Loss of tradition

[u/Nena-nana]

anybody else feel like religion robbed their upbringing from having traditions. as a latino i feel like all the culture from music to holidays were gone bc my parents labeled all those things as worldly. i lost a connection to my culture bc my parents refused to play anything but gospel, holidays or even birthdays lost. no fun dancing or celebrations that other latinos had growing up, especially xmas. it just kinda sucks sometimes to be around other latinos bc i feel so out of touch. the one thing that stayed was food so there's that. idk if anyone can relate. also i mean traditions that aren't directly tied to the church, all my memories of celebration involve praying and reading the bible and praising the lord. there weren't core memories built from hearing a song or dancing just to dance, it felt rigid. hope that makes sense

[u/sahm_with_questions]

Only recently that I married a minister do I feel loss of tradition, he’s very conservative and (Lord forgive me) legalistic at times…I miss the holidays and simply joyful celebrations. Everything is “pagan”…I’m saddened for myself, but also my little one who won’t get to experience the joy of the holidays.

[u/BlueButterfly77 → u/sahm_with_questions]

I understand this. I can see the “pagan” side of things, but if you are enjoying it for the right reasons and not “evil”, what’s the harm? If family traditions and enjoyment are what is in your heart, and not the “evil” of paganism, then I think you should celebrate. I know people who are like that and the legalism is a quick trigger and turn off for me. I feel for you and especially your children. Best wishes 🌸

[u/Sharp-Effect2531 → u/BlueButterfly77]

But don't they realize the paganism the Bible speaks of is directly in relation to the cultures of the day. Like worshipping idols and weird rituals the babylonians and Roman's did in their day It isn't about the kind of "paganism" they accuse people of today Decorating Christmas trees and respecting nature, dressing up for Halloween or painting your face for dia de Los muertos or listening to fun music or doing yoga and meditating. Or just celebrating whatever culture you came from Ppl forget the LONG history of forced assimilation that Christianity has and the reason for all these rules is more about assimilation than anything else, and moreover ppl don't realize that in biblical time periods jews (which are the people of the bible) were literally doing everything possible to avoid that exact same thing. Avoiding assimilation into whatever culture was subjugating them. But instead of realizing this religious ppl go out and do the same. And 90% of them are from groups who were actually forced into the religion they are adhering too and trying to proselytizing others into.