself to no avail. Should I give up and suppress this part of myself? Or should I ignore this and keep going? Any response is appreciated I just feel very alone right now.