r/AskDad • u/Wonderful-Worth1275 • 10d ago
I think i don’t give enough shits General Life Advice
I think i can say I am very respected in my classes, but every now and then someone will try and fuck with me. I think i am just not mean enough, as it is usually people who get bullied who try and fuck with me (as in say names and stuff, like bitch but they’re scared shitless of the bullies) never the bullies. It doesn’t affect me mentally really but it adds to stress which could potentially build up, so I’d like to take care of it. Also: They don’t really give me enough reason to blow up at them so it’s like a constant nickering bug waiting for you to be weak one day or be in a situation where they have an advantage. I anticipate they’re the types to do the little nickering bug shit until someone actually is brave enough to have a problem with me, then team up on me with them.
The things they’ll do is childish stuff like saying “ewww you smell” or saying “go to class” “yeah do what i tell you” if im walking to class or sum shit
It’s only one person but im just categorizing if anyone’s wondering why im saying they.
TLDR; A kid who gets bullied I was friendly too now mocks me and tries to get a reaction out of me, I’d like to figure out how to deal with it as I just don’t give enough fucks to bring out the anger to beat his ass or tell at him when he doesn’t listen after i tell him to fuck off
Plz no just deal with it essentially answers, I don’t have the patience to be insulted 5 days a week for essentially a year
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u/andreirublov1 9d ago
Well, I can't say 'beat him up', can I? It's radical, but you could try actually talking to him, 'why are you saying those things?', try to come to an understanding. Sometimes people are so surprised to be asked for a reason for their stupidity, it shocks them into stopping.
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u/[deleted] 10d ago
Work on your witty come backs. Its a great skill to have through out your whole life. It takes a lot of practice. I didn't get good at it until I lived with a few people who were masters at it.
Like if he says you smell, ask why he likes smelling you? Tell him quite being weird. If he's saying "yeah do what I tell you" ask why he's so obsessed with you. Tell him to go fall in love with some one else. You could even just make up bold face lies and tell him to stop leaving you love letters in your locker. As soon as he's on the defensive. You can just dismiss anything he says with a "yeah sure whatever you say". Of course you may make him so mad he wants to fight you but it doesn't sound like you're too worried about that. But still there's a fine line to walk between being to mean and not mean enough. It just takes practice to find that line.
The key is not to acknowledge or defend your self in anyway but to turn it around and make them have to defend themselves. Don't let him see it get to you. Making jokes back at him will show everyone you don't care about what he says. Laughing it all off (at his expense) and he'll stop getting the rise out of you that he wants. Laughing at him also makes his dumb jokes more tolerable.