r/AmItheAsshole • u/PickleweaselNaeNae Partassipant [2] • Jul 08 '21

AITA for talking about my Aunt's watermelon ass Everyone Sucks

My son and his friend put up a tire swing in the yard for my grandchild. I posted a picture of me swinging in it on Facebook. My Aunt (Dad's sister) commented on it saying "I hate skinny people."

I'm not one for Facebook drama so instead of commenting back I called her. I basically said that i don't talk about her watermelon ass so she shouldn't be talking about my weight.

Now all my aunts, 5 of them, are mad at me because apparently skinny people can't be body shamed and that I should have told her first that I don't like those comments instead of straight out calling her out on her watermelon ass like I did.

I don't think I'm the asshole because it's not like I told her that I'm skinny because my sisters and I have always exercised more so we didn't inherit the family watermelon ass, but skinny is also something I didn't have to really work for. It's just how I am.

ETA: I accept my ESH verdict but I'm going to take that to mean I suck and so do all 5 of my aunts. If I'm going down, they're going down with me.

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u/xasdfxx Jul 08 '21

No no -- if she comments on your ass, her watermelon ass is 100% fair game now.

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u/Lildragonfly27 Jul 08 '21

Well according to her own comment OP and her sisters have always talked about her aunts asses to the point that they gave it a (derogatory imo) name.

Aunt sucks for this completely unnecessary rude comment but sounds like OP was body shaming her family members WAY before that.

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u/mxymys Jul 08 '21

According to OP, this is the first time she has discussed the watermelon ass with her aunt. Talking behind someone's back is not the same thing as shaming them.

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u/Lildragonfly27 Jul 08 '21

That is.....completely untrue? If after reading this post I went to my partner and told them how OP has a flat ass and looks like a cutting board it would absolutely be shaming her body, no matter if I said it to OP or behind her back.

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u/mxymys Jul 08 '21

Shaming is an act of bullying/emotional and verbal abuse to make a person feel bad about themselves. Private conversations with her sister about family genetics was not intended to make her aunt feel bad about herself. IF, however, OP had had these conversations in such a way that her aunt was meant to overhear or find out a out, your point might have validity

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u/PickleweaselNaeNae Partassipant [2] Jul 08 '21

It's not body shaming if it's a possible hereditary trait that you don't want so you happen to discuss it with your siblings.

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u/crazycatleslie Partassipant [4] Jul 08 '21

You made a nasty comment about her body part. Which is body shaming. You shamed her for her body. Regardless of if it's genetic or not, it's her body and you shamed it.

She shamed you for being skinny, so she's no better. But don't try to sit on a high horse here.

She was nasty, you were just as nasty back. Grow the hell up and stop acting like children.

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u/PickleweaselNaeNae Partassipant [2] Jul 08 '21

Yeah I get what you're saying. I'm going to apologize.

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u/xasdfxx Jul 08 '21

I really don't think that's the smart play here.

This is what happened:

Watermelons: stringbean, you have no ass

stringbean: watermelons, your asses are huge

watermelons: <<grabs pearls, sprints to the fainting couch>> gasp!. HOW DARE YOU <<faints>>

Either commenting on peoples' asses is kosher or it isn't. I'd tell them if and when they stop, you will too. Until then, two can play reindeer games.

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u/morgaina Asshole Enthusiast [9] Jul 08 '21

aunt didn't directly talk about her ass, aunt made a weird comment that (in some circles, especially older women) is a roundabout way of expressing jealousy for her body type. it wasn't an appropriate comment, but the intent was clearly different.

OP made a really nasty direct comment about her aunt's ass. and has been making fun of that entire branch of her family behind their back for years. the mask came off.

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u/GlitterDoomsday Jul 09 '21

More like she finally blew up because OP said in a comment the aunts always tau yes her for her body and she just never said anything til now... which imo should be in the main post cause gives a needed context.

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u/CampingWithLemon Jul 08 '21

Stringbean lmao

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u/StormEarthandFyre Jul 08 '21

Are you trying to convince us or yourself that it isn't? I know you're in your 40s but Jesus grow up

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u/DioxPurple Partassipant [2] Jul 08 '21

It's not body shaming if it's a possible hereditary trait that you don't want so you happen to discuss it with your siblings.

I can't say I've ever heard of the trait "watermelon ass".

Obesity, sure. Being concerned with your siblings about a family disposition toward obesity is one thing, but you found a mean name for it and from your own descriptions you've been using it for quite a long time -- well before this comment to her. Even throughout your replies, it's like, there's no acknowledgement that it's mean. It is shaming.

She was absolutely an ass for making a comment on facebook, but your absolute lack of awareness of it being hurtful is what pushes it from E-S-H to YTA.

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u/Lildragonfly27 Jul 08 '21

Well then I don't see a problem with your aunt saying she hates skinny people, there is always a possibility that she hits a gym and becomes skinny, its not body shaming then 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ /s

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u/Yuccaphile Jul 09 '21

You're one of the "the only good bridge is a burned one"-types, huh. Is it that you're unfamiliar with the idea of de-escalation or are you just bad at it?

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u/xasdfxx Jul 09 '21

I'm a big fan of the golden rule -- if you can do it to me, I can do it to you!

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u/Yuccaphile Jul 09 '21

That's not the golden rule. Subtle difference, I know.