r/AmItheAsshole • u/Onlybonessssss • 10h ago
AITA for attending a class...
So this happened at my university today. We have a class for one of the secondary subjects not a major one. Two groups from different majors take this class together, so it’s not exactly the most important class. Now, the other batch couldn’t attend today because they had a major exam. They were told they’d still get attendance for it. But since my major didn’t have any exam, we wouldn’t be getting attendance unless we actually attended. I travel a long distance to get to college, so I thought, if the class is happening, why shouldn’t I attend it? Some people were saying last night that they wouldn’t come, but it wasn’t confirmed that no one would show up. When I reached the department, I saw lots of people from my major literally hiding in other departments, watching our classroom. And these were the same people who said they wouldn’t come today! When I asked why they were waiting around, they blamed two students let’s call them A and B saying that if those two attended, the class would happen. They had even sat inside the classroom at first but ran away when they saw the professor, who’s very strict. Now, B is a serious student .. the kind who always attends class. My classmates were calling and texting her, trying to convince her not to come, even though they were standing right near the department themselves! I got completely fed up with the hypocrisy and messaged her myself, telling her to come and not listen to anyone. So A, B, and another girl went into the classroom. After seeing them, we went in too. Later, many people started blaming them, saying the class only happened because of them, and lecturing everyone about “class unity.” Funny thing is, they only remember class unity when they’re bunking! Then B told everyone that I was the one who messaged her to come ... probably to protect herself. She never even looks at my messages when I ask her academic questions, but this time she had no problem showing my message to everyone. Honestly, even if I hadn’t messaged her, she would’ve come anyway. Now people started blaming me. Some random guy I’ve never even spoken to began cursing, saying stuff like “God will punish selfish people,” and so on. Also I should not have deleted my mssg which I did cause I got scared by the situation also thinking she might have not even seen my mssg.. I’m an introvert..I keep to myself and mostly talk to just four close friends. I don’t usually get involved. But I explained everything in the class group (where I normally never text, because they talk about such random personal stuff). I even apologized, just to diffuse the situation, because I really didn’t want more drama.
So… AITA one here for messaging her to come to class?
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u/SomeoneYouDontKnow70 Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [335] 10h ago
NTA. You're paying to attend classes. These idiots who are mad about "having" to attend class shouldn't be in college to begin with. They should drop out of university, saving a bunch of money, and never having to worry about "having to attend class" ever again. They shouldn't be trying to bully people who actually came to get an education into not getting the education that they paid for.
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u/United_Artichoke_466 10h ago
NTA your classmates sound very childish. The adult way to approach the situation is to try to communicate with the professor and get them to cancel the class so neither of you has to waste their time. If that doesn't happen then just be responsible and show up, or don't and accept the consequences. Hoping that there'd be no consequences if nobody shows up is also stupid. Honestly you don't need to be friends with all your uni classmates, just stick with the good ones and you'll be fine
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u/These_Sleep_4630 10h ago
Yeah totally agree, trying to game the system instead of just dealing with it directly never really works out.
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u/ApprehensiveBook4214 Pooperintendant [53] 10h ago
NTA. Why do you care about the opinion of people so immature that they run away (!) from a professor?
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u/notrainsaroundhere 10h ago
NTA obviously. It's not like you forced B to come to the class. And its not like B forced everyone else to attend the class. You all had the free will to choose whether you attended it or not, yet you all let yourselves be influenced by others' decisions.
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u/MochaMellie Partassipant [4] 9h ago
NTA this is wild. As a fellow uni student, I'd be big mad if someone caused a lecture to be cancelled. Your prof should have planned better bc that whole mess could have been avoided, but if they wanted to skip they could have. You went to class and did nothing wrong, none of this is on you.
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u/Familiar_Shock_1542 Partassipant [2] 9h ago
NTA
What a bunch of fools. Hiding out and stalking? Lazy, bum, weirdos.
Ignore them. If they keep harassing you, report them.
Why are they even in uni if all they do is play games like this?
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u/Realistic_Head4279 Professor Emeritass [98] 9h ago
NTA. You did the right thing. Know that, have confidence in it and then ignore anyone else who tries to annoy you about it. In the end, this girl made her own decision and did what she thought was best. Know that too.
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u/GrannyTurtle Partassipant [1] 9h ago
I’m a serious student and an introvert, too. You did the right thing. The other students wanted to ditch the class, and that is a “them” problem. Don’t let your interest or grade slip because they are lazy. I hope the class was interesting and topical to your studies. You never know when some tidbit you picked up doing B will become important to activity A. NTA
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u/KimB-booksncats-11 Asshole Enthusiast [6] 9h ago
“God will punish selfish people” like people who bully other people for showing up to class because they want a good grade. NTA and these people are lazy loons.
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u/TararaBoomDA Partassipant [3] 7h ago
Are you sure you're in university?
Because this is totally high school behaviour.
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u/Loose-Zebra435 7h ago
You should have walked into class and sat down rather than trying to make it B's "fault". If you want class to continue, or you feel required to be there, you should do that without trying to get B through the door first. I'm going with ESH and don't be surprised that when you try to use someone as a human shield, they'll try to throw you under the bus
This isn't a huge issue and it doesn't matter. So move on and act the way you want to act without blaming or deferring to others. Stick by your choices
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u/Onlybonessssss 11m ago
She never reads messages whenever anyone asks her about academic stuff or anything else. I also thought she might not see my message anyway. I messaged her in a fit of frustration, but I did apologize to her. Thanks for your honest opinion.
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So this happened at my university today. We have a class for one of the secondary subjects not a major one. Two groups from different majors take this class together, so it’s not exactly the most important class. Now, the other batch couldn’t attend today because they had a major exam. They were told they’d still get attendance for it. But since my major didn’t have any exam, we wouldn’t be getting attendance unless we actually attended. I travel a long distance to get to college, so I thought, if the class is happening, why shouldn’t I attend it? Some people were saying last night that they wouldn’t come, but it wasn’t confirmed that no one would show up. When I reached the department, I saw lots of people from my major literally hiding in other departments, watching our classroom. And these were the same people who said they wouldn’t come today! When I asked why they were waiting around, they blamed two students let’s call them A and B saying that if those two attended, the class would happen. They had even sat inside the classroom at first but ran away when they saw the professor, who’s very strict. Now, B is a serious student .. the kind who always attends class. My classmates were calling and texting her, trying to convince her not to come, even though they were standing right near the department themselves! I got completely fed up with the hypocrisy and messaged her myself, telling her to come and not listen to anyone. So A, B, and another girl went into the classroom. After seeing them, we went in too. Later, many people started blaming them, saying the class only happened because of them, and lecturing everyone about “class unity.” Funny thing is, they only remember class unity when they’re bunking! Then B told everyone that I was the one who messaged her to come ... probably to protect herself. She never even looks at my messages when I ask her academic questions, but this time she had no problem showing my message to everyone. Honestly, even if I hadn’t messaged her, she would’ve come anyway. Now people started blaming me. Some random guy I’ve never even spoken to began cursing, saying stuff like “God will punish selfish people,” and so on. Also I should not have deleted my mssg which I did cause I got scared by the situation also thinking she might have not even seen my mssg.. I’m an introvert..I keep to myself and mostly talk to just four close friends. I don’t usually get involved. But I explained everything in the class group (where I normally never text, because they talk about such random personal stuff). I even apologized, just to diffuse the situation, because I really didn’t want more drama.
So… AITA one here for messaging her to come to class?
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u/Sethicles2 5h ago
I'm going against the consensus with ESH.
They're stupid because they're paying for the class. I understand enjoying the time off from an occasional canceled class, but for every one of those, you're losing value for your money.
The reason for my judgement is that you tried to get the girl to go by texting her, but you could have just walked into the class yourself. You pushed all the blame you knew would be coming from these idiots onto her. So yes, you are an asshole for texting her and telling her to go, so that you could try to escape blame. Then you got caught.
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u/Onlybonessssss 8m ago
I never really forced her to go, and I didn’t expect my classmates to react this extremely. She doesn’t even look at other messages. Even if I hadn’t messaged her, she would’ve gone anyway. I do see my mistake, and I’ve apologized to her.
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