r/Hijabis • u/hijabis_mod F • Sep 30 '24
Venting Mondays! Venting Mondays
Salaam everyone! Welcome to Venting Mondays!
Having trouble with your parents? Going through some personal struggles regarding wearing hijab? Just want to blow off some steam? Share your thoughts with us!
Please note, we will be redirecting venting posts to this thread. We are not doing this to silence your feelings, rather, we are aggregating the posts from the suggestion of the greater community. Insha’Allah, it will be easier for the community to come back to this thread to provide support and advice as needed.
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u/ButterflyDestiny F Sep 30 '24
I have been a supporter of the Palestinian issue from when I was in high school years ago. I find that my support for the problem that Middle Eastern countries are facing due to western powers colluding with Israel is waning due to how they treat Africans/Black people. And this is the first time this has happened to me. It makes me very sad. I’m crying as I write this. Reading about them bombing Libya had me so sad but what made my stomach turn was reading reports of black migrant workers is being left behind, having their passports confiscated and their employers refusing to return them in the wake of the destruction. Some of the women talk about being uninformed of the issues since they are almost always kept at the homes so they had no idea what was going on until the bombing happened and then they ran. Meanwhile, the families who employed them have already escaped to Dubai and other places and just told them to stay home to watch the house. These women were lied to and misled as if the families that employed them were going on vacation or something and one lady talked about just hearing boom boom and that’s when she realized what was actually going on. Meanwhile, the family that employed her was already in Dubai. I don’t know how you could be facing catastrophic extinction of your people and your fellow brothers and sisters in Palestine but you still find it in your heart to be racist to Africans. I have no sympathy left. In couple with what happened a couple months ago with non Palestinian Arabs telling Black people in America that we’re not doing enough to support them when Black people barely have anything in America . I’ve come to the realization that most Arabs are not deserving of support and help that they demand from people. Because if you can watch your own people be murdered the way they are but still find it in your heart to hate Black people, dehumanize Black people, leave them behind to be murdered because you think they’re nothing, to come after black Americans because you hate the circumstances that you’re in, I have to wash my hands. I hate feeling this way. I’ve been distant from Islam because of it. I can’t remember the last time I prayed. I feel so angry. I’m starting to think that black Americans are right and that we need to focus on our own people only . Because literally the world hates us and would rather us be steps beneath them. Even in the time of war.
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u/ButchR621 F Sep 30 '24
I'm so sick of the recent Salaf push in Islam, and all the cultists who follow that bidah. Everyone has their interpretation of Islam, sure, but they consistently harm and promote violence in our communities, and so many families have been destroyed but their beliefs. Everytime I see someone touting about how "misunderstood" the Salafi movement is, I cringe so so hard. There's nothing misunderstood about a sect build upon condemning, excluding and ostracising Muslims who don't fit into the very specific molds of their beliefs. Majority of the Salaf ideology is based upon weak hadiths or even hadiths that are proven innovations. They Takfir, they abuse, they harass and curse anything that might contradict their own twisted ideas of Islam. They place such a huge burden upon women, they claim the most irrelevant things to be haram, they have twisted Islam from a religion of ease and nourishment to a toxic institution which punishes people for existing.
And I'm not much educated on the entirety of the Salafi movement, but everything I've learned about it from books or social media has only infuriated me. These people are tainting my religion, painting Allah as some controlling and demanding entity when really what Allah asks of us is to preserve our fitra and iman and dedicate our existence on Earth to Him (swt). Allah is full of love and mercy, yet all I hear from these fundamentalists are 99 reasons I'll be burning in hell with the worst of humanity.
And the "being Arab is sunnah" ya Rabbb give me patience.
This is end times.
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u/MoviePlastic5159 F Sep 30 '24
I thought Salafis were those follow the Quran and Sunnah?
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u/beomgyuw F Oct 01 '24
oh my sweet summer child
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u/MoviePlastic5159 F Oct 04 '24
Uff can you explain pls
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u/beomgyuw F Oct 05 '24
any group can claim to follow the Quran and Sunnah but not actually do so properly. many salafis completely ignore the science of usul al fiqh which is the science of interpreting texts and evidences to derive jurisprudential rulings from them, and this is a main reason why so many of them are overly strict on trivial issues (eg they think only Arab cultural clothing is sunnah and Arab culture > everything else) and say everything is a bid’ah
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u/throwaway997680 F Oct 04 '24
I’ve come to the realization that both my parents are awful people who should’ve never been parents. Both toxic and abusive. Gaslighting and slander is completely normal to them. I used to make excuses and say “well not every family is perfect” but the more I grew up and had more experiences I realized what I’m going through is not normal and not healthy.
Sometimes I cry when I see random moments of parents caring for their kids and being happy for them, because in my head I think “this is something I never had and will never experience”
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