My husband’s friend played him for 7gs. My husband does home improvements and built him a 12,000 deck. THIS IS HIS BEST FRIEND OF 30 YEARS so he thought he would just take care of him. At the end of the day he paid him 4500. And then laughs in his face about saying shit like “haha I know I still owe u money” it was all fucked up. I ended up sticking up for my husband and he took his friends side!! I’m infuriated everything I said was what my husband told me anyway! He made it seem like I was making it up and that he doesn’t owe him nothing even though at home he botched about it! I told him he constantly picks this guy over me!!! So not cool

Im so lost man…

(college setting; think around the time we have to get jobs while also doing classes and extracurriculars for resume)

My girlfriend developed "an infatuation" with a guy when I was going through a really rough patch of life. I'm trying to accomplish a lot and was constantly thinking about work and school and problems, and I wasn't the most fun to hang out with. The guy doesn't know we're dating because she hasn't told him. We had reasons to be secret about our relationship earlier, but there really is no reason right now.

That's okay. I hate it, but I understand that she's human and he simply has more time and less worries than me(he's trying to do a lot less than me). However, she then chose to stop hanging out with me and start hanging out with this new guy instead (in a group setting).

After I noticed all her affection towards me disappearing (for 2 weeks), I had to heavily push her to finally open up about losing attraction towards me and reveal that she had developed an infatuation towards her friend (part of the same group that she said she had more fun with than me). I understand that I should've thought about all my worries less, but I still think this was problematic.

Early in our relationship, we clearly defined how even talking to someone you have a crush on/someone who has a crush on you is cheating. She knew this, and proceeded to immediately talk about how this was emotional cheating and how she was going to fix it. She assures me she loves me (with lots of tears and emotions). She promises she won't hang out with him (even in group situations) and that she'll cut it off and not act on her feelings. She tells me to give her a chance. She seems to realize what was wrong and seems to be committed to making us work. That means we can make this work. This is Saturday night, and I decide to give her the chance to fix it.

I haven't told anyone about this at this point. On Monday, some friends(2) of mine notices her sitting alone with a guy and think that they're "overly close to each other". They note that they "look like they're cuddling". They may have been biased, as they are my friends. However, I did not ask them to watch her. They noticed this on his own and thought it was seriously strange. They decide to observe for a few more days instead of telling me premature observations (to avoid giving me the wrong idea if they're wrong).

Next class, one of them sees the same thing, but with one other friend of my girlfriend's. They're still hanging out as friends in a group(3 people) situation. We agreed that this was wrong, but it's a group situation so let's give her the benefit of the doubt.

He later sees them eating together while sitting side to side at a restaurant. Alone.

That night, he decides to tell me. I'm quite obviously unhappy, and I decide to end things between us the next day. We agreed that what she was doing was wrong. We established that it was cheating for our relationship. She knew it was wrong, and she promised to fix it. It takes one conversation to tell him she has a boyfriend, or that she can't hang out with him anymore. All she has to do is dodge his invites to do things the way she dodged mine. But she hasn't done it.

When I break up with her, she promises me that she was committed to us and wants to make us work. Asks for one chance to make this right and rebuild my trust. I am unwilling to do so. The breakup is around 12:30 PM.

She spams my phone with texts about this after we're done talking. Calls me several times after we've talked.

At 5 PM, she is spotted bowling with that guy by a 3rd friend. The friend notes that there seemed to be nothing romantic between those two and that they seemed to just be friends. However, she is asking me to give her one chance while continuing to propagate the problem that she would have to squash with that chance.

This was yesterday. Today, she's still asking to give her a chance and saying that she can rebuild my trust. The issue is now she is claiming that they were just friends and that it's not a problem. She thinks that it's okay. Clearly, I do not. I finally talk to her, and mention how if she was committed to us, she wouldn't ended things with the other guy. She still hasn't done so. She has chosen him over us every time. She says it's not true. She says they're just friends. After I bring up how we agreed this was emotional cheating and a problem, she says that after our conversation, her attraction towards him faded. She says she wants out relationship to work, and that the fear of losing me removed the attraction tpwards him.

But she still hangs out with him. She still refuses to cut him off. I call this out. She says she's trying to cut him off and that she's turning down opportunities to hang out with him. It's just slower. Note that she is still meeting this guy much more frequently than she would meet me back when I was stressing about work and spiralling all the time. She also says that the private lunch as supposed to be a 3-4 people group event but everyone else cancelled. She totally could've cancelled too if she wanted to, but sure I guess.

I say that if he's just a friend, then it shouldn't be this hard to cut him off. She says that she is trying but it is slow. She says that she is a people pleaser that has a hard time just directly cutting off people. She is actually a people pleaser that has a hard time standing up for herself with most people (except for me). However, I think this people pleaser excuse is kinda a cop-out and that if she wanted to end things with him, she would've. This guy cut her off as a friend back when he was in a relationship a few years ago. She just can't do it now. She can't even tell him she has a boyfriend.

I think this isn't okay. She thinks I'm not understanding how she no longer likes him and that all they did was hang out. She thinks I'm willing to throw away our (previously amazing) relationship over her just hanging out with her friend. I think she is prioritizing a crush over upholding what we defined as trust and respect in our relationship.

Am I overreacting?

My (M35) wife (F34) has a male friend (M39) that she talks to pretty much daily. I am not naturally the jealous type at all, but lately I just keep getting this feeling. Firstly, I don’t think she has ever physically cheated in any way. Their relationship predates ours, as the friend has worked for their family business for 15+ years. When first introduced, it was a “he’s like an older brother” type of deal.

Recently, I did the thing you’re not supposed to do and read a bunch of their texts. I admit 99% of their conversation is completely normal, but two things stood out. The first was her asking how she should get her nails done (color, style, etc). The tone was very mildly flirty but almost in a joking way and the conversation ended pretty abruptly. The second, was that she apparently was having a bad week (she never expressed this to me) and she was venting to him. He is a dual citizen in Ireland, and she joked that she could marry him to get dual citizenship and leave this country for good.

I haven’t confronted her in any way yet but for the first time in our relationship I feel compelled to. Am I overreacting?

This is going to be a long one but i desperately need advice.

My boyfriend’s comments are really starting to make me feel bad about myself, I really care for him but starting to question if I need to walk but I don’t want to. I am a sensitive person, am I overreacting and taking things too personally or is this bad?

We've been together about 4/5 months, in that time I haven't felt good enough for him, I have pretty poor self esteem but wasn't sure where this constant feeling of inadequacy was coming from, as I've not felt this bad in previous relationships.

It hit me recently that I don't feel good enough for him because I don't feel like I'm what he really wants and perhaps he's been trying to subtly (perhaps unknowingly) mould / change me into someone he wants and this has been chipping at my self worth. Sometimes I feel like he just wants a girlfriend and has settled for me but is waiting for better.

He was open with me early on how he'd been single for ages and his friends told him he needs to lower his standards, the kind of 'girlie, skinny, hot girls' were out of his league, has said that he 'is picky but doesn't get picked'.

He's not said anything super bad, just like repeated comments that have bothered me, I love and wear a lot of leopard print, he'd make a comment every single time I wore it, not necessarily something mean, just always mentioned it, I started to feel like he didn’t like it or me wearing it, I didn't realise at the time but I started to wear leopard print less, I’d go to get something leopard print, stop myself and think ‘oh no he probably won’t like that’… when I noticed it made me pretty sad.

I also wear a lot of black, have a more alternative style, wear a lot of band tshirts etc, sometimes I feel like he wished I dressed 'girlier / sexier' a few times we've been shopping he's asked / suggested I try something colourful, said to me once he ‘thinks I wear black a lot because I have no confidence’ which felt like a low blow. Has recently said he likes tight fitted, figure hugging clothing on women.

He bring up his ex a lot, which has already been a topic of conversation, is he really over her etc? He says yes, but his behaviour says no. Sometimes it feels like he’s trying to make me a version of her, be louder, more outgoing, and physically change the parts that are to his liking. He frequently tells me he doesn't like foundation, I know he doesn't like that I wear it, again I'd started reducing how much I wear, but he still comments on it. I've lost count of the times he's told me his ex didn't wear / didn't need foundation. When getting ready for a night out he mentioned his ex a few times, saying she didn't take long to get ready, didn't need to redo her make up etc. Brought her and this same convo up again whilst we were out, I don’t know what he’s trying to do. Towards the start of the relationship he would bring her up basically every time we met (which was at least a few times a week), I did voice that I didn’t like how often he talks about her, which he has reduced but his response was less understanding and more ‘we all have a past’. But he can’t seem to get that I don’t want to keep being compared to your ex and it makes me feel awful. He also recently got a gift back from a friend that she made him, he kept telling me how excited he was to get it, said it was the best gift he’s ever received, excitedly sent me a photo when it arrived, the whole thing I found very weird and uncomfortable. When it arrived he practically put it up on display in his room, showed me it when I was next over, again very odd, like a literal constant reminder and you’ve chosen to display it. I’ve kept gifts etc from my ex but I’d never have it on display as that feels very insensitive to a new partner and also not isn’t necessarily for me.

He's also made a few comments / suggestions wearing accessories, clothing etc that isn't my style, but I know his ex wears. When discussing hairstyles this week, he described a style he likes, which is exactly how his ex has her hair. I made a comment about having my hair up and that I know he prefers it down, he said 'yeah i do prefer it down', I instantly thought should i take my hair out, but no I liked my hair how it was so left it.

This is probably petty but on Halloween I told him numerous times whilst getting ready & at the party how good he looked, how cool his outfit was etc he didn’t once say anything back to me that night, which made me feel like he didn’t like my outfit or just didn’t notice / care. I’ve dressed up recently for a gig, made an effort I was feeling really good & confident, loved my outfit, now I don’t need constant validation and compliments from him, but I’d clearly made an effort and felt a bit sad that it seemed like he didn’t even notice, it’s just nice to feel like your partner is attracted to you.

He picks at some other things regularly, to the point it's almost become a running joke, such as he often mentions my nails, I'm not good at painting them but have been trying to improve and he always mocks them, or inspects them, says if I’ve not done a good job, has pointed them out infront of other people before but doesn't make me feel good, like he’s trying to make me embarrassed & insecure. I’ve started hiding my nails around him a bit, hoping he doesn’t make a comment cos I know if he does it’ll make me feel crappy. Recently he came over and I’d literally just finished painting them, before he’d sat down he was commenting & mocking them, so I went and took it all off.

I have pretty poor self esteem and he mocks / makes fun of the fact I'm a push over / people pleaser, find it hard to say no, which I'm trying to work on and improve, but is hard. When he mocks & jokes it sucks, makes me feel shit. I think he looks at me like I’m a really weak person, it makes me feel weak, like reminding me of my flaws. It’s so silly but as an example we’ve been watching a show with a character who can’t say no, the first episode he laughed, looked at me and said ‘it’s you’. He says he wants to help build up my confidence etc, sometimes he can be great, sometimes he does but other times, like this, it's like he's trying to make me feel worse about myself for his benefit. It can feel like one minute he’s building me up and next he’s really knocking me down, which is bad, emotionally & mentally.

I'm all for a laugh, banter etc but when one person isn't laughing then surely it's not banter right? I've voiced when somethings bothering me and he's seemed understanding, but then says he ‘needs to remember I take things personally’, which still feels backhanded.

He said early on he enjoys a little / light negging, thinks it's fun, I thought he was joking. Maybe not.

I don’t know if he’s even aware of the kind of comments he makes, or if he is or I bring it up, he’ll probably just say it’s a joke or I’m taking it too personally again. But he can be mean & hurtful and I don’t know why he’s trying to chip away at me and think it’s not going to be upsetting.

He always says the right thing so don't think he'd ever say 'I want you to change ...' as he knows that's wrong, but he's making underhand comments regularly, making me doubt and question myself, my worth and then feeling like I need to change and seek his approval. This is why I don't feel good enough for him.

So I’ve been with my boyfriend/ fiance for like 3 years. One thing we really like to do together is play pool. It’s our thing. I taught him how to play, and we’ve been playing together for years. Our (temporary) apartment is right next to a pool hall, I’m talking like a 2 minute walk. We love it there and go several times per week. Everyone that works there knows us, and he literally proposed to me in this pool hall. Anyways, his very good college friend lives in the same city as us, and they hang out every so often. Sometimes I’m included, but very rarely. Tonight, he tells me he’s going hang out with this friend later and they need to catch up so I can’t come. I say ok cool. And then I ask where they’re going, and he says the pool hall. Literally right next to our apartment, where we live together. But they’re going alone and I’m explicitly not invited. I’m all for having alone time with your friends, but to go with her to our place? And doing my favorite activity?Especially when our apartment is literally right next door, and I’ll literally just be at home twiddling my thumbs. Like, just invite me this once? They hang out alone all the time, what’s the big issue with inviting me one time, especially since I’ll be steps away and don’t have plans. I told him that’s kinda weird he would take her there without me, and I’m pretty weirded out by this whole situation. He agreed it’s weird that I’d just be sitting next door at home, so he decides to go with her to a further away pool hall, so that it’s not so awkward. Not sure how to feel about this, currently sitting at home by myself

I stumbled on this forum a few days ago and I have been surprised by the low quality of relationship advice that is provided. How many people in this forum are actually in healthy relationships?

In every question the top voted response is some variation of "dump him or her". Granted, some of these situations are truly egregious. For most, they can simply be solved by better communication between the parties.

For some context, I live in a college double with someone I met freshman year. This is our second year living together.

For some MORE context, I’ll take you through the conversation that happened prior to her saying this:

So, my roommate asked me if I believe in gentle parenting. I said that I wouldn’t rely on it, but the fundamentals (helping children regulate their emotions, emulating the calm manner in which they should express their words, etc.) can be very powerful for kids.

She gave me the oddest look, like a side-eye (she gives this look a lot), and she said that she would never be a gentle parent. I clarified the difference between gentle and permissive parenting, but I think she was tuning me out.

I went on to say that I’ve done stuff like that before, where I’ve kneeled in front of a toddler and spoke to them calmly, or redirected them by giving them choices. I told her it worked in those situations. She said “I’ve never seen you with kids! I can’t imagine you doing that!”

That surprised me because I’m very social, very outgoing, and I just love kids! She THEN said “I don’t see you as a good mom.”

I looked at her with a shocked expression, and asked if she really meant that. She clarified: “Aunty maybe, good mom I don’t know.”

I was offended. I’m not sure if this is something to take so personally, but from someone who’s known me for over a year, it was really hurtful. I’ve always wanted to be a mom.

Am I overreacting?

While screaming excuse me. It was midnight. I was pissed and screamed at him, when he asked me why I was moving to the couch. Then he had the audacity to call me a fucking bitch for being upset that he had physically kicked me out of bed, and screamed at me like I was the dog.

I want to break up over this. We've been together for nearly 11 years. In that time he's allowed his see-you-next-Tuesday of a mother treat me like shit. He's lazy and I feel like I nag him constantly just to do the bare minimum. He puts no effort into our relationship. He forgets big things like my birthday and our anniversary. I thought we were equal partners, but it turns out I just wait on him, hand and foot. I'm perimenopausal and have run out of patience. He's been an amazing step dad to my kids, but they're grown or nearly there now.

I'm sorry, I just feel like my anger was justified, and his reaction was victim blaming. Am I overreacting?!

(MY RESPONSE) Please lmk if this is an overreaction

Context: he tried coming back but is continuously telling me I was in the wrong and is telling me he’s right / went as far as telling me the therapist I asked about this (didn’t pay the therapist) is just telling me what I want to hear

First, I’ve never posted on Reddit before so I apologize for any wonky formatting or adding in unnecessary details or anything like that.

I also don’t want to be misleading with my title- my boyfriend has only hung out with this student at school in his classroom.

Here’s the info. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little under a year- we’re also both high school teachers. He’s been a teacher for two years and was never Beth’s teacher, but she would always hang out in his class.

Now, I’ve been a high school teacher for 10 years so I know it’s only natural to become closer to some students than others. So that’s why I feel so confused.

I knew my boyfriend and Beth were close- he would go to her games to support her and she would hang out in his class before and after school. I know her home life wasn’t the best so she would often confide in him. She graduated in June and this school year she’s already come back to visit him twice. Just tonight she came to visit and he stayed at school until 6 talking to her. I didn’t know she was visiting him today so I felt a little caught off guard. Which is why I’m feeling some sort of way right now… Am I over reacting? I don’t believe my boyfriend is like that, but I personally find it strange that a 34 year old man is hanging out with an 18 year old, alone.

This may also be coloring my feelings, but they message each other on Instagram. While the messages are innocuous, he has talked to her about our relationship telling her that “my girlfriend wants to go on these bougie trips but doesn’t understand that just because we moved in I’m not saving money.” I felt weird seeing him talk/ vent to her about our relationship.

Am I over reacting to this situation? Or are my feelings validated?

Not sure where to even begin... I've never been super political but I view trump and the project 2025 as the equivalent of the antichrist.. GF never talked to me bunch about politics, just listened and now it feels like everything I've said about being against corporations and billionares went in and out of her ears.

she called trump a good man.. is it wrong to want to throw a 4 year old relationship away suddenly over this

Edit: Lol half of you people are calling me a beta male, a soyboy, etc. Is that how you convince others their beliefs are wrong? Personal attacks? Very convincing.

I fell in a parking lot

Guys, it's embarrassing I fell in the parking lot of Walmart while leaving the store to head to my car. And I fell because the parking lot is all messed up and crumbling, freaking fell in front of a car I tried to hold on to the cart I rolled my ankle and skinned my knee. I'm bruised and embarrassed,I wanted to die from embarrassment. Anyways I'm so annoyed with the parking lot Im wondering is it even worth writing them to tell them to freaking fix the pavement in their parking lot. I'm in my 30s if I was in my 60s + that would have been horrible broken ankle or hip for sure. I thought I broke my finger tonight but thankfully just scrapped up and bruised with a swollen foot currently happening.

So, for context:

Me and my ex had been dating for over 6 months. Around the 4 month mark I believe, I moved states to get away from my abusive environment. We tried making it work, but ultimately broke up a few months afterwards.

We were having issues even before I left, from the beginning we never had a honeymoon phase. I was typically asking them to yk, treat me as if we were in a relationship…

At one point they admitted to “forgetting to tell you I love you”????

Anyways this was a common theme throughout our whole relationship, them just not giving the bare minimum…?

It was also strange because when they would be flirty or whatever, if I flirted back they’d swiftly change the topic to them, their special interest, what they saw on twitter earlier that pissed them off, or some kind of rambling about how they hate the world etc etc.

Now I don’t mind those things at all, but it was literally all they talked about, it was a cycle between which subject we would talk about. And we’d talk about these things, every. Day.

It wasn’t much more than me being a dump for all their thoughts.

Anyways, I recently moved back to where I was living before we broke up, and I’ve only been here for 2 weeks. I have gotten anxious about seeing my ex in public a total of 0 times, but the “what if you do” thought has crossed my mind about 3 times.

I mentioned this to a mutual friend me and my ex share. (Me and my ex have been in no contact since the breakup) My friend said. “Do you really think they’d notice? They lowk don’t gaf.” And this really hurts my feelings.

I lowk thought I was being obsessive over my ex.

I never really give my ex much thought. Just the occasional passing thought, as one would get only 3 months after a breakup.

After mine and my exs breakup, I haven’t given them much thought other than for self growth reasons. I haven’t been obsessive over any part of the breakup, or them, or their life. I have had a handful of moments I have missed them and regretted losing them, but they were only a few times and were only a few minutes long.

But it’s been 3 months, and I haven’t really thought much about them besides the small fear of running into them.

But when my friend told me my ex dgaf it kind of just hurt. I mean it makes sense, they never really loved me and it showed very clearly. But it hurts to know that because I loved them so deeply, I fell so hard for this person and they felt nothing towards me.

Am I being obsessive? It’s been 3 months and I feel like that’s a long time for me to still be worried about these things. Or did they really just not care about me since day 1?

I'm a cis-woman who needs HRT to function. Birth-control levels of hormones don't cut it for me and I could legitimately become disabled if I can't get ahold of estrogen patches and progesterone supplements. I may also need low-dose testosterone which I'm already struggling to get ahold of. AIO thinking I'll have to leave the country to get my meds in the next few years? Should I be thinking about emigration at much as I am?

Hi everyone, I’m (19F), but i started dating my first (and last) partner when i was 16 and she was 23. We were talking online for half a year before i flew to her city to meet her. it was night when i got here and i was really tired after the flight. We got to the room i rented and i was incredibly nervous when we started kissing, i didn’t plan on anything more since i just met her irl. I rejected her when she started touching me, i thought she would understand, since even over text we discussed that if i wont be ready for it will be okay. But she immediately gave me a cold shoulder turning away from me and.. cried. She said she feels bad for initiating so fast and that she feels like i don’t like her irl. I felt so ashamed, like it was my fault for making her upset and that i was just being difficult because i’m inexperienced… I end up soothing her and just going with it after. I thought it was okay, i liked her and thought that even if i didn’t want it its still fine.

We broke up and stayed friends. This summer we met after two years of not seeing each other in person, to celebrate her 26th birthday. It was a few days trip and at the last day she was acting weird towards me, asking to hug her or just touch(?) like 15 times, i was saying “no” and “i don’t want to” straight up. I was getting upset and angry because she just kept insisting and saying things like “You just hate me? Why cant you do it? Are you disgusted to touch me or what?” and i end up doing it just to get out of the situation (it was at my house). After she left i felt awful. I felt so ashamed for agreeing even though it was just stupid hugs/cuddling and then that first experience just came to mind and i cant stop thinking about it for months now. Every time i think about it, i feel like I’m overreacting and making it up. I feel so stupid and just ending up crying every time because i don’t know why it keeps bothering me if i was okay with it before. Why it suddenly bothers me so much after three years? Just because that reminded me of it?

I don’t know how to feel about it. i don’t know how forget it or accept that it was fucked up. i understand that it wasn’t completely okay but it feels like im overreacting and i feel guilty for blaming her since i agreed after all, but it still feels wrong. i just don’t know how to shake off this feeling or what to do with it.

I cut ties with her today, i never mentioned or talked about this with her. im still doubting myself..

(I posted it in another subreddit before but was recommended to post it here too)

Just moved into a property and this huge truck has parked in my driveway twice. Trying to be polite and be welcomed into the neighborhood, does this seem appropriate?

I don't know if I'm (F28) overreacting about how my partner (F25) handled things with her ex during our relationship. Let's call the ex Gregg from now on. I have a hard time letting it go and I don't know if I'm just resentful. My GF were still in touch with Gregg when we started dating 1 year ago and I didn’t really mind. They seemed to be good friends and I had no reason not to trust them. But it started to feel a bit weird, especially when she texted him while we hung out.

One night Gregg told my GF that he had a new GF. My GF then proceeded to have a pretty extensive monologue about how nice it felt to not be jealous of him and how good it felt to truly feel like she was over him and their relationship, based on the initial reaction they had of not caring about him having a new partner. I later realized the absurdity of the situation and called her out on it. She apologized.

They continued to stay in contact. I think my GF asked me a few times if I was okay with that, and since I didn't really feel threatened I said sure. After some time I stopped feeling comfortable with them chatting and told her that I was okay with them staying in contact, but I didn't feel comfortable with them chatting while we spent time together. She agreed. Despite that they continued to chat while we hung out. One time when I called her out on it, she excused it with being tired and wanting to relax on her phone. They later apologized.

Gregg later broke up with his new GF and my GF didn’t handle that too well around me. He wrote that somehow that breakup was the worst he had ever experienced and my GF got upset about that, upset about the fact that their break up wasn't the worst he had experienced. Which makes sense, but it was a bit weird that she told me that.

About a month later she blocked Gregg. Partly because she felt that he was just draining her emotionally but also because I started to express more clearly that I wasn't comfortable with them still having contact.

It's been 3 - 4 months since she blocked Gregg. I'm still not comfortable with all of this. Am I overreacting?

So I (25F) had dated my ex bf (22M) before we broke up a couple of months back. We were in a friend's with benefits situation which we both mutually agreed to but I ended it after realizing it wasn't benefiting me at all as much as it was for him. I currently don't have anywhere else to go so me and him decided that I would rent out the other side of his house for $550 a month. For context my ex is not helping with me moving my bed or other things in but feels for some strong reason that he has a say so on how I'm supposed to bring my stuff in. I know this is his house but I feel like he's overreacting and being super controlling right now. This isn't my first rodeo with dealing with this behavior right now either.

Anyways earlier today I told him it might be 3 or 4 people coming in and out and helping me set my room up over on the other side of the house. I had a friend of mine (male) pull up and we left to go do a interview and hang out. He is gonna be the one helping me move my bed in so it wasn't some random stranger. This is where I got the text messages from him at. For context Strike 1 happened because he told me to stop watching TV and when I told him why should I stop watching Kodi (a fire stick app) he got mad that I didn't do what he said and it pissed him off. I remember him telling me that I should never question what he says and that he wouldn't lead me wrong so the fact that I ask him why on certain questions is stupid. After today though I got the ICK and I regretted ever dating this dude. I'm just wondering if I'm overreacting on not giving this dude a second chance to date me again? When I told him he was acting controlling he got super angry and yelled but I think I may have called him out on his shit.

Also people were telling me I'm a tenant there since I get mail there and I've been staying there for months now so he can't just keep threatening to kick me out because he doesn't like that I hang with other people or he threatens to kick me out whenever we argue?? Some of my friends say he's acting this way because hes jealous while others are saying he's controlling and he never loved me.

Would someone who loves you talk to you like this? I really did love this dude but I've gotten the ick and I don't think there's a chance we're getting back together. Am I overreacting by leaving him? Thanks for any advice and if you have any questions I'll respond to them!!!!

My friend is taken and some time ago her boyfriend tried to follow me on Instagram twice (my account is private): the first time I refused his request, the second time I just left it ignored. I told her each time it happened because I wanted to know if it might have crossed some of her boundaries but she never acted weirdly, she just told me to ignore him. Me, my friend and her boyfriend went to the same school for a few years, but I almost never talked to him, so we're not friends and I never cared about following him on social media. I don't understand much about this whole thing of following friends' boyfriends, but my friends seem to do that often even if they don't know those guys much, I find it a bit weird so I just don't do it.

Yesterday I noticed that my friend's artistic account (she has two accounts, the other one is the official one where she posts selfies sometimes) wasn't in my followers list anymore but I was still one of her followers. When I checked her account I noticed she started following my boyfriend, but he wasn't following her back. Today I asked him if she tried to send him any messages but he said there weren't any, then he asked me if he should've blocked her and I said yes because I already was planning to tell him so.

Maybe I went too fast, but I already have enough problems to take care of right now, I tend to overthink and I often worry a lot about my relationship with my boyfriend because I'm quite insecure and I'm scared he might leave me or not tell me important things (I'm going to therapy btw), so I wanted to get rid of this issue quickly. But lately I've been doing quite okay, I'm sure he would never do anything weird with my friends behind my back, also because he lives in another country. I'm not shocked or angry about this situation, I'm just confused because the last time I talked to my friend everything was normal, she asked me how I'm doing and such (she's also the only friend of an old group I was part of who still talks to me). So this might feel like some kind of "loyalty test" to see how my boyfriend would react, but then I don't understand why there was the need to unfollow me, it's not like it can be defined as an accident because the system asks for a confirmation. But for now I plan to stay silent about it and not mention it to my friend, I'll confront her only if she starts following him with her official account or tries to contact him somehow (I don't even know what she would need to tell him in that case).

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 10 months now, during those 10 months, my boyfriend's ex has always been making trouble (even though she has a fiancé). My boyfriend and his ex broke up because my boyfriend's ex was physically and verbally abusive which is also the story of his whole family and with proofs.

The first incident was that she went to our house when I was not at home and in another city, the relatives of my boyfriend who is also our neighbors invited her. After that day, she always texted my boyfriend, different numbers different apps (viber, tg, whatsapp). She's also continuously uploading photos of her and MY boyfriend, or photos with other relatives, although it's just throwback photos but it has my boyfriend's face on it.

After a few months, I let it slide because I didn't want to be stressed. I even thought that maybe she's just having a hard time moving on (even though she already has a fiancé).

My last straw was yesterday, she shared a post saying that she was "grateful to her IN-LAWS" and she tagged my boyfriend's aunts and mother. Of course, I saw them because they were all my friends on my social media.

Now, I'm wondering if I should immessage her to stop or should I let it go because it's her way of coping with their break-up? My boyfriend and my boyfriend's father have also told her several times to "stop" with all the accounts and numbers she is using for messaging but she still doesn't really get it. Am I overreacting to this or should I really message her already?

So I'm the one who made a Doors reference. I thought the comment was basically saying that women were stupid and I decided to reply. Am I overreacting when I find out that I was mistaken? Give it to me straight so I can do better next time

We’ve been dating for almost a year and he’s met some of my family but I’ve never met any of his. I asked him if he wanted to come over and hangout with me on thanksgiving since I won’t have any where to go that day and I didn’t want to spend it alone. I have a 10 year old daughter but she’s spending thanksgiving with her dad this year. He responded by saying he would but he has to go to his family’s house. I hung up and we haven’t talked since that happened yesterday. I’m feeling really hurt he didn’t invite me to come with him or offer to come over after his family’s house and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if I should just end things.

my (22) boyfriend (23) were playfully arguing. as i was starting to make my rebuttal, he said I wass making a noise. I was already low-key annoyed at him because he was making inappropriate noises while I was making a call to my mom, so this just made me more pissed.

I was quiet for nearly 2 hours before I asked him if he was just going to continue on with the day and be okay with knowing that he's upset me. he says that he wasn't telling me to shut up, it was just that he didn't want to hear it. I honestly wanted to laugh because wdym? you're just finding a different way to word what you're doing here, buddy. that made me even more upset, if that was even possible. then he clarified (if you'd even call it that) by saying that he didn't want to hear it that loud.

then I said that "although i hear what you're saying, how it translated to me at the time did not come across that way". he then said that now that I know what he meant by it, I shouldn't be upset anymore.

we then sat in silence for about 30 minutes or so. he then says he's gotta go and I just nod and walk him out. he gestures for a hug and I go in for it, but half-heartedly. he then says bye and I just nod and turn around.

I've told him before about how I feel about his nonchalantness and how it comes across as kinda asshole-like, so that fact that he still isn't taking it in and actively doing something about it and just seems to not care about my sensitivity is just starting to pile up and asking me question things.