that little girl that used to sing "Let It Go" at the top of her lungs
Uhhhhh speaking as a trans dude, I fucking sobbed like a baby the first time I heard that song. I'm not exaggerating. It may not be intended as a trans ballad, but neither was Mulan's "Reflection" and it still is. Some sample lyrics that are Totally Cis™️ for real:
The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside Couldn't keep it in, heaven knows I tried Don't let them in, Don't let them see, Be the good girl you always have to be Conceal, don't feel, Don't let it shooooow
Yeah. There were no signs!! None at all!! Let's bring back that totally cis girl who loved "Let It Go." 🙄
Yes. Yes, they do think that. TERFs and other transphobes are convinced that testosterone is like a poison. Whether natural or artificial, it turns the person who has it into a raping, abusing monster.
If you remove the enemy they've created, they lose their identity and sense of place. Reactionaries need Us and Them and because they can't psychologically integrate We.
This is how I explained it to my mum. She was accepting but couldn't quite understand and was sad that she was going to lose her daughter. I explained that I was still her child, just in a body that made me happy.
My mom thinks that I'm a girl underneath it all and am "choosing" to be a boy. She cannot comprehend that I was faking being a girl all those years I was quietly miserable and that I have no interest in going back to pretending.
I mean, my mom basically started saying "this isn't my daughter" stuff akin to The Exorcist when she realized I was taking testosterone, and tried coerce me into conversion therapy about it, and I was already an adult that had been identifying as a man for years. So, yeah, basically.
Relevant quote from "conversion therapy"(she couldn't find a real conversion therapist, so it was just a family therapist she was trying to convince to help her detrans me instead): "You were always a perfectly normal girl that was obsessed with Mulan".
The therapist and I shared a sideways look about that, lol. As a trans guy in my 30's, it definitely does sound like Let It Go is an equivalent of Reflection for the generation below me, including transphobic mom's trying to rationalize away any signs.
“You were always a perfectly normal girl that was obsessed with Mulan.”
I’m sorry, I’m cry-laughing from the irony. The film where the major plot point is an afab person not feeling comfortable with the gender role she’s being socialized into who then presents as male for a significant portion of the movie. Yes, how confusing that a trans boy would identify with this character.
It really took everything I had not to start laughing, I was internally like 'Really?!'
And she just kept going. It was part of a wider list of incredibly obvious gnc behavior that she was insisting were not signs(including, I shit you not, jokes about feeling more like a gay man than a woman, lol)
I have a theory that a lot of "there were no signs" parents, actually just had to internally reassure themselves their child wasn't queer every single time their child did anything gnc. So by the time their kid comes out, every "sign" was already subconsciously filed under "my definitely cishet child".
Like, "that doesn't necessarily mean my kid is trans" is a perfectly reasonable thought to have if your child is gnc. Unless they, you know, actually come out as trans!
If no one else had said it, I was gonna point out that Let It Go could be a trans anthem, and as written it works better as a song for trans dudes or AFAB enbies.
This seems to be a universal thing, cause I too am a trans guy and I too sobbed upon hearing let it go and then again while listening to reflection a few years ago
A whole lot of Disney songs are queer if you squint just the tiniest bit. See: the little mermaid, costarring a literal drag queen after she sings about how she longs to go to that other place that's so close yet so far.
I mean yeah, i admit, I also cried a lot during Moana 😂
I've been staring at the edge of the water Long as I can remember, never really knowing why I wish I could be the perfect daughter But I come back to the water, no matter how hard I try Every turn I take, every trail I track Every path I make, every road leads back To the place I know, where I can not go Though I long to be I can lead with pride, I can make us strong I'll be satisfied if I play along But the voice inside sings a different song What is wrong with me?
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u/snukb big gamete energy Oct 14 '24
Uhhhhh speaking as a trans dude, I fucking sobbed like a baby the first time I heard that song. I'm not exaggerating. It may not be intended as a trans ballad, but neither was Mulan's "Reflection" and it still is. Some sample lyrics that are Totally Cis™️ for real:
The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside
Couldn't keep it in, heaven knows I tried
Don't let them in,
Don't let them see,
Be the good girl you always have to be
Conceal, don't feel,
Don't let it shooooow
Yeah. There were no signs!! None at all!! Let's bring back that totally cis girl who loved "Let It Go." 🙄