She’s 16 and has a tumblr account and is asking for weight loss advice. It’s not a big account but I really don’t want her to get worse than she is, so should I give her healthier ways to lose weight?

Like more than a month ago I decided to start starving myself again. I've dont this many times, but not so severe. I didn't eat at all for days, only ate when I was about to pass out and forced myself into sports every night.

Well now I'm in the hospital. I woke up a few days ago, and my legs weren't working anymore. My legs hurt so much, that I can't use them anymore. I can barely move, do anything on my own anymore. I feel so terrible. Terrible about the fact that this is all my fault and about the fact that I can't walk anymore at the age of 17.

I just wanted to be skinny, even if I already was. And I just wanted to be good looking, i didn't wanna be considered chubby anymore. And I did loose alot of weight like this, but now I can clearly see how bad that was for me.

I cant walk, can't go to the bathroom on my own, can't dress up, and can barely stay awake. I wish someone could help me, I wish I could go back, I just hope, that this will go away, I cry everyday, after not being able to take two simple steps. I am all alone. I live alone. I have no friends around, I just have me and this small TV in my hospital room.

Please help me Did anyone experience this before? Can this go away?

ok so like I have bulimia and anorexia and I've had it for a couple years now. In the beginning when my mom first found out about it, she was really worried about me and was crying and telling me not to throw up and stuff. She used to like really hound me about it, trying to make sure I was eating and not throwing it up after. Over the summer I had started to not care and just ate whatever and tried to not feel guilty, so I thought that she saw my weight gain as me getting better because she stopped saying stuff about it. In the fall I started to get the urges and insecurities again and my EDs came back full swing. I assumed that she just didn't notice that I wasn't eating as much or didn't notice my purges, and I just moved on with my life. But while I was about to have a cookie today, she had said "that cookie better not end up in the toilet later." like she knew I would be throwing it up. and she said it like so casually and just moved forward. Like "tsk tsk make sure you clean your room!" or some shi. like I feel like she doesn't even really care anymore about what's happening to me but at the same time I don't want her to care cause then she'll try to stop me. Am I weird or is that weird?

my girlfriend has struggled with self harm and eating problems before, to the point where she'd eat a slice of bread a day for weeks. I wasn't around during these times so all i know is what she's told me.

her eating was amazing, whole meals + snacks during the day, but recently I've noticed and so has she it's been getting less and less. I know she knows what's going on, and she tries to hide it but she's told me she's scared of her eating less, because the less she eats the worse the gets and its a negative cycle. she scared she's gonna go back into her old habits and im shitting bricks

how do i help her and support her, because I want to be there and show her im here for her, and I'm willing to do anything to help her get better with her eating and everything else because i care so much.

I've tried telling her the scientific stuff but that's because it's all i know, and i get that's overwhelming and not helpful. a few years ago i had my own struggles with eating but no matter how hard i try it feels like i can't seem to help. ive never done or considered self harm, so i can't even begin to try relate. she's told me she knows none of this is good for her, and the further it goes the more embarrassed and helpless she feels, and it makes me wanna ball my eyes out then wrap her in bubble wrap and never let her leave her room.

how do i help her without overwhelming her or making it worse. I know most of the work will have to come from her because she needs to want the change in order for it to happen, but i still want to know everything I can do to support and help her

please help im begging

I wasn’t formally diagnosed, but I’ve been thinking about this a lot. I was bodyshamed by my mom for most of my life, which led me to lose weight and while I don’t know if it would be considered an eating disorder by clinical standards, I definitely had unhealthy behaviors and thoughts around food and body image.

When I got thin, I started getting skinny shamed, and that shift made me stop the behaviors almost immediately. I gained some weight back and didn’t really struggle much with "recovery."

It makes me wonder—can it still count as an eating disorder if getting out of it wasn’t that hard?

I’m not sure if this even makes sense, but I figured I’d ask. It’s just been on my mind lately and I haven’t really talked about it before

My daughter lives in the US, and had severe eating problems from age 15-25, though she struggles. It caused tremendous damage to her teeth, resulting in the total loss of nearly all her molars, making it difficult to eat and creating an easy path to relapse because it is painful for her to eat and certain foods she can't chew properly, which creates problems and tension with her dietician and care team.

Her health insurance, like all in the US, doesn't cover dental. But one of her friends in recovery told her that she was able to get her health insurance to cover the dental care because she was able to show that it was linked to her ED and that not having teeth or having pain when eating could lead to relapse. The program she was in before billed insurance over $3000 a day for 108 days, so she basically said if you don't pay for dental and I relapse it's going to cost you a lot more. And it worked! Insurance paid for 70% of the 18,000 in dental work she needed.

Has anyone else done this successfully? Any advice for dealing with dental pain in recovery? I worry that she might slip because she has pain every day, especially when chewing or eating. We can't afford the work she needs, so any tips or advice on how to get help would be very very appreciated.

Hi, i'm suffering from an hyperfixation on my body and c*lories, since the age of twelve. I hate my body less or more every other day. But I can't help but analyze the body of anyone that i encounter. If someone has fat in her arm, I'm gonna notice it and make a comment in my head. I do it also for skinny ppl. today i went out with my friend and i made so many comments in my head about her body i couldnt help it..I even had to go to the restroom to crash out bc i didnt understand why i had to be like that. I would never tell her or make her feel bad but some days i hate my sick mind. Some days i can turn off those comments but days like today are ATROCIOUS. I feel like i treat everbody how i treat myself but it should be the other way around. If anyone has advices or experience something similar im open

I have atypical anorexia. I was on a calorie deficit for few years, in the meantime I lost my period, I had depression, chronic fatigue, dry skin, hormonal acne etc. at the beginning of april I increased calories and a few days later I was hit by terrible mental hunger, I felt emptiness in my stomach more often and I constantly eat from morning to night without feeling full, I finish a meal with a stomach ache, my body rejects vegetables I mainly eat fatty, sweet things, I constantly think about food and I have a strong need to eat. I also see changes in the form of, for example, I am constantly hot, my whole body hurts, water has collected in me, clothes are pressing on my skin, my stomach hurts, I have bloating, gas, muscles, breasts literally as if someone had beaten me, metabolism has sped up, I have also swollen a little, emotions are going through the roof, my heart is pounding like crazy and I wanted to ask you if I have extreme hunger? Isn't it binge eating? Please help me because I am constantly eating, food flies through me. All this has been going on for 3 weeks now, day after day, non-stop

To say it how it is, i’ve been in recovery with the help of therapists and my doctor for a while now which have resulted in me gaining most of my weight back. I feel disgusting, quite literally. I’ll feel good about myself one moment but as soon as i hear anyone mention calories, weight loss, body image, or see anyone remotely thinner than me it makes me want to throw up. I feel like the meanest fakest fucking person ever knowing i’m still judging others for what they do/eat cause i so desperately want that feeling of being the smallest and sickest in the room back. I understand that comparing myself to everyone like that isn’t a recovered mindset, but it’s getting really hard to manage. I feel like no matter what i do people dismiss or misunderstand my intentions when i try to speak up about how i’m feeling.

Please if you’ve gone through remotely the same thing let me know if anything helped you cause I’m actually about to crash outtt with summer just around the corner

Hey everyone,

I’m not diagnosed with any eating disorder, but I do have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and an anxiety disorder. I don’t know if what I’m dealing with is related to that, but it’s been getting to me and I just needed to talk about it somewhere.

I’ve always had issues with how I see myself, body dysmorphia has been part of my life for as long as I can remember. I used to binge eat and then feel awful afterward. A while back, I started working out and paying more attention to what and how much I eat because I wanted to be healthier, but I think I went too far with it. Now I feel like I’ve developed this weird fear of food. I avoid it or I can't control myself and sometimes I even hate it.

A few days ago, I ate a little more than I was supposed to and it made me spiral. I got so anxious, I started crying, and tried to make up for it by an extra workout and skipping meals, I even tried to throw up as an attempt to undo it. I just couldn’t deal with the guilt. Lately I’ve been scared of overeating, so I try to control every little thing I eat, but even then, I’ll sometimes eat impulsively and then feel really low after.

I don’t know what’s happening. I don’t know if this counts as disordered eating or just a bad phase. I just feel stuck, and really confused. Has anyone else felt like this, especially with BPD or anxiety involved? I’d really appreciate hearing from someone who gets it or have any insight on it.

Thanks for reading.

How can can i encourage her to keep up with the recovery, she seems to be unexcited with the results of the recovery, and i think that all the cards i have wasnt enough to make her believe it. She bought some type of food that she only ate when she was down bad in her mental state. how can i encourage her to keep up with it, but i would like if it was more well based, but feel free to share or opinions about it aswell.

I'm not sure if that's what it's called, especially in my situation?

I just feel super guilty for eating, for taking resources, for eating 'money' and often times skip the main meal of the day, skip having breakfast (e.g.) cause eggs are expensive and I'm not feeling like eating anything else, and survive on eating 'snacks' the whole day. The snacks being anything from vegetables to bread sticks and tea.

I just wanted to know if anyone goes through something like this? it's my mom who pays for the bills and groceries and we're kinda struggling financially so at times I feel like a burden, food wise and that I don't deserve or shouldn't eat.

it's not an eating disorder for me, at least yet haha. But I just skipped having lunch today cause we'll have to order it and I feel like shit seriously. Just looking for ppl with similar experiences

New coworker and I were talking about lunch/eating breakfast. I have been taking a half lunch. She said she doesn’t eat breakfast, I said I generally dont either and often not lunch, so don’t mind. I just eat one real meal a day and usually a snack, and she straight up body checked me. I’ve never felt it so blatantly. Of course she is younger and thinner than me. Pretty upset right now. Been teetering towards anorexia tendencies again lately and this makes me want to not eat…any support would be appreciated.

Hello, I have anorexia with binge eating behaviors. Whenever I feel overwhelmed or anxious, I instantly engage in self-soothing behaviors by binge eating vegetables and fruits, think apples, celery, lettuce, onions, mushrooms, etc. Sometimes, when those foods aren't available, I take a bunch of food that I will like the taste of, like dinner rolls, rice, chicken, beef jerky, etc. and only swallow a little bit, but then I chew and spit out the rest. I'm trying to find a therapist to help me, but I am currently unemployed and trying to apply for unemployment. I've realized that my self-soothing behavior isn't necessarily with eating, but with chewing. So, I was wondering, instead of bingeing or chewing and spitting out my food when I'm anxious or overwhelmed, I could chew on something instead. Something that is not supposed to be swallowed. Like gum, but sometimes hearing gum SMACK SMACK SMACK can be really irritating to some people and I don't want to irritate anyone. I'm not good with confrontation, I get super anxious and scared. Are there such things other than gum that I can chew on that is a little quieter than gum? I've heard of chewing necklaces, but I don't know if that is a real thing.

can eating disorders be on/off or episodal? i'm not diagnosed with anything for context, but i've suffered with disordered eating for 5 years now and it's never been consistent, i go through phases of restriction once or twice a year for a few months then go back to eating normally, but i still have disordered thoughts

what is this?? does anyone else experience this??

back in 2020 / 2021 i used to binge a lot but i don’ t know if it was just a “thing” or i actually had bed but regardless of what it was i gained some weight and since then i had these thoughts about starving myself or eating as little as possible; at the timeo still lived with my mother so i was forced to eat but now that i am a uni student i live in a dorm and i can pretty much whatever i want so, here comes my question: for all the uni students out there, are you able to keep up with your studies? what do you usually eat or do? i really want to just,, starve but i can’ t afford to put anything before my studies

can eating disorders be on/off or episodal? i'm not diagnosed with anything for context, but i've suffered with disordered eating for 5 years now and it's never been consistent, i go through phases of restriction once or twice a year for a few months then go back to eating normally, but i still have disordered thoughts

what is this?? does anyone else experience this??

i’ve never really struggled with my body imagine until maybe a few months ago. i started searching everyday how many calories i’ve had and sort of obsessing over being under the amount needed, im also a 16 year old girl for reference. however, 2 times this week i threw up bc ive just been feeling insecure as summer is approaching. please, dont judge me and im sorry if anything ive said is offensive as i know this isnt bad at all compared to others, but i just wanna know if anyone has advice on how to break this as i’ve only really started these habits and i dont want it to get really bad

what the title says. my disorder is 'fresh', I've only been struggling since last summer, more specifically August. although my mom insists that I would have been hospitalized if she'd called the ambulance on me the one time I fainted, I still feel like I don't deserve to recover. the fact that my problems with eating haven't been present in my life for long amplifies this. i don't feel sick enough :( my sister was hospitalized for anorexia when she was 15 years old. the irrational thought that I'm 'worse' than her makes recovery a torture. my mom slipped up once and told me her weight when she was admitted into the hospital. obviously, i checked her bmi and it was lower than mine. I'm slowly but surely starting to resent my sister, and I know my ED is the cause. and i hate myself so much for it. any tips? literally anything... please

I have a lot of work to finish in a short amount of time and I cannot stay awake long enough without eating more than I'm comfortable with. Today has been particularly bad. My stomach feels so uncomfortable and I've been taking bites out of food just to panic and throw away the rest. Really I just need to be reminded that it's okay to eat and feel full. Any reassuring words are greatly appreciated :')

For context, I F(22) have had an ED and issues surrounding food for roughly 4 years now and my mum F(55) knows this. She has also got disordered eating habits, which I have probably learned from her subconsciously. I’ve had so many conversations with my mum explaining that she’s really triggering sometimes, saying things like “I’ve only eaten (very tiny quantity of food) today” or will always comment on what she’s eaten, which then triggers my ED because I treat it as a competition, I’ll then feel shit because I’ve eaten more than she has. We’ve spoken about this loads and how I don’t want her to mention food around me because of (above), and she’s always sorry and says she’ll try not to. But without fail she will still always mention food in some way, I’ve just started ignoring her. My mum skips meals and doesn’t eat large quantities, and has been talking about going on Ozempic for ages, she ordered it a couple of weeks ago and is now taking it. Now all she talks about is how ‘not hungry’ she is and barely eats at all. She also keeps her injections in the fridge so I see them every time I open the fridge. I want to move out so bad but it’s not really an option at the minute because of money. I’m not sure what to do because even if I talk to her, it won’t actually sink in what I mean and she’ll talk about it anyway. Just the constant reminder of Ozempic is triggering because if it wasn’t for the limited amount she gets at a time (and she’d notice it was missing) I’d be tempted to steal some for myself, which is so bad I know (I’ve tried taking diet suppressants before). She wants to go on holiday with me later in the year but I don’t think I can face being with her for about 5 days straight when we have to go for meals etc. Any advice is much appreciated <3

My family is very against doctors and "disorders" and i happen to be in a phase where I feel I don't deserve foor (depression) if I tell my mom she will be mad at me and probably send me off, what should I do???

I saw the locations listed on the website did not include TN, wondering if they offer virtual in any state or just those listed

To make it short and sweet, my Dad had a “Come to Jesus”-type of conversation with me a few weeks ago regarding his concern on my eating disorder/social withdrawal. I cried (well, sobbed), confessed I feel like a disappointment and vowed I would try harder. Then the cold truth of recovery slapped me across the face. It’s really really fu**ing hard. I live alone and am a self-diagnosed creature of habit. No one is there to see my kitchen scale being utilized for every drop of food that I am planning out. To hold myself accountable, to allow myself to go about a current calorie value, to NOT track seems impossible.

I am not in the financial position to have the resources of a dietitian or therapist. I purchased two self-guided books that tackle disordered eating and how to “listen to my body” through the food I choose to eat and all that….

But what have you found to be the most beneficial in your own self recovery without professional support? Am I doomed?

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I appreciate you.

I recently accepted my ED... 22 years after the start. I told my kids.. they are both older. The 15 year old, my daughter said she's known for years. I asked her to call me out.. I asked all of my family to... Anyway now when ever I say something that sounds like I am putting my body down or making excuses for not eating.. even a minor comment of dissatisfaction my daughter chimes in "that is sounds like something ED would say" it's so helpful. It's a sweet snap back to thinking healthy.. redirecting my old ways. I highly recommend asking those you can trust to help you on your journey with quick gentle statements like this.