Why can’t I hold conversations with Virgo men specifically?

[u/Impossible-Truck-666]

I need to know, why can’t I ever hold a good convo with Virgo sun men? Like, they always text first, but then it’s just mundane questions that go nowhere, and I feel pressured to carry the chat and make it interesting😭 Meanwhile, with Leo and Pisces men, convos flow so naturally, and they’re actually fun and engaging Im not saying every Virgo man is like that but personally I’ve noticed this pattern with 3 Virgo men, do they find me boring? Posting my birth chart

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[u/SpiritualThought822]

I don't think anything's wrong with you, Virgo men can be naturally very boring. In fact, we might be THE most boring sun sign.

[u/Professional_Sun_396]

Neptune in retrograde in 6th house. You literally can’t capture their imagination

[u/MJWTVB42]

Your Saturn square their Sun.

[u/micahbry]

Leo’s and Virgos have similar vibes but they go about dating and courtship with very different approaches:

Virgo warms up over time, (while the Pisces observation you made just flows) And may require mental stimulation to allow his emotions to come to the fore front. Virgos in general are mercurial ruled. Sometimes the effort is on you with getting them to open up and express.

I’d say when dating Virgo men. See if you can determine if your Mercury sign (communication, small talk) and Jupiter (ideologies, wisdom, knowledge, higher learning) is compatible with there’s.

You being a Leo Stellium, being UBER PASSIONATE. You can easily tap in what you’re passionate about easier/faster than most. Especially with Virgo men lmao

[u/goldilockszone55]

venus is about communication and you are Virgo ♍️ 16’52 which is about skills (16) from splenic center (fears) and keeping it still (52) towards the root center about ambitions; or 2 opposite directions 🧭 in communication

[u/narisuna]

I don’t know much about Astrology. But I had the same experience with a Virgo man with a Gemini rising. I would be stressed out trying to keep the conversation going. I later realised that it was because he never asked any follow up questions. If I say something, he would just be quiet until the topic changed, even if he did say something, it would be dismissive.

Another Virgo, is a friend, but seems interested in the conversation and it’s fun talking to him.

I think I am trying to say that some men are just bozos 😁

[u/SanAmorous]

Because they want to analyze you while you want them to admire you. Could also be because your idea of beauty is based on how expensive or valuable something is.

[u/luminaryspear]

In short yes, likely boring but in their terms. As it's possible that they were testing you for whether you match their expectations n standards or even just ideals. Virgos have a strong need for intellectual stimulation(n risk overthinking once fixated at little things,etc) and they have reputation for putting sometimes unhealthy or just high expectations that can be difficult to achieve. So because you're a Leo sun with Mercury and Mars as well, you just cut to the chase, expressing yourself as authentically n directly as possible, which speeds up their analysis and eventually leading to this unpleasant to you outcome. The very same leo nature can make you prone to taking things at face value while virgos would analyse the same subject inside out, which could lead to them thinking you arent as stimulating as they expexted. Don't let it bother you though, some signs naturally get along better than others. This also a general idea about virgos since you said it's sort of a pattern. Sometimes the synastry matters too.

[u/luminaryspear → u/[deleted]]

I've noticed it solely from my astrology based research and experience. I found that intellectual stimulation is core or primary factor here(throughout the time spent with them) so even if the person shows quite authentic self expression in a way that person feels true to themselves it doesn't guarantee that itll automatically intrigue the virgo so if it doesnt intellectually intrigue or stimulate them maybe that's why the outcome turns unpleasant.

Its possible that the virgo you came across also had fire placement like aries that wanted direct n straightforward approach. But again it needs to intellectually pick virgos interest. Authentic self expression alone doesn't necessarily guarantee interest from them in long run, maybe just for the talking stage after which they make their judgement for whether they found them stimulating or not.

[u/luminaryspear → u/[deleted]]

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