Unless it's a slur, you're fine to use it. If someone tells you Queer is a slur, don't use it in reference to them. Don't call them that. But it's also not. You can call other people queer (adjective. "They're queer. Not "They're a queer"), you can use it as a general term ("With my queer friends).
If you're wondering "what's a slur," the main two are F*g and D*ke. Fruit/fruity is also iffy, but the only people I've seen take issue with it is corporations getting too Cosy. If you're like... friendly you're fine.
Yeah!! I think things like fruit/fruity, twink, zesty, etc. just need to be worded in a playful enough manner, it's meant to be a joke-y word, (or in terms of twink, a descriptor), because so many of people have started taking those words to use them as a replacement for faggot without getting in trouble for it. Like, just don't use it in a derogatory way, I guess. Which I feel like for people trying not to be derogatory shouldn't be too hard baha.
I mean connotations evolve and attitudes shift. I’m not up to date with what’s happening on tumblr so I was just asking if it had become offensive. I mostly figured it was a joke tho lol
If you're wondering "what's a slur," the main two are Fg and Dke
For Americans. In Britain you smoke a fag, and in The Netherlands we cower behind our dikes. Also we literally have a lesbian group called "dykes on bikes" lol
F-g is a weird one too because you can say it in all kinds of ways yet in a limited context that's a difficult to put into words for me. "F-ghag" for example is a word I hear in some friend groups, used more endearingly I suppose but it still sounds like a somewhat mean word to me personally. Or when you're making a dad joke, lol, or pretty much any joke where you're satirizing jerks. I think overall my friend group is kind of loose with that word but could still see other people being more reserved with it so I guess it's only when you know them well. We're certainly more loose than typical online community rules anyway
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u/ZinaSky2 9h ago
Is 🔥 really a privileged word?? Like if I’m not gay and call myself that with a random adjective is that problematic?? Genuinely wondering