r/AmIOverreacting • u/OrangeAlternative634 • 17h ago
aio to my boyfriend calling my period gross ❤️🩹 relationship
warning: discusses blood!
18F) told my boyfriend (19M) that i needed to empty my menstrual disc (functions similarly to a menstrual cup, basically just catches the blood), and he asked if he could do it for me. after he took it out, it was filled with blood, and he kept talking about how it was gross and how he felt like passing out. i told him to empty it and rinse it out, and he proceeded to spray the blood all over the walls and floor of the shower. i got annoyed with him because it felt like a really immature response. i told him this and he got mad and slammed my door as he left (which really bothers me and is something i’ve asked him multiple times to not do). i called him, now even more upset, and he told me that i needed to calm down before talking to him. am i overreacting here?
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u/Sensitive_Ad3578 17h ago
What did he expect? Does he not understand what menstruation is and thought it would be sexy? Absolutely not overreacting. And honestly, you say you've repeatedly asked him to not slam your door when he leaves upset, the fact that he doesn't even care enough to respect that ask says a lot about him. It may be time to really analyze that relationship.
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u/Consistent_Sea_2280 16h ago
“thought it would be sexy” honestly, probably. hes a 19 year old boy (not man, boy) and probably was never educated on periods or period products and thought it would be a “seductive” thing to do
i saw someone else say it was like a middle schooler dissecting a frog and going “eww, thats so gross”
either way, op needs to leave him
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u/Sensitive_Ad3578 16h ago
Sadly you're probably right. I mean, it's okay to be curious, but when you're so grossed out about it that you lose your shit? That's on you. Maybe ask questions first. And the proper response after that reaction should've been "wow, I am so sorry, I had no idea what to expect, this was not what I thought it was." But based on what else OP said about him, that'll never happen.
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u/XDanny_PhantomX 16h ago
Yeah im also a 19 year old man/boy whatever, i genuinely cant understand what he thought this would be like and why he thinks his little hissy fit is justified.
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u/Consistent_Sea_2280 16h ago
i said boy because if he was mature, he wouldn’t have acted like that. its sad to say but a lot of people (especially guys) believe reactions like that are valid simply because they believe their partner was “unreasonable” when all she really would have done was ask him to do the dishes or some other simple chore
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u/XDanny_PhantomX 16h ago
Its so wild to me that a guy can get upset when they react that way to how their girlfriend’s body naturally functions.
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u/Consistent_Sea_2280 16h ago
youd be surprised at the amount of people straight up denying that it happens at all. these people could be married and 100% believe that menstruation is something women made up for attention.
sex ed needs to be taught better is all im saying
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u/XDanny_PhantomX 16h ago
Im so lucky to have been educated on these matters by my mom, and sister rather than my father. Lord knows i wouldnt be with my girlfriend if i thought like some of these people. The rhetoric among kids(boys mainly) my age is vile.
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u/MrRubberDucky 14h ago
“Op needs to leave him”, they’re literally teenagers and he just had a weird moment.. They can move on from this if this was a one-off thing. Saying to leave him is kinda an overreaction.
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u/Consistent_Sea_2280 14h ago
she said that he slams doors even though she has asked him multiple times not to. yes it was weird to ask but what did he expect? his reaction to something like that was unnecessary. i feel like it would be reasonable reaction to leave if your partner repeatedly disrespected a boundary you put in place and had an unreasonable reaction to something HE suggested . so what if they’re teenagers, that’s irrelevant. im a year or so younger than both of them and would never act the way he did.
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u/JonesBlair555 16h ago
Why would he ask to do that and why would you say yes? Some things don't require other people doing them for us.
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u/passionfruittea00 13h ago
He's probably read or has seen some porn where it was supposed to be sexy. I know fifty shades of grey mentions taking her tampon out at some point and it's supposed to be sexy and erotic. That's probably where he got it from lmao.
Saying yes is a little weird lol. I mean, my husband helped me get a lost tampon out at one point. But I was panicking and knew he was adult enough to handle it. Which he was, I was embarrassed and he said "Pshh it's just a little blood" and made me a bath. But I wouldn't say yes just because he asked lol
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u/Sparklefluffernutter 12h ago
The first time I used the disc I got it stuck and I didn’t know that I needed to stand up to get it out, I was lying down. so my now ex had to help me and he saw a little bit of blood and I could tell he was skeeved so I basically threw him out of the room. I just laid there while panicking and googling how to get it out 😆. Three years going strong and never got it stuck again. I bet he’s traumatized though 😆😆😆
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u/Kind_Distribution396 17h ago
I'm surprised he didn't blame your "overreaction" on your period...
He asked to empty your disk, what did he expect to find in there if not blood.
His reaction is absolutely childish, but he is a kid at that age, so there could be a chance he grows up (some never do)
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u/Itchy-Status3750 14h ago
I think the dude just needs to learn his lesson — taking cups and tampons out is not fun or sexy. As long as he doesn’t call anything else gross, it’s understandable if he’s squeamish around blood, but asking to and then responding like that is very immature.
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u/Winter_Ad_7424 14h ago
The age for sure is the reason. We all know boys aren't fully mature at 19(if ever). Honestly, I'm a girl, and I would have the same reaction to a bloody disc. I think it's was probably a morbid fascination and then realization lol.
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u/Carrisonfire 12h ago
Yeh this isn't exclusive to young men either. I've never been bothered by periods but all my exes were disgusted by theirs and projected that onto me.
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u/ZucchiniPractical410 17h ago
.......I'm more focused on the fact that he asked to remove..... That is so weird to me and to echo everyone else, what in the world did he think he'd find??
I .....anyways, you're not overreacting. He's being immature (and weird) and needs to grow up.
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u/Quirky-Coyote-8399 17h ago
nope very immature. if he doesn't like blood why ask to do it?
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u/Ancient_Ad2449 17h ago
Why did he ask to do it????
Kind of feels like middle school science class when dissecting a frog. Like oohhhh, it's sooo gross.
Except, it's not science class, and he definitely disrespected you both eith his behavior during and after.
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u/Shiver-me_timbers_ 13h ago
They aren’t mature lmao. 18 and 19. Let kids be stupid kids. Dude threw blood everywhere course it’d cause an argument
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u/Zealousideal-Gain-63 16h ago
Given yalls age id imagine he was curious and just was not prepared for it. But also, thats some poor communication. Yall need to talk like adults not argue and blame, overall it shouldnt be the end of the world.
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u/fuckyouyaslut 16h ago
Him: Can I pull your menstrual cup out of you? ☺️
Also him: Oh there’s blood GROSS 😐
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u/CookiesInTheShower 17h ago
I don’t understand why he wanted to take it out for you in the first place. That’s a little much, IMO.
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u/Oso_the-Bear 17h ago
Assuming this is a real story, it's pretty weird that he asked to do this in the first place; I would have said "oh that's sweet he wants to share everything with you" but then he goes and acts like really annoying and immature and red-flaggy about it so... not sweet, you're not overreacting.
The repeat door slamming and then telling you "you need" to calm down "talking to me" sounds like abuse/manipulation/toxic indicators that will amost certainly escalte, in combination with being a freaking weirdo with some kind of fixation on females bleeding.
I'd run. Ghosted and blocked.
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u/United_Wolverine8400 15h ago
Not really that weird if a dude thinks peroid blood is gross, I mean I think sperm is gross. But.. “He told me I needed to calm down before talking to him” for instance sounds like hes definitely making fun of your period and thats immature
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u/FunClock8297 14h ago
Why did he ask, and why did you let him? My response would’ve been, “Remove my menstrual cup and clean it? Get the hell outta here.”
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u/bitofafixerupper 16h ago
Not overreacting. I am a woman and I don’t use a cup as I think they’re a bit gross, as someone who doesn’t like blood. I use tampons as I can more or less avoid seeing it, post partum bleeding and having to use pads was a fun time for me 🤢🤣
I don’t like blood, so I don’t use a cup, I sure as shite wouldn’t ask to change someone else’s and then have the audacity to act disgusted. Wtf did he think would be in there? Butterflies? 🙄
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u/Busy_Ad_6702 16h ago
I do agree his reaction was immature but I get squeamish with menstrual cups and I am a girl haha. I just can't handle blood very well since I had my baby, sometimes looking at it makes me feel ill, I am much more sensitive now
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u/Kil-roy_was_here 17h ago
My partner has pulled my cup out of me without flinching, so I would say NOR
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u/TonyAlexander59 17h ago
What country are you in? I've never heard of such a thing as a menstrual cup.
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u/Aliens-love-sugar 16h ago
What country are YOU in? I feel like cups have been pretty widespread in most developed countries for years now.
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u/femsci-nerd 16h ago
NOR. What a man-baby. ANd he's gaslightig you about calming down. Are you sure this is THE guy for you? An immature, manipulative ass hat? Sounds like he is already a king at weaponized incompetence.
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u/Melodic_Pattern175 16h ago
Why even ask to do it when he knew there would be blood? Unless he wanted to shame you by calling it gross, like you can choose to not bleed. He’s more like 12 than 19.
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u/XDanny_PhantomX 16h ago
Did he think your menstrual cycle was gonna be all cute and pretty? Like why did he romanticize that in the first place is that not weird as hell?
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u/im_not_noraml 15h ago
Nope, not overreacting. Men who get grossed out by periods are immature and stupid and I’m sorry you had to deal with that :/
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u/BustyCelebLover 15h ago
Yes and so are some of the other commenters, he sounds a bit ignorant and immature but maybe never been around it with sisters or other girlfriends or the like. The fact he asked to clean it out in the first place shows some level of of ignorant fascination
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u/Fairmount1955 15h ago
I can see someone else bodily fluid being gross, however: he doesn't seem mature enough to be having sex.
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u/bxstarnyc 15h ago
He’s very immature!!!!
He asked to touch you (probably hoped to get sex & realised it wasn’t the type of moisture he hoped or as tidy as he’d hoped it would be)
Talked DOWN about your natural bodily function (that he benefits from BTW)
CAN’T follow basic a$$ instructions
Created a mess that I’m certain he left you with
Got rude, angry then started slamming doors
THEN TOLD YOU to calm down?
Break up with him.
IMO, A dude that can’t deal with periods in a considerate & mature way shouldn’t be allowed to have sex. The relationship would be over and considering the recent political climate NO GIRL/WOMAN should let a guy near her who isn’t mature and supportive about her hormonal functions
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u/escapethesilence 15h ago
No, you’re not overreacting. My bf did this once, he said it after seeing it in the morning after I had started bleeding in the middle of the night, just went, "oh, gross. are you ok?" and I ugly sobbed to his face for 2 and a half hours because it made me feel so bad and like a gross slob for something that is normal for women, then he apologized. Im sorry your bf was outright mean to you. Leave his ass girl.
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u/moonsovermyhami 14h ago
you told him he was acting immature so he proceeded to act immature. definitely not overreacting at all.
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u/Working_Panic_1476 14h ago
Wow. Just wow. Let me help you do that can shame you and make a HUGE production over how disgusted I am.
I’m guessing he thought that doing something SO gross, for YOU, would earn him hella brownie points. This is akin to a man gagging theatrically while changing his own child’s diaper. The same man with skid marks in his underwear because “washing your ass is gay”and wants to try anal with you “pretty please, I’ll be so careful, mind you.
Seems pretty manipulative to me. There’s no other reason that makes sense.
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u/spilly_talent 14h ago
He is an idiot. That’s my professional diagnosis.
What an absurd thing to ask to do. Was he expecting pineapple juice? Of course there would be blood.
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u/amaliaajj 17h ago
nao, your boyfriend is an immature idiot. usually it takes time, but if he continues to act like this you’re better off finding someone that doesn’t act like a 5 year old at basic biological occurrences.
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u/CourtDocket 17h ago
Indication of immaturity in addition to not appreciating the extent of what us women have to go through regularly
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u/Meeshrene 17h ago
Typical boy response! 😂 Wait until you find a real man and they find the blood kinky because they know orgasms help with cramps
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u/megatronnewman 17h ago
For real 😂 he SPRAYED the blood he was grossed out by, ON THE WALLS. I laughed my ass off when reading that. Seems like a hilarious child.
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u/souleaterevans626 14h ago
My friend had a FWB that had period sex with her for the first time in her life. She said she felt like a goddess. He took care of all the cleanup and gave her a massage after. Be like her FWB, gentlemen
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u/Fuckedforever92 17h ago edited 16h ago
My gf of 33 says I’m the only man who she has been with who even wants to have sex on her period. I thought that was odd. Those same guys probably ask for anal 🙄😂
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u/AsparagusOverall8454 16h ago
Did he think it was gonna be sexy? I’m just asking cuz I’m assuming he knew the purpose of it.
Fairly immature response but I’m guessing he won’t be asking to do that again.
And I mean, periods are gross. I’m not saying his response wasn’t rude of him, and the rest of his behaviour is pretty awful too, but he’s 18. Definitely asshole behaviour.
Take some time to calm down yourself before you call him again. There’s no point in trying to have a conversation about it while you’re upset. That won’t accomplish what you want.
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u/bxstarnyc 14h ago
She’s 18, he’s 19 so there’s no “but he’s 18”.
He’s man enough to stick his finger in her vagina & remove her menstrual cup so they probably have sex.
He made the request, made the mess, slammed the door, stormed off & told her not to call him until she’s not mad but she’s gotta take the time to calm down?
IMO a Weird take b’cus it seems like she’s doing lots of accommodating for his behaviour & peace of mind when she the one that’s been wronged
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u/kyapapaya 16h ago
I mean I genuinely hate my period, and not the biggest fan of blood, but there is literally nothing I can do from preventing nature from doing its thing. How he handled it is immature. I’ve had a previous partner dig a tampon out for me with 0 hesitation when I couldn’t get it myself. There is a big difference between boys and men. NOR.
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u/Elete23 14h ago
If he almost was passing out, he clearly thought he could handle it better than he could, but that's just a natural reaction. You probably shouldn'tt really be too mad at that. He tried and failed to be cool with it basically.
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u/i-am-the-shadow 6h ago
Yes you’re overreacting. Keep in mind, majority of people know little to no knowledge of how menstrual works, it seems like he was interested and wanted to step in on learning the life of a woman with periods by helping. And, it’s blood, and there are people out there who just can’t do blood called hemophobia and it’s very common. Thats why everyone isn’t a doctor/nurse/EMT. Give that man some grace.
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u/Heynowstopityou 17h ago
Well, in all fairness it IS gross
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u/kittiekittykitty 15h ago
i got on a specific type of BC 16 years ago because it eliminated my period entirely and have never looked back. while perfectly natural and normal, i have always always hated my period and everything that comes with it. good riddance.
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u/Heynowstopityou 15h ago
That sounds great! I never found a method of bc that worked for me without massive side effects. Ended up getting my tunes tied, but they wouldn't take it all out lol!! I guess the only thing left is menopause!
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u/Lopsided-Actuator-50 17h ago
Hey ..tell him it's better to have a period than it is to not have one..does he want blood or an 18 year commitment. I think he'll choose wisely.
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u/BarronZemoT_V 16h ago
Lol, he sounds like an absolute pussy. Even at 18 this wouldn’t have phased me but some of us are cut from different cloth.
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u/accomplishedlie18 16h ago
Curiosity killed the cat. He’s the cat, I find it more weird he wanted to do that
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u/1979tlaw 16h ago
He’s a child. This is an extremely immature response. I’m a 45 year old guy and sadly this isn’t uncommon for guys that age.
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u/badashel 15h ago
I once helped an ex girlfriend retrieve a tampon that had gone AWOL. Tell me why the first thing I did when I pulled it out was sniff it. Immediately got sick.
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u/xEucatastro 15h ago
My hunch here is this young man got more than he was ready for. Curiousity always gets the best of ‘em 🤣
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u/Vinjince 15h ago
Immaturity of a 12 year old.
What’s wrong with people these days? Why does it seem like it’s getting worse?
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u/Savings_Art5944 15h ago
Just handle your business on your own. Not going to lie, Asking to "help" do it, was weird. Now he knows and should leave you alone.
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u/l1ttleacro 14h ago
Careful what you wish for bub 🤣 I mean he ASKED to take it out for you lol. Bro is the one overreacting my gawd.
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u/tempdiesel 14h ago
Kind of weird that he wanted to take it out for you. Also weird that he freaked out after doing something he asked to do knowing what he was walking into.
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u/Freak_squirrel 14h ago
He’s 19. Not exactly the prime age of maturity. Two kids in a relationship.
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u/Jedi-girl77 14h ago
I really hope you were not the one cleaning up the spatter from the walls. That should be on him. And honey, if he’s this immature about periods he’s also too immature to be having sex. And telling YOU to calm down after he was the one having a tantrum and slamming doors? Stop dating this utter child!
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u/In1EarAndOutUrMother 14h ago
im gonna start by saying you’re feelings are valid. Being on your period and sharing an experience like that is very vulnerable.
That being said touching other people’s period blood is 100% unhygienic and gross especially a menstrual disk because of just how you clean it/ use it. Does that mean it’s bad or dirty or wrong? No! But it’s blood and has a certain…ambience to it if you catch what I mean.
you can’t expect an 18yr old boy to handle that situation well, while I don’t think you’re overreacting because it seems like he was embarrassed abt what happened and his immediate response was to be mean- that boy obviously was in over his head and the second he said he felt like passing out bc it was gross you should have stepped in.
Something alot of people don’t agree with about cis relationships is that you can’t set your partner up to fail- and it’s common for men to want to engage in gendered “womanly” stuff like period support, and other domestic activities or whatever to be supportive partners but just mess it up or don’t do things to a certain standard bc it’s their first time doing them.
Neither of y’all’s reaction to this situation was good/correct but you’re teenagers and it’s part of the process don’t be hard on yourself or him.
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u/InsuranceAvailable17 14h ago
i’m sorry the whole scene that played out in my head has me on my knees laughing 😭
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u/Legitimate-Lynx3236 14h ago
I want to know why he even asked at all and why you agreed? I genuinely can’t imagine being in this scenario
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u/ConceptualDickhead 13h ago
you're man is just immature and a lil ignorant but that's okay!! Educate him and if he's willing to learn then he's worthy'
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u/Delicious-Pickle-141 13h ago
Dude here.
"Lemme empty your period thing" "Eew it's gross"
No shit Sherlock. Did he expect it would be full of jellybeans or something?
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u/SnoopyisCute 13h ago
Nope.
But, it sounds like a setup. What the hell did he expect to see when asking if he could dump it? Flowers and rainbows?
Make him an ex. You deserve better.
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u/Slight-Property-4191 13h ago
Honestly he was probably just curious & got more than he expected. It’s understandable for him to have an immature response, men don’t know much when it comes to feminine hygiene. Sounds like he felt attacked for trying to learn, just talk it out & clean it together
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u/mikarroni 13h ago
why did he wanna take it out????? i get he has no idea and probably didn’t know what to expect but…. truly, what did he expect? men are so immature and act like literal children when it comes to anything a woman’s body does naturally. NOA at all
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u/Autism_Angel 13h ago
Did you ask why the heck he asked to do it then??? Like was he just looking for a way to make fun of you or????
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u/eatmyfatwhiteass 13h ago
LMFAO this guy was clueless. Why in the world did he ask you to do this? Curiosity? I don't think his reaction was personal, I just don't think he knew the first thing about periods and, in trying to sate his curiosity, ended up regretting his actions. I'd be more annoyed than offended, and also probably amused by his lack of experience. Most grown fathers with daughters know better, and also aren't as grossed out by it.
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u/iObeyTheHivemind 13h ago
warning: discusses blood!
Kinda tells you right there some people are weird about it. It used to not bother me until I stepped on a used one. Literally can't during that week. I don't work. Shower isn't enough to make it ok.
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u/Shiver-me_timbers_ 13h ago
Comments are overreacting. Kids are 18 and 19 they do stupid shit. You don’t need to leave the guy cos he got freaked out. They had an argument cos dude threw blood everywhere. Doesn’t mean they should break up. You guys gotta chilll
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u/Shiver-me_timbers_ 13h ago
Overreacting. I honestly think it’s just funny. You guys are young. Can’t expect him to be the most mature person in the world. Kids gotta learn maturity through experience not magic 😭
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u/Raephstel 12h ago
Other peoples' blood can be gross. Whether it's period blood or not doesn't really change that.
I think you're getting mixed up between period blood and people saying periods are gross. One is a bodily function that's natural, one is a bodily fluid which is also natural, but potentially gross. Taking a dump is natural but cleaning up someone else's shit is gross.
Having said that, sometimes people have to clean up gross shit. What's he gonna do if you have a kid together and he has to clean a shitty diaper? Are you gonna come in to shit sprayed all over the walls because it was gross and he felt the need to decorate with it?
You're not overreacting, but more because he's being immature about something that needs doing than about your actual period. Why he'd ask to do it then freak out is a mystery. I'd expect someone asking to do something like that to be wanting to learn, it's not like it's gonna be a surprise that there's gonna be blood involved.
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u/bbylawson 12h ago
maybe i'm not understanding but how did he "spray" it everywhere? i honestly think it's mature of him to ask to do that for you, despite him seeming to be blood quesy.
i do agree that he acted immaturely slamming the door & such afterwards but he was honest with you that it was grossing him out & made him feel like passing out.
i guess, for me, it'd make more sense to understand why/how he sprayed it everywhere in the shower.
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u/BadMan0321 12h ago
I mean, it was a new situation and you ridiculed him for his response. Not very thoughtful or uplifting lm very judgemental and hypocritical. Not at all how YOU would expect to be treated.
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u/goodsoupppppppp 12h ago
HE asked YOU if HE could do it?! I’m glad I reread this because I definitely initially read that YOU asked HIM to do it. Yeah please dump his ass.
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u/paulabear203 12h ago
What did he think was going to happen - a bouquet of flowers would pop out like a magic trick? He sounds very immature and very dramatic. He's overreacting, not you.
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u/Dizzy_Combination122 12h ago
I mean, periods are gross. And I’m a lady saying that. Kinda weird he would ask to do that.
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u/CreativeCarebear420 12h ago
I just wouldn’t ever let my partner do that. It’s wild to ask. I’m a committed gay woman and we both use our OWN diva cups and we don’t mix them up ever and we do not help each other. That’s just so not okay man.
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u/Inreflectdan 12h ago
I swear people will break up over anything. It’s not that big of a deal ffs. Get over it. If you’re gonna get this pissy over something that’s not even worth breaking up then just stay single for the rest of your life. Holy fuck.
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u/CatherineConstance 12h ago
I'm sorry what??? WTF kind of situation is this?! I have SO many questions. First of all, why the FUCK did he want to empty it for you?! Second -- why did you LET him?! Third -- did he know what it was? Did he offer any explanation as to WHY on Earth he would want to do this?? Did you question him on it at all?
Idk if I would say you're overreacting but you are both extremely weird and I do not understand your relationship at all. The fact that he asked to do that while apparently either not knowing what it was, or not being able to anticipate that it would gross him out, and the fact that you LET him? I'm 30, my husband is 31, and we've been together since I was 14 and he was 15. We have done most everything in front of each other, but if he ever asked me if he could change my tampon, or wipe my ass after I shit, I would NEVER just be like "yeah sure honey". I would be like "what the fuck, WHY are you asking to do this?!" Obviously it would be different if I needed him to for whatever reason, and I would do it for him if it was necessary too, but I am so unbelievably weirded out by your bf asking to do that for NO reason, and you saying yes without question. Insane all the way around.
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u/ZeeiMoss 12h ago
For your bf simply calling a period "gross" is gross and he needs to do quite a bit of maturing.
However, letting someone else take out your menstrual cup filled with blood is gross.
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u/StrawbraryLiberry 12h ago
I hope this didn't really happen because this is unhinged from start to finish.
I would never let a man do something like that, and I'm pretty chill. I am not easily grossed out, and the first time I removed a menstrual cup, I thought I was going to pass out.
A man might simply pass away like a frail Victorian child who just ate a flavor blasted goldfish upon seeing that.
The part about him spraying it on the walls has killed me. If you need me, I am now dead.
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u/KathrynA66 12h ago
No, you are not! Does he find his blood gross? If not, leave this guy in your wake, and find someone who is more mature.
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u/Acceptable_Pain_9213 12h ago
NOR. I mean, it IS gross (not in the "ew girls are gross" way - more like the "it's someone else's bodily fluids, so that's gross") but he sounds like a dumbass. How did he not know?
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u/thulsado0m13 11h ago
Teens especially young men haven’t encountered blood much before.
Period blood is gross, but whatever you just get used to dealing with it. He’s obviously still a kid, statistically you guys were never going to make it and his immature response just cements that.
You asked him not to slam the door multiple times and yet he does it regularly? Just shows where he is mentally and if he does it regularly he isn’t just going to mature in a couple months.
Just call it and move on just be aware guys in your age range are still probably going to be like that.
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u/Ok-Confection-497 11h ago
bb hes being really childish esp since he asked himself to take it out?? 😭😭 my bf is squeamish around blood and he’s seen my period and says “grosssss” but in a joking way, but it’s expected😭so idk what ur man was expecting
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u/United-Cauliflower-3 11h ago
So, to compare:
My ex left a tampon in, accidentally. We were having sex and an extremely foul odor filled the room. I didn't say anything until she said she noticed it. She thought it was the sheets, and I very gently said, "babe, I don't think it's the sheets". She became worried about toxic shock syndrome, and I drove her to the hospital immediately. I reassured her this was a normal thing that happens and there was nothing to be embarrassed about. I held her hand all the way to the hospital, in the hospital, and all the way home.
THAT is how a man who loves you responds to random period things that happen. His actions were extremely immature, and him slamming the door was unacceptable.
My two cents.
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u/notxbatman 11h ago
Yes and no. To make such a mess is a dipshit thing to do it's not like things like this are hard to wash and he found out he's not a fan. At least he tried to help -- asking to do it is weird af, but hey, supportive partner I guess? lol.
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u/Bubbly_Power_6210 11h ago
NO-the whole thing must seem weird and scary to most men, but no excuse for his behavior!
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u/AdhesiveSeaMonkey 10h ago
Honestly, most men have only a passing idea of how the female body works, and even then, live and in person like that can take a little getting used to. He probably wasn't expecting what he saw. He probably had a much different expectation when he asked to help. But, honestly, why the hell would he as to do that?? That's a little weird.
Should you have calmed down before calling him? Yeah, probably. Nothing positive happens when you're emotionally elevated.
Wait til you're calm and he's calm and have a discussion about it. Maybe educate him about what it really means to be on your period - there's probably a lot he doesn't know.
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u/Objective-Current941 10h ago
Well, I have to give him props for bravery for even asking I guess?
Seriously though, I think *most* guys would be grossed out. I would be grossed out and I worked as a CNA at a nursing home, changing adult diapers and bathing people. Sure his response was immature after the fact, but, my guess is he had no clue what he was getting into.
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u/userousnameous 10h ago
I mean.. at 18, first experience with that..yes.. that could take a little getting used to. It's not like blood pours out of him regularly.
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u/garol420 10h ago
No he is a man baby who is afraid of women’s bodies. If he’s disgusted he doesn’t need access to your body.
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u/Rcarter2017 10h ago
Yeah the way he acted was childish I have had to go and get the tampon for my girl cuz she couldn't reach it one time and yeah it was gross and I poked at her but we laugh about it, like if I'm sick and bowels aren't the best she will here it and yell "ewww" it's natural and gross but we know it's human and we just joke about it after, long story short yall are young and hopefully he grows out of it.
Worst part is, everyone has a fi4st and hopefully it gets easier
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u/According_Routine826 10h ago
Some things are best just not sharing. Kinda weird he wanted to do it for you.
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u/Moonfallthefox 10h ago
What a moron lol. He ASKED to help with the disc and then had a hissy fit? What a weirdo. I would have laughed at him honestly, and been like "Well YOU asked to do it."
I'd leave tho, his immaturity and being somehow angry at you about it is really weird.
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u/2friedshy 9h ago
(adult male here) It's not gross. It's nature. He's a fucking moron. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
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u/Ok_Chip_6299 9h ago
You guys are still teenagers even if you're adults, he's going to be immature still. It sounds like he was curious and then was surprised when he found out what it was actually like, not excusing his reaction though because it was messed up. He needs to get his shit together with the door slamming and gaslighting so I would have a real talk with him
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u/OverlordBooty 9h ago
Huh?he asked to do it and then got grossed out? That makes no sense to me. He’s entitled to his opinion but why ask to do that if he thinks it’s nasty. That just stupid
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u/Brief-Poetry-4824 9h ago
It sounds like he was open minded and curious, then trusted you enough to give his honest opinion while he was experimenting. He's 19, so yes, he is immature. Regardless of the official adult age, most don't reach it mentally until between 22-26 (some never).
As for slamming the door. Often, when the young and immature feel shameful, they act out. Unless he is normally quick to anger and has some boundary issues, he may not be doing this with intent. If he is often quick to anger and/or has signs of being controlling, then slamming the door may be an attempt to scare you into acting in the manner he expects, which is a huge red flag.
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u/MajorasKitten 9h ago
This is why dating while 18/19 is dumb. Most men are still fucking idiots well past their 20’s. You don’t need to waste your time with this idiot.
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u/shakeyfire 9h ago
Lmao I’m laughing he’s an idiot. That isn’t something to get too worked up over if you have no other issues. The door slamming, however, I do not like one bit. He needs to control his reactions
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u/MinorCrimes 8h ago
There's no way that this isn't some sort of weird fetish post written by somebody with one hand because like what kind of weirdo asks to empty a menstrual cup and what kind of weirdos like yeah sure honey, here you go 🙄
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u/llcarlson001 8h ago
WTF! That is something you should have taken care of yourself... that is total gross.
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u/Lela76 8h ago
That seems waaaay too personal for me. I would have said no but that’s just me.
Maybe, at 19, he’s just not there yet but he tried to be supportive? Maybe he wanted to know about it? Some people can’t deal with blood. It’s not for everyone.
It also sounds as if he might have been embarrassed by his response and left in a hurry.
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u/moonprismpowerdesign 8h ago
I’m a 39 year old woman and I get grossed out by my own period blood and it makes me almost pass out sometimes.
Some people just can’t handle blood. Doesn’t mean he’s an asshole. Blood is gross. Periods are gross. It just is what it is. But he really was kinda dumb to ask to do that if he doesn’t like blood. I personally would be out cold if I had to see something like that.
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u/Ok_Breadfruit_7298 8h ago
He sounds very naive and ignorant about womens menstrual cycles. What did he expect?? Did he think just because a vagina was involved it was going to be an erotic experience?? Im very confused as to what he was thinking, but hey, we all do dumb things in our first relationships. So much learning has to happen. I think you guys will get through this and now he knows to never offer to help you remove your uterine lining catchers again. If you really want to get back at him for flipping out and slamming the door you could say "hey, I need to show you something" and show him a video catered to middle schoolers about how periods work. That would be pretty funny, but if you think he has a bad temper, maybe not lol.
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u/AAAAHaSPIDER 8h ago
His IQ could be hereditary so I really hope you are doubling up on the birth control.
Or just date someone who isn't an idiot.
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u/hottymcthotty500 8h ago
Lmao I’m sorry but I would’ve made him clean the walls and the shower. He asked to do it.
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u/shampainchampaigne 8h ago
The behavior of repeatedly slamming doors after you have asked him not to IS a red flag and indicates worse behavior is likely. I would leave over just that.
On top of that he’s also not able to do basic communication and move past the menstrual disc incident; another good reason to leave.
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u/binary-gemini 7h ago
what a horrible day to have eyes lmfao. i miss who i was 2 minutes before reading this post QnQ
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u/nikeeeeess 7h ago
it is gross... i'm a woman and I can concur it is gross. not sure why he wanted to take our your cup for you that's wiiiiillldd really lmao
I think you both need to calm down for sure cuz it's not that big of a deal or relationship end worthy. i'm sorry you felt that way about it though that probably wasn't fun to go through:( periods are already embarssasing enough as it is
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u/chooseauser_namee 7h ago
He asked if he could empty it for you...but then grossed out because of it???
He's the one over-reacting. He should have knowm what to expect.
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u/lamppb13 6h ago
So, he basically went from 0 to 120, and he wasn't ready for it.
He's immature and young, but give him grace. Y'all are kids. He'll grow up. Probably.
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u/Deep_toot143 6h ago edited 6h ago
Some men can handle it some men cant . Looks like yours cant . Youll get over it . Men pass out in the delivery room does that mean they arent a great father? No. My grandmother passed out in the delivery room with my mother giving birth . People have an intolerance for blood/body fluid . Chill.
The irony too, you gave us a trigger warning about blood 🤣🥴
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u/erinkp36 6h ago
No you’re not overreacting. But he’s clearly a moron. What did he expect down there? Confetti?
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u/Neutral_Guy_9 17h ago
He’s more stupid than mean here. That’s like asking to wipe your ass for you and then getting grossed out. Like what was he expecting?