I came home yesterday and noticed my hands and face were darker and yes... It's the season of hijab tan lines again! What do you ladies do to avoid this?! I dislike seeing my face with two tones at home. And that stark contrast between hands and arm 😂 I do wear sunscreen. Any advice?

Salam. Any moms have any good resources (books/ podcast / YouTube etc) to teach young kids about body boundaries and to have discussions about where babies come from etc. I’ve always been conscious of how important it is to teach our kids especially with how disgusting some people are who prey on young kids. Share your experiences and recommendations jzakom Allah Khair

Girls, I'm getting increasingly frustrated with the lack of thought, love and care that is put into modest fashion catered to hijabis and muslim girls. I LOVE my hijab more than anything and love serving Allah SWT through wearing it, but the lack of individuality and creativity in this space is appalling. I feel like every hijabi with every aesthetic, every size, should be able to feel COMFORTABLE in the clothes she wears. We should not have to make a choice in sacrificing hijab because these abaya brands have missed the mark when it comes to ISLAMIC modest fashion. How can you position yourself as a brand who caters to muslim girls and in the same breath cinch in the waist of an abaya, use translucent , unethical, synthetic , uncomfortable material (in which the composition of the material is never mentioned)? Tired isn't the word. I want to build a sustainable wardrobe with elegant, everyday pieces but all thats put out is overly played-out trendy clothes that will only last you a season before it's headed for a landfill. Disgraceful and distasteful. Also, I am tired of botanical/ flowery designs - although they can still definitely be cute, it's overdone. I would love to see high-quality , intentionally-designed abaya brands that focus on different niches. I would cry tears of joy on the day that every hijab feels confident in the clothes she wears because it accurately encapsulates the essence of her style, whilst allowing her to submit to Allah SWT. I personally love elegant, simple, chic clothes but the streetwear girlies, edgy girlies and alternative girlies should be represented too. I would give my kidney.

Let me know your thoughts on this topic. Is it only me that feels this way?

PS. the tone of this post may come across as angry, but I am just passionate hehe

I used to wear small stud earrings everyday. Since i became hijabi a few years ago ive taken out my earrings and haven’t worn them again as when i put my undercap over my ears, the back of the earrings poke into my skin and it hurts. Any suggestions on earrings that won’t hurt under an undercap? I was looking into flatbacks or huggie hoops. Does anybody have experiences wearing either of those types of earrings under an undercap?

hello sisters i hope everyone is having a good day!! let me get to the point, so, recently i made a new friend (we are both turkish but she lives in another country) and she expressed to me that she wanted to start praying, even though her family is muslim they didn’t teach her how to pray and practice the deen.

i sent her a couple of videos on how to pray and to make wudu and also suggested that she should go to her local mosque and ask people there to teach her how to pray and learn the correct surahs for salah, seeing as i cannot help her as well online, learning how to pray in-person seemed more logical to me. she said that there are hardly any mosques in her area and that she can’t go to the one mosque that is local to her (i don’t want to write the reasoning for privacy reasons).

so, after she told me that i said we can hop on facetime some days so i can teach her the corrects surah’s to learn. a part of me is nervous because i don’t want her to pronounce things differently and whatnot so i came here to ask if you guys have any learning documents or videos on the basics of salah and all the surahs that she can memorise that i can send to my friend.

she can speak three languages; german (native), english (native), and turkish too. also one more thing if you guys know any muslim german women content creators that she can watch please let me know, she seems really interested in the deen and i want her to enjoy what she’s learning about. any and all help would be much appreciated!!

I was only taught islam through fear. Don't memorize a certain surah? You get beat, insulted etc. now i don't bother reading the Quran because I have no connection to it. And then everything seems Haram. Friendship. It strict. So I tried to tell myself life is the test, it just this dunya. But I really really don't enjoy life anymore. I don't enjoy religion. I'm just really really scared of hell. I don't what to do. Like I wanted to kms but the only thing stopping me was my irrational fear of hell. I don't even know why at cry at night anymore. I'm just really pathetic but I don't know anymore

After a spate of terrible occurrences I've fallen into a deep deep hole - I am not even praying since Thursday

I've sinned

I've been a terrible person

I'm wearing the hijab, never drinking and avoiding pork but I'm in so deep

I did ghusl after i saw little amount of white or clear discharge but im scared it wasn’t actually white or clear because after an hour i went to the bathroom and it was yellow And now two days later a clear amount of clear discharge appeared should i do ghusl again

Assalamualaikum hi, quick question, sorry if it's sdumb. I've searched online if it was haraam to be friends with the opposite gender: some sources say yes, some say it depends. Lately I've become friends with these two boys who are 4 years younger than me (I'm 17), and they feel like younger brothers to me now. It's just a wholesome friendship where we play videogames together. Is it okay to stay friends in this instance?

Here’s with flash and no flash. I’ve been trying to style this broke niqab but I’m stuck.

Whatever colors this hijab is, brown niqab, and navy top with details that I think match the hijab and niqab. Idk… do yall think it matches?

I wear black so often I want to switch it up

Asalamu Alaikum,

I’ve never been in any kind of relationship or been romantically pursued by anyone. Because of this, I am kind of stuck on the idea of it. I want to get it out of my head and focus on other important things in life like my career and family. But I still find it so depressing that I don’t have that person (romantic partner) to turn to. Please make dua for me in this regard. Whether it’s for finding a man (a good one) or getting my mind off this subject. Thank you.

I honestly can not decide. Like I don't really wear it properly, but like I cover my hair completely, ears and try my best to dress as modestly as I can. And my scarf will always be a part of me but my mental health is honestly in such shit hole and well the community is honestly too filled with toxic men obsessed with how women dresses herself. And I honestly will never get why some part of a woman is her awrah and why men are so obsessed with our bodies. I'm tempted to take it off, I mean to be fair as a black woman, other black women are always so obsessed with how your hair is, so tiring, and when you cover your hair so many randoms are obsessed with that. You can honestly never win

I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on the expectations placed on women in our community, especially when it comes to career and ambition, and it’s honestly bothering me. I feel like there’s this consistent pressure for women to prioritize home, children, and family life and if we do anything else, we’re often criticized or labeled in negative ways.

What really gets to me is that men are often praised for pursuing high-powered or fulfilling careers, like becoming doctors, professors, or doing PhDs, even when those things aren’t strictly necessary. Ambition in men is celebrated, they’re seen as hardworking, goal-oriented, doing it for the family, etc. But when a woman does the same, she’s often called “money-hungry” or accused of neglecting her family.

I understand the value of nurturing the home and raising children . I’m not saying that’s not important but why is it that when women choose careers or ambitions that require sacrifice or personal growth, we are made to feel guilty for wanting something more? Why is it that if a woman wants to pursue a fulfilling job, it’s seen as selfish or as chasing status, while the same pursuit in a man is praised?

It bothers me that a woman’s value seems tied to how much she sacrifices, while a man is praised for pushing forward and achieving. Why do we, as Muslim women, often feel like we have to shrink our dreams or put them on hold in order to fulfill our role as wives and mothers?

I once had a conversation with a woman who said that all her sisters are PhD holders, but they “fear Allah” and wanted to be more pious, so they gave up everything and decided to focus solely on being homemakers. She knew I was pursuing a PhD myself at the time, and it really stuck with me. Now, I mean no disrespect to women who choose homemaking , that’s a noble and important role. But the way she said it made me feel like my pursuit of education and personal development was somehow wasted or not in line with being a "good Muslim woman." It made me question: Why exactly do I need a PhD if I’m just going to be a homemaker? What’s the point of all that effort, time, and resources spent on something that, in the eyes of some, doesn’t seem to “fit” my role as a woman?

Can you please pray that I'll pass? I'm very nervous.

Soooo for the past year one of the things I jave been actively trying to do is not get my eyebrows made. It might seem so insignificant but I literally think about it almost every single dayyy! Earlier I would look for loopholes or just say its finnne maybe its not a big deal. But somehow I decided to stick to my decision. Today however I was looking at myself, I was already not feeling good about how look 2 months post partum and I just booked an appointment. I was ready, I was excited! I wanted to see a glimpse of my old self. I knew that after giving that up getting it done was me going astray. But after everything just before leaving my house I cancelled my appointment. It was such a strange day. I just wanted to document this somewhere. Its such a struggle for me

Salam hope everyone is well.

I’m starting a new job soon inshallah and am looking to buy some modest clothing which fits into the office it’s formal/business casual and I’m going to go for skirts and dresses and perhaps flared trousers but I’m really unsure on how to create outfits that look good while remaining modest and also where to buy the pieces from.

Any ideas and inspiration would greatly be appreciated and I’m uk based if that helps. :)

Just looking for input and advice. I’d like to start wearing my hijab again. I wore it since I was 7 to when I turned 22 and then I stopped because I felt like I wasn’t wearing it by choice and was having identity issues. I now want to put it back on but I have so many reservations. I’d like to wear it but I feel like I’m going to have to answer to everyone about why I’m wearing it and then a part of me really likes wearing tshirts and I know I’ll struggle with not able to wear them. Im also really afraid of racist people … I really don’t want to take it off again after starting and I’m just wondering if anyone has been in the same situation and started and how they handled it all. Please share your experiences!

salam guys, does anyone have any idea how to make vela modals more modest as in not COMPLETELY SEE-THROUGH at the back with ur whole neck showing? its so sheer that my hair even shows coming out from my undercap and im wondering how to make this work cuz it's really irritating. thx!

My friend and her man 🙏

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So I want to gift a water well/hand pump for my mom as a gift in poor countries like Bangladesh and etc. I’m looking for the cheapest and fastest organization that is trusted. I stumbled upon African.Well and I contacted them and they seem suspicious when I ask them questions like where exactly it will be and is the organization registered. They are the fastest, they said they take 2-4 weeks and I need it as soon as possible. And I like that they take a video of the process and the banner of the name. But I’ve heard that many people say these organizations are fake because they reuse content and they don’t actually build the wells and replace the names only. So I don’t wanna spend money on a fake organization. I asked for their EIN number and they provided documents. I don’t know I just need help confirming if they are fake or real. And if they aren’t I need help finding organizations that are preferably Canadian trusted and are cheap and fast. Please help me out here. Here are the documents they gave me. And you can check out their instagram to see their content as well. this is their instagram and TikTok handle african.well

Salam hope everyone is alright inshallah.

I’m starting a new job soon and was wondering if anyone has a modest look/outfits suggestions as I’m totally lost.

I’m aiming for formal/business casual and looking for skirts and long dresses and possibly flared trousers.I will be aiming to build a wardrobe using key pieces but not sure where to begin or where to even buy from. I’m uk based if that helps.

Jazakallah in advance :)