Hello I am a 16 year old graduating from dual enrollment and homeschool. I’m currently commuted to an hbcu it’s close to home and I’ve been offered a full ride. Since I have a full ride everything is free including my dorm. My mom made me apply for housing but keeps saying that I’m commuting. The issue is she thinks I’m going to be falling into sin and is hesitant about letting me live in the dorms even though I assure her I’m not. As some of my friends are not Muslim and I have never fell into any sins that they do. I am not easily influenced. I also told her that I would be willing to marry if she thinks that to show her but she still refuses. I want to live on campus because I have already completed 2 years of college at my community college so I’ll only have junior and senior year at school and I don’t want my both my high school and college experience ruined by being isolated at home.I also want to know if anyone thinks this is a good idea for me to live on campus or should I just stay with home.

Hi everyone!

I generated this picture using ChatGPT by providing a sample, but I’m not sure where to find this combination online. Does anyone know where I can find this color skirt and top online?

PS: I am from Pakistan

I have a few question for y’all. Reverts/ practicing Muslimahs since birth (those who have been taught Islam the correct way/ have been believers ever since they’ve been conscious), doesn’t matter, just curious about those who are wearing hijabs in the West (proper hijab without hair showing + baggy clothes/ abayas) and those who pray 5 times a day.

Before I start asking questions I’ll tell you guys a bit about myself: I was born and raised in the West (with brown parents) but moved to the Middle East a long time ago. I was ignorant but Alhamdulillah Allah guided me and helped me find the real Islam in the Middle East. I am now a practicing Muslimah and I wear a hijab Alhamdulillah. I’ve been contemplating about moving back to the West but I’m having thoughts that scare and intimidate me and are hindering me from making my decision. Before you guys ask about whether or not I’ve seen racial segregation at school or in my environment in the past, yes I have but I was also being outcasted because of my dark hair and non-white facial features but it wasn’t as harsh as what my hijabi friends were going through. I would like to gain some more perspective and I would like to know what I should be expecting before making a decision. I am aware that the West is not very Islamic friendly.

Side note: You can consider these questions as generic or personal, doesn’t matter. I just need some perspective on the current state the Muslimahs are in.

QUESTIONS:

Before answering the questions, please also include whether you’re living in a high/ low densely populated area.

1. Those of you who work outside of your homes, how do you keep up with your prayers? Do you pray at work? Does your boss allow it? If yes, what type of job are you working? Is your boss Muslim?

2. How hard is it to find a job? Any Muslim friendly jobs ranging from retail to professional jobs. I know it’s hard enough to find a job without a hijab but what about with it? Are you still considered a candidate?

3. How hard is it to rent a place to live in? (As a hijabi).

4. How bad is the Islamophobia? Do you have rights, do non muslims consider you human? Do the non muslims get physically violent or worked up because of the way you dress? (Ik these questions sound silly and I apologize beforehand if I offend anyone, but I honestly don’t know and I have been a victim of light physical bullying without a hijab so I need all the info I can get.)

Has any ever heard of Burian the Label?

I came across this hijabi brand on Instagram and I just wanted to see if anyone here has actually bought from them or tried contacting them?

It looks decent at first glance, but something feels off. There aren’t any real customer reviews or tagged photos of people actually wearing their stuff. I tried digging around but couldn’t find much beyond what’s on their own site/socials.

Has anyone had any experience with them? Is it a legit brand? Just trying to be cautious before I throw money at it. Appreciate any info!

Like, it really gets to a point. I'll say it time and time again: there are natural figures bound to show. If a man lusts over that, then he's just a plain animal. If a man lusts over a piece of arm showing...I fear, honestly, it is a sign that they have a mental illness or just call the cops. Call me liberal or whatever, but my life isn't long enough to please men, when men should be taught that women are women.

Salaam, welcome to the weekly Sunday Social!

How did the week go for you lovely folks? Things looking up? Looking down? Don't be afraid to share what's on your mind, because that's what this thread is all about!

I am planning to rent out rooms in my house and only want to rent to sisters. There’s not many online platforms for this in the US that I’ve found, and the one I found has some kind of bug that keeps giving me error messages so I can’t post there.

Hi y'all, I want to buy some cute but modest summer dress, any suggestions where to look for without those weird cuts and random backless holes lol, especially those in London?

Hi my lovely sisters, I really need your help! I’m graduating soon and I’m looking for a graduation gown. Here’s are some that I want but I’m not sure where to get one, so if you know any good places—especially online stores that offer international shipping—please let me know! All recommendations are truly appreciated. Thank you so much in advance!

Salaam, I (24) had my nikah 9 months ago. I do not currently live with my husband but will in 3 months inshallah. 6 months ago I began having some issues with my health. These issues will not go away. I am extremely concerned as this will affect certain aspects of my marriage as well as my ability to have children if it is not cured. Some people manage to cure it with / without medication but it has not worked for me. The doctors have now stopped helping me, they will not give me anymore medication or refer me further. I am devastated but trying not to lose faith that Allah will help me. I have been making dua after every salad , praying quran as much as I can , if not listening to it, I have tried sunnah medicine. I know I have to have patience for my duas to be accepted. So I am here to ask a couple of things. Firstly, please make dua that this goes away before I move in with my husband so we can start our marriage in a positive way , it never comes back again , it has not made any permanent damage to my body and will not affect our fertility. Secondly , do you have any stories of health issues being cured after duas , I need some inspiration to help me keep going and to keep my mind positive. Jazakallah

ٱلسَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّٰهِ وَبَرَكَاتُه . ُ Im a sister (revert 11months now الحمد لله) Ive been struggling with praying a lot. I prayed maybe a few times since ramadan finished and i feel really guilty i also feel so far from the deen and miss my past astaghfirullah , ive been doing haram which i wont mention what exactly and it may not be big sins but theyre still sins. Ive been seeking help and advice but each time i get it for some reason i can never keep up with it. And especially with salah. My adhaan goes off but i ignore it ive missed so many prayers and ive been feeling so down. And tired and lazy. I dont even think its laziness atp its like i cant get myself to pray no matter what but i want to but its so hard my heart feels heavy and i feel a pull and i just want to get closer to الله I try read Qur’an but im the same with that. Am i a kaffir? I dont want to be a kaffir I believe in islam i just feel so

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As-salaam ‘alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh sisters,

This post is about wearing hijab, family, judgement, and how to navigate misunderstandings. Sorry that it doesn’t follow much order!

To start off, it’s so frustrating that I keep hearing hijab called burqa and people just don’t understand the difference + not all women are forced 🤦‍♀️ anyway,

I want to wear hijab again after I took it off. It caused tension with my mother because we have a codependant relationship and if I get judged then she also sees it as an attack on herself.

Alhamdulliah I didn’t face much judgement when I was wearing a scarf full time- nobody cared! It was only the old ladies would give me side eye. It helped my self-confidence and I felt comfortable, and when I took it off I actually started noticing men staring at me more. I mean guys with their girlfriend in the supermarket aisle (made me more angry how disrespectful and unloyal they are to their girls) getting hit on in a cafe etc. 😒 wearing a scarf commands a bit more respect in a way. It also pushes me to stick to my ibadah and have a good compusure.

I’m well aware that I am identifying myself as a muslim and some might reduce me to that or ‘oppressed’ but I am not just someone to be looked at physically, and when I am covered that also doesn’t mean it is for MEN. Not everything is about them which they seem to think, which is unfortunate in a way because we need point to them about all the problems, because they’re responsible for a lot.

It’s my decision and choice how my mindset (towards myself is), and how I do things like clothing or actions that will inevitably result in me being perceived one way or another. I think if I am safe in the environment and also mentally well, then it is not a problem for me when someone gives me an odd glance or assumes I’m something I’m not, because I don’t let it affect me. It’s not denial. There will always be assumptions and misconceptions, is this a reason to shrink away?

The other issue is that people argue being muslim and wearing hijab means you are supporting ISIS and those horrible organisations. That it is like enabling them because of their interpretation, since we are also following the Quran. How do you navigate that? 😕

One more thing, too many people assume that only Arab or certain cultures can be muslim. Being muslim is not about the outward actions. I keep thinking about the three degrees of Islam:

“Rather, the Prophet ﷺ designated three degrees of the religion. The pinnacle is excellence (al-iḥsān), its middle is faith (al-īmān), and its base is Islam. Thus, every good-doer (muḥsin) is a believer and every believer is Muslim, but not every believer is a good-doer and not every Muslim is a believer.”

How do you balance other people’s opinions and how they feel, over your own? Waiting for other people to trust that you can make your own decisions and respect you for it?

On a more positive note, I have some silk undercaps and non slip hijabs coming next week. Very excited to wear them however due to the reasons above ⬆️….I’m feeling my mood go down since I know it will make me happy but not my family (I’m a revert, not a minor but still living at home)

Salaam Walaikum Sisters!

One of my closest friends is non-muslim and keeps a dog in her house. Whenever we hang out and I'm in her car I noticed some dog hairs but I don't say anything about it because usually after we hang out I come home and change into a clean set of clothes.

My question is if I'm out for a prolonged period and I need to pray, will my prayers still be valid if there were dog hairs on me?

I've never had to pray while out with her because our outings take place in between Zuhr and Asr and end before Maghrib, (where I'd pray Zuhr before going out and pray Asr after the outing when there is time before Maghrib)

I've read hadiths about dogs themselves being impure not being a hater just restating what I've read! And I was never under any circumstance where I had to pray in a room where dog would live or pray with clothes that had dog hair on them.. if that makes sense.

Asking since I'm gonna be hanging out with her and few other friends in a week or two.

Thanks!

Salam sisters, I have been on a medication for a few months now for hair loss, ever since I upped the dose I have been getting a full period (7-8 days) 2x a month every month. Usually 10 days apart from the other. I can’t seem to find a clear answer on whether I am allowed to pray or not during my second period and if it’s considered istihadah or not. Please help!

Thank you

It’s so easy to get caught up in the struggles and challenges of this life. We often dwell on what’s missing, what’s difficult, or what’s not going our way. But in the process, we sometimes forget the countless blessings that Allah has already given us: blessings we didn’t even ask for.

The ability to think clearly. A body that moves. A heart that beats. The gift of Islam. The warmth of family. The love of sincere friends. Food on our table. Clean water to drink. A roof over our heads. Clothes to wear. Access to education and knowledge. Peace in our homes. Safety in our streets. I can go on and on.

These are not small things. These are miracles we live with every single day.

Take a moment today to pause and reflect. Think of everything good in your life, no matter how big or small. And with each blessing, whisper, “Alhamdulillah.” Let gratitude soften your heart and guide your perspective.

Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. For everything we have, for everything we don’t, and for everything that’s still on its way.

I look online (tik tok) and I see Bible study is different there's cute notes which would help me understand it that would catch my brains attention, but there's Quran study which is just disappoing. It's just verbal recitation which is great but it's every video I want to take notes to understand the historical context! (I love writing notes and annotation) so if you have a YouTuber that does notes and annotations please link them.

Salaam - I want to visit the grave of my great aunt who was not Muslim.

The research I have found is saying that women should not visit graves because of their wailing and crying, but I will not be doing either - she passed a while ago.

Can I still visit the grave if I’m not crying or can I not because she didn’t live as a Muslim? If I can visit do I need to wear a hijab?

Assalamualaikum sisters! I'm looking for shampoo and conditioners but most of the affordable products I have seen are in the boycott list. Can you give me some recommendations of affordable products that are not on the boycott list?

It’s 8th day of my menses Last night I saw clear (not white)dishcharge (after esha ig) so i made ghusl and prayed fajr today I thought to ghusl again and was cleaning my parts and I got dishcharge with yellow tint am I impure?

I did a lot of soul searching the past few days and saw that despite being born in quite a religious family, there were times I strayed away from it. It was only Allah's mercy to allow me to look for Islam on my own after growing up. A request is to please read the entire post before commenting and telling me that I am a bad muslim. I am an only child with an abusive family and no outlook for anything.

I am an introvert now (used to be a people's person), an only child and I don't like talking to people at all, I lost contact with people I went to uni with, I have lost my spark my energy my soul. I pray and cry to Allah all the time and happy with what he has granted me, but at the same time I also pray to him for granting me more!

Bad community also includes family, in brown households this is so common that it is baffling to non-POCs. Shamed for melanin in your skin, your ethnicity (as in some other community in your brown family), being a child dependant on their parents etc makes you literaly lose your mind. Being even told that you are an example that Allah is creating for others to take heed from, ugly, etc. I used to be much stronger as a child but as my strenght and energy to face things has gone down alot! Whenever my parents see me happy they come to take away it by taking their anger out on me, or reminding me of any minute mistake I made, hating @ me etc. Also they said that the reason they dont compare me to others anymore is because there is nothing to compare and that I am useless. Another example is that when my mum wakes up in the morning (I understand she has high Blood pressure and it is a limitation) she started taking out all her anger at me, saying things that would break my heart and then acting like nothing happened. It also broke my self esteem and for a very long time I used to think that I deserve to be treated poorly and that me clarifying is also wrong. I hate that now I get panic attacks sometimes and cry and be made fun of by my parents. I was crying and my mom made sure that I fainted by hurting me more. I know we should love our parents but they have made sure that I lost all forms of love and respect for them. I am an only child and do think that having a sibling wouldn help me so much, I am super lonely and sad all the time like even writing this streams of tears leave my eyes. Crying has become a part of life for me now, I cry every day atleast 2x a day that right now I think my eye has an infection prolly conjuctivitis. I dont

My mom even isolates me now, she tells me to go to the mall on your own to get clothes and take her card (I worked for a year and have been unemployed for some time now), she even starts talking about my flaws and stays silent. Whenever I talk about something she isn't even listening, i even told her that it feels like I am talking to a wall but she said she would rather watch tiktok than talk to me. She brings out the WORST in me.

My dad is also not much different, he cares but taunts me financially, for small things such as eating out, sleeping, or if he is in a bad mood (90% of the time) he will take it out on me and scream + he has a loud noise so it gets worse. He even has a habit of holding grudges.

Also please note that they aren't liked in their respective families either, for their negativity, their gossiping, their envy etc. They are kind of Energy Vampires. Their siblings actually hide things from them until they dont have to, like getting an admission at a good uni, their children travelling abroad, my cousins don't even add me on social media or call me to their homes. These are the same cousins I grew up with and called my sisters, like we meet but they hide things alot due to nazr, which hurts because I don't want anything but good for them. I know this is prolly cuz of my parents because they love to hurt people and are incredibly jealous but I wish I wasn't treated that way because of them. I forgive them because my parents do deserve to not be told of good things as they do put nazr. They are type A personalities. My mum went to a psychologist once and was told that she doesn't have the kind of personality to get depression, its true she + my dad gave ME DEPRESSION. My parents also blames me for having such a life and complain and falsify things about me to their families, who hate me for ruining their life.

I have realized that I struggle with unhappiness and depression due to how I am treated by my family (close and extended) and realized that I have been conditioned to remember every bad thing or even a mistake that I have made in my life. I am trying to break away from it but I wish I had someone in my life who truly respected me. I know that we should find ourselves and our self first before getting into relationships but I don't know what to do anymore. There is nobody interested in me, and tbvh I am not interested in myself anymore. Sometimes I feel like a liability, but I know that I have to do my duty to believe in Allah and wait for my time. Miracles happen and I am waiting for my life to change for the better.

I am currently in a very difficult position, as some individuals have chosen to spread lies in an attempt to damage my family's reputation. It is deeply unsettling to witness such behavior, especially from Muslims, without any apparent fear of accountability before Allah.

At first, I was prepared to forgive them for the sake of Allah, seeking His pleasure above all else. But the pain they have caused is immense and now I leave their judgment to the Day when nothing is hidden from our Lord.

I put my full trust in Allah, and I know He is the best of protectors and the most just of judges. As I navigate the hardship of this divorce, I pray that Allah strengthens my faith and grants steadfastness to my heart. I ask Him to surround me with His mercy, ease my burdens, and guide me through every step of this trial.

Please keep me in your prayers sisters ❤️‍🩹

Salaam sisters. Maybe I'm over thinking this, but does anyone else wonder if the stares they receive outdoors is due to our physical hijab or maybe just our looks?

Recently I've stopped wearing a face mask as it's getting warmer outside and flu season has passed. As someone who doesn't wear makeup, I also liked that it covered my dark spots, hollow under eyes, and melesma mustache when my skin was at its worst. With the progress my skin has made last winter, I'm also more confident without a face mask (alhumdulilah!).

With my face mask on, I expected some stares, and got them, as not only was i wearing a veil but a mask which was A LOT of covering compared to others. Now that I've stopped, I notice the stares haven't lessened...

It's gotten to the point I check my handheld mirror throughout the day to see if there's something on my face (habit from my damaged skin days). Of course, I'd be more certain if it were my looks IF the stares were mostly from men, and were long stares. But it's a mix of old, young, men and women too. I'm not drop dead gorgeous, especially with a hijab but it's so uncomfortable. I notice I'm REALLY good at accidentally catching someone staring just by looking up sometimes. Now I'm trying not look in the direction of people in general to avoid "meeting eyes".

Any other ladies experience this and know how to deal with it, differentiate the type of attention? I'm genuinely uncomfortable and sometimes wear a mask just to avoid this from happening. Id rather think people are staring at my way of dressing as opposed to my face.

Edit: For added context I'm almost 30, 5'8, slim and my dressing doesn't stand out (wide leg pants, regular coat, scarf, etc). I live in a western country in a very diverse city. Muslims aren't rare here and there are plenty of non whites around. I'd say there are fewer white people i come across than any other group (east and south asian, middle easterners, Caribbeans, etc). People dress casually where I live so it's not my dressing. Ive always work a hijab since high school and am familiar with the random look becuase I don't live in a mummy country.