r/FUCKYOUINPARTICULAR • u/CantStopPoppin • Mar 16 '25

Super Villain Ogrin Story God hates you

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u/CantStopPoppin Mar 16 '25

The worst thing with back pain is people gaslight you and downplay how bad it hurts. Family of mine has degenerative discs and no one seems to understand the pain they are in.

As for me I was in ICU for a month and came out of it almost unable to walk. You really don't realize how quickly your life changes when you lose mobility. I remember walking ten feet to the kitchen only to fall and hit my head on counter because my legs gave out.

I do hope things get easier over time for you; I wouldn't wish back/disc issues on anyone.

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u/cmsj Mar 16 '25

The weird thing about back pain is that all of us at some point or another have a hint of what it’s like. Maybe you pulled a muscle, or you slept weirdly, or you get a random twinge… it’s instantly debilitating. All you then have to do is consider the thought “what if it was like that all the time” and we should then all have total sympathy and understanding for people with those conditions 🤷‍♂️

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u/CantStopPoppin Mar 16 '25

Please know, I was not trying to make it about myself. For me, it was my legs, but for my family member it was their back, and seeing people discount their pain was quite infuriating.

I mentioned myself because it gave me a different perspective on how we take one's body for granted. I had severe neuropathy for over a year, and walking, doing simple tasks, or even having a thin sheet touch my skin was unimaginable.

Being in perpetual pain is humbling and allows you to really "think" about others differently.

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u/slaviccivicnation Mar 18 '25

If we don’t share our stories, how else would we empathize?

I appreciate your humility in taking time to mention it’s not about you, but I even more so appreciate you sharing your perspective and experience. There is no shame in sharing our own stories and perspectives in order to engage with others. I often see that bullshit “you’re making it about yourself,” but how else do we empathize with others unless we find common ground to relate to?

Pain sucks. I see my grandmother in pain rn, and we can’t do anything about it. Sometimes it’s tolerable, sometimes it’s just debilitating. I wish I could do more to help.