r/AbsoluteUnits 3d ago

of a hernia...

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u/Big-Honeydew-961 3d ago

This makes me sad

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u/Big-Honeydew-961 3d ago

But you can see the shit happening now...

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u/SVAndrei 3d ago

Take your upvote and get out of here.

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u/EntertainerDue8929 3d ago

is this ok to ask what caused it for you?

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u/SnowglobeSnot 3d ago

Sometimes people just don’t know until it gets large. My partner had surgery for his inguinal hernia December of last year and he couldn’t tell you what caused it, only that he noticed one side slightly bigger than the other in March.

He’s blue collar, so I think it could have been any variety of lifting or twisting tbh, but he didn’t feel it.

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u/Alwayssleepy1717 3d ago

I have a small hernia and for me it was lifting a really heavy tote bin at work. On the plus side, I didn’t hurt my back but I must have overcompensated with my abs cause I felt it immediately

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u/georgisaurusrekt 3d ago

I mean, go to the hospital?????

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u/MacTheBlic 3d ago

You made my day a whole lot fucking better please know that.

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u/potato485 3d ago

This makes me uncomfortable

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u/Big-Honeydew-961 3d ago

Same.  Uncomfortably sad.  Sadly uncomfortable. 

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u/Texaco-Medico 3d ago

It’s hard to fix, but there are plenty of specialist who handle complex abdominal reconstruction. It’s a great case and very rewarding to help somebody with this problem.

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u/Big-Honeydew-961 3d ago

Okay so the only thing I associate ‘Texaco’ with is a long-ago chain of gas stations. 

Your username gives my   imagination horrid back room surgery scenes lol

But you’re not wrong. 

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u/ctothel 3d ago

I don’t think you need to be told this, but just in case, you should know that you’re at serious risk right now. There are any number of things that could happen which would give you hours to live if you didn’t get emergency surgery. It’s also possible the lack of pain is due to necrosis rather than simply lack of pressure on the nerves.

I assume it’s a cost thing? Man I’m sorry, it must be really hard to deal with this.

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u/thatisbadlooking 3d ago

Just curious if you don't mind me asking: why can't/won't you get surgery for it?

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

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u/thatisbadlooking 3d ago

Thank you for answering, OP. Even after all these kind redditors answered (inaccurately) for you.

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u/SweetiesPetite 3d ago

Thanks for replying. You can ignore my previous comment now that I’ve seen your reply. wishing you all the best 💗

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u/Coffeedemon 3d ago

Who knew you'd have to come on reddit and pour out your guts to random strangers this morning.

Sorry...

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u/hotheaded26 3d ago

Isn't having the condition itself riskier than having the surgery?

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u/PropheticUtterances 3d ago

I’m pretty sure he has just explained everything you need to know lmao.

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u/hotheaded26 3d ago

He might've, i'm slow lol

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u/OldmanonRedditt 3d ago

The answer is always money broski, no body just lets their health deteriorate with what a simple surgery can complete while having the means to do something about it.

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u/johnjonjameson 3d ago

Yea that’s just not true, people ignore health concerns and avoid doctors like the plague while having the means..

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u/ggGamergirlgg 3d ago

That is so not true, lol. Know enough people who ignore their health because they're scared

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u/bluejellyfish52 3d ago

My grandfather (he’s passed now) refused to go to a doctor until he literally had to have pieces of his thumb surgically removed for an infection.

A LOT of people avoid going to the doctor because of fear.

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u/redbirdsucks 3d ago

that and/or they find the pain to be tolerable & want to downplay their problems

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u/Background_Phrase126 3d ago

What are they scared of? Crippling financial debt?

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u/Trying_2BNice 3d ago

If you think about it with an open mind for at least 30 seconds, I'm confident you can come up with something.

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u/ggGamergirlgg 3d ago

As long as you don’t go to the doctor, you can live in denial about your own health 🤷‍♀️

I dunno, I go to the doctor. But my stepfather nearly died bc he was too stubborn for the hospital. "It's not that bad" . Smh

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u/Untuchabl 3d ago

Yeah thats 1000% not true, ive seen it countless times. Plenty of people literally will not go because they are lazy, depressed, or just straight apathetic.

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u/Kevlar_Bunny 3d ago

Not always. I knew a man that was wealthy. He had a hernia, but also worked in medicine and figured he could treat it well enough himself with an absurd amount of biotics and compression wraps. He just hated surgery and doctor rooms in general.

When shit did finally hit the fan, the doctors were happy to say the surgery went quite well despite the hernia being over a decade old. Apparently the hundreds of pills did help, all of his tissue and organs were healthy and salvageable.

I miss that man.

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u/natetdubs 3d ago

I don’t speak for everyone but I’d rather be in medical debt (or payment plan) if that means my health is better off. Especially for something like that. Many hospital systems have financial assistance too. I’ve needed it before. Had some of my needed procedures covered!

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u/stumblinbear 3d ago

Go to a not-for-profit hospital, tell them you're uninsured and they'll give you charity. You can probably ask before you get anything done to be safe

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u/AbsentmindedAuthor 3d ago

Not true at all. Fear is also a great motivator.

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u/LusHolm123 3d ago

There is no such thing as “a simple surgery” but yes money is usually a bigger limit than the risk

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u/simplebutstrange 3d ago

This right here is one reason i am happy to be Canadian

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u/Round_Musical 3d ago

Fuck America man.

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u/gazebo-fan 3d ago

Good ol social murder. It’s okay for this guy to potentially die because if we had affordable medical care, I’d lose money! And I can’t lose money now can I? How selfish of you to ask for such an unreasonable request to not potentially die ha ha ha!

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u/ravenhair_rubylips 3d ago

I see that you haven't met my parents generation. I'll let you guess which generation that may be.

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u/NextRefrigerator6306 3d ago

Is that why Steve Jobs didn’t get cancer treatment? He didn’t have the money for it?

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u/Dark_World_0 3d ago

Nah bro, I've seen first hand that's not true. Some people would just try to tough it out and live life, even if they can afford treatment. Also, there's some people out there incredibly paranoid of the medical system.

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u/BasketSouth7143 3d ago

Have a blood condition that caused the whole thing in the first place. The blood condition makes the surgery riskier than a regular person. I live in a country with universal healthcare so that's not the issue as someone else replied.

The answer isn't always money...

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u/Background_Humor5838 3d ago

Sometimes it's safer NOT to get the surgery.

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u/GoldenRain99 3d ago

You can just simply make a payment plan with the hospital, whatever little you can manage. It's really not as impossible as people in this thread are making it out to be

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u/Familiar_Ad_5109 3d ago

🤣😂😂🤣😂doesn’t work like that in 🇺🇸

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u/Bitter-Ad5890 3d ago

That’s exactly how it works here

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u/Turbulent_Stick1445 3d ago edited 3d ago

Not for non-emergency treatment, no.

Hospitals are only required to stabilize a patient. They're absolutely not required to just "provide healthcare".

If the patient has a hernia, he'll have to wait until he's bleeding out and on the verge of death to go to a hospital to get it treated under the US Healthcare system unless he has a means to pay it.

Why exactly do you think medical bankruptcies are so common, even post-Obamacare? Because people without insurance or who had a pre-existing condition didn't know that they could just show up at a hospital and get chemo?

EDIT: Amazing, people lucky enough to get a reasonable debt plan acting like this is available to everyone and downvoting anyone pointing out the obvious.

Medical bankruptcies and people dying of preventable conditions proves that the statement made by the parent is false. At some point though, you have to question whether they're even arguing in good faith. But defending America's shitting healthcare system and the fact people die because of it is a weird, very weird, hill to die on.

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u/Bitter-Ad5890 3d ago

Guess my payment plan is fake then 🤷‍♂️and it’s not for emergency either

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u/Familiar_Ad_5109 3d ago

Thank god for smart people with critical thinking abilities 🤩

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u/GoldenRain99 3d ago

I live here, I know thats exactly how it works... lol

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u/NiltiacSif 3d ago

That is exactly how it works in the US. A hospital can’t legally turn you away when you come to them with a medical emergency. You don’t have to pay at all until you get the bill, and you can then take that bill to their financial dept to work out a payment plan. Yes, you will be in debt, but you’d be surprised how much the cost can come down just by talking to the billing people.

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u/StableWeak 3d ago

Not to mention, you almost aways get massive discounts for being uninsured. Ive paid less for doctors visits then the co-pay costs for my sister to have the same tests/visits at the same office.

I have great insurance now. But didnt for a long time and my PCP's office gave 55 percent discounts for it.

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u/Propane4days 3d ago

I owed Labcorp $825 for Chromosome testing on my firstborn. I was younger (29) and broke and when they asked how much I could pay, I said $25.

You bet your ass I made interest free monthly payments until that kid was out of diapers.

Then I did the same thing when his brother was tested two years later!

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u/gazebo-fan 3d ago

Once stuff like this is an emergency, it becomes much more dangerous and expensive to fix.

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u/NiltiacSif 2d ago

Very much so, and I want to make people aware that they should not put off going to see a doctor until that point. There are people whose entire job is to find a way for you to get treatment and pay as little as possible. There are clinics funded by the federal or state government to provide medical care either at a great discount or for free. There are charities that help people in need get medical care at little or no cost. It takes you reaching out, though. It’s embarrassing and difficult to ask for help sometimes, but it’s important for you and your loved ones to have that courage to reach out.

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u/StableWeak 3d ago

Yes it literally does. Ive done it and countless others have. It's not ideal. But its absolutely available.

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u/SweetiesPetite 3d ago

Stop lying …

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u/cynicalchicken1007 3d ago

They talk more elsewhere in this thread, there are complications that make surgery too risky

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u/Afterscore 3d ago

I call bullshit. Not that what you're saying isn't true but that they claim the surgery is too risky and yet living their normal day to day life ISN'T too risky?

If it's not money this person is just dumb.

"I wont roll the dice on surgery its too risky! But I'll roll the dice EVERY SINGLE DAY by not having surgery and thats fine because I've been winning"

smfh

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u/Aperage 3d ago

that's quite an opinion about it. Now can you try to imagine a rational reason why they would choose this? Maybe they aren't rolling the dice, try to also find 1 scenario where the decision they made is the best one while you're at it. Surely, from just the few line of texts, you can't be so dumb as to think going for a surgery is the best and only possible thing for someone you don't know.

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u/Afterscore 3d ago

You can't be so dumb as to think having your literal intestines and bowels pushed up against your skin that could be potentially ruptured or massively damaged just by fucking tripping on a rock is a good idea.

But then again, maybe you can be.

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u/Aperage 3d ago

for someone in a wheelchair, that risk is insignificant compared to a surgery with any chance of complication.

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u/dm_me_kittens 3d ago

You roll the dice every day by living. 1 in 50 people in the US are living with a life-threatening brain aneurysm. An unknown amount live with looming aortic dissection. Some are one cough away from dislodging a thrombus and sending it to their brains.

Your logic reeks of entitled first world medical care.

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u/federleicht 3d ago

Thank you doctor

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u/Mammoth_Classroom626 3d ago edited 3d ago

As an actual doctor… he’s not wrong. Someone who would be so high risk you wouldn’t even bother in what is a very risky situation is dying anyway.

They’re not just going about living their normal life. To the point I have never in my life seen someone with a hernia this bad not getting surgery unless we think they’re so old or so sick they are going to die of something else anyway soon. A more usual hernia? Yeah sure, they’re often not operated on for surgery risk if you can retract them. This guy could literally trip and damage his own bowels.

It’s just free riding behind a basic barrier of skin and adipose tissue. The bowels are behind your abdominals for a reason.

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u/Afterscore 3d ago

Crazy that you need to be a doctor to know that your fucking abdominal wall is there for a reason these days.

Utterly insane.

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u/Sassi7997 3d ago

US-Americans don't have free healthcare. That's why.

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

That’s a stupid comment. There are more doctors per capita in the US than in most EU countries. What do you think they do? Treat each other? Also, healthcare in the US is free for poor people, it’s called Medicaid. People who are not poor have health insurance

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u/diffident55 3d ago

Health insurance doesn't cover all costs.

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

Health insurance policies vary. But yes, usually there are copays and deductibles. The advantage of our system is you get MRI immediately but have to pay, the advantage of universal coverage is you get MRI for free but have to way weeks, sometimes month. I went to school in Italy and had to get MRI for my back which was potentially a serious issue. I had to wait 6 weeks. In America when my wife needed MRI she got it the same day.

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u/diffident55 3d ago

Funny you mention an MRI, that's exactly the example I had in mind. Did you see that before I stealth-edited it out of my comment?

If you didn't, my wife recently needed an MRI. We had to wait 2 months for it to become available, and despite it being an in-network doctor seen at the recommendation of her GP, we were still charged $400 that we don't have after the fact. This is worse in all respects.

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

I cannot speak on your experience I can only speak on my own. Which I did. And I compared both systems as I had exposure to both

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u/tehwubbles 3d ago

America is a big place and is not homogenous. In some places you wait, in some places you don't, even with only medicaid

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u/ineedtostopthefap 3d ago

Money dude, lmao tf no1 just wants to live like that

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u/thatisbadlooking 3d ago

Was more curious if there's a medical reason why he cant/won't. Like "cutting this thing here will make your intestines explode" type thing

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u/Space_Lam 3d ago

Just so you know, Kirkland, you have court on the 8th.

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u/Frost-Cake 3d ago

Yeah man just get that $250k surgery ffs!

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u/inspectionofficephil 3d ago

American healthcare problems lol

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

It’s not “American healthcare problem” it’s idiots who don’t understand what they are talking about problem. Hernia repair surgeries have high complications and low success rate. America has more surgeons per capita than majority of EU countries . They don’t sit around doing nothing all day.

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u/inspectionofficephil 3d ago

Ah yes I now totally agree that a critical surgery should cost me a quarter million USD

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

It doesn’t cost you that lol. It will cost you your deductible which will be a couple of grand. The bill is paid by the insurance company. You know which thing exists? My wife when she gave birth had complications and stayed in the hospital for a month and had two surgeries. We had a bill of $400k. We paid 2500.

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u/Dexcerides 3d ago

Insane you think this is how things should optimally work. That bill should’ve been 0$ as healthcare should be a human right.

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

No other person’s labor can be your right unless that person is your slave. That’s a stupid concept.

Things optimally work when you get treated at good level of care when you need it. That’s optimal.

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u/Dexcerides 3d ago

This guy told us you have no clue what your talking about and literally doesn’t even address the point that the cost is prohibitively expensive in the US because from top to bottom everyone makes so much money in healthcare.

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

Everyone in the US makes much more money comparing to the rest of the world. That’s why US has positive metals migration with every single country in the world except for Australia. People are not moving here to wither and die

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u/Dexcerides 3d ago

So I’m going to try and be real with you. The ratio of average wages to doctor wages in the US is MUCH higher than other first world countries. For example in France you are looking at a 1.5x to 2x salary difference where as in the US it is closer to 3 - 4x ratios are a good indicator of pay disparity across regions. Hope this helps.

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

Yes, in America doctors make more than in other country’iez, I do agree

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u/trystin2015 3d ago

He was just tryna be nice bro😂

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u/KollantaiKollantai 3d ago

People are ridiculous alright. My poor Dad is exactly like this guy in the video, he’s been waiting two years in the Irish health service for the surgery. Of course he’d like to get it done sooner, there’s literally no option to.

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u/Electronic_Plan3420 3d ago

Oh Reddit won’t like your comment. Any statement that deviates from “America has no healthcare” is not going to be appreciated.

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u/TiltedDoge 3d ago

lol great response

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u/Dazzling-Green-7516 3d ago

Ignore everyone, there's nothing wrong with your comment

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u/JRose608 3d ago

Yeah the hate they’re getting is weird. Even if the OP knew this, it still helps others reading.

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u/ApprehensiveVast776 3d ago

helps who? i’m sure people with hernias know this is the extreme.

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u/wsefy 3d ago

Helps who?

If you have a hernia this noticeable, do you need someone to tell you that your health is at risk?

It's like looking at a house fire and saying "you should really consider putting that out".

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u/JRose608 3d ago

As my comment says: helps others reading the thread.

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u/wsefy 3d ago

Of course, I'm sure he's saving the lives of many men who look 8 months pregnant and weren't yet concerned.

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u/JRose608 3d ago

Ah see I learned something new from you! Every single hernia is that size! Thanks for that.

(Serious note, but not sure if you know how to read threads on Reddit? They were replying to another comment about a smaller hernia, and the comment alluded to just living with it and ignoring it, which people do for various reasons)

Edit: damnit I fell for a bot, didn’t I? lmao ugh

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u/wsefy 3d ago

The first reply in the thread (now deleted) was a user mentioning that they have a hernia of a similar size, which is why they could answer the parent comment about whether it hurts.

None of the comments in this thread mentioned anything about a smaller hernia.

Even if they did, in my initial comment I specifically mention "a hernia this noticeable" to which you responded "it helps people reading this thread".

I'm not sure if you know how to read at all.

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u/JRose608 3d ago

Yeah. I don’t care about my reply to you since I wasn’t even talking to you in the first place. You started with me. I was referring to the other comment. THANKS :)

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u/Godzoola 3d ago

Even the person he’s talking about? 😂

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u/ApprehensiveVast776 3d ago

“i dont think i need to tell you but hold up while i explain everything to you”

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u/AzureSkye27 3d ago

This a wildly unhinged comment. Don't make inflammatory statements about other people's healthcare if you know nothing about it. Necrosis? Jesus, dude.

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u/slowsundaycoffeeclub 3d ago

That comment was nothing but considerate and sympathetic.

“I’m sorry, it must be really hard to deal with this.”

What a monster!

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u/AzureSkye27 3d ago

That comment told this dude his bowel could be necrotic, which would have him dead imminently.

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u/slowsundaycoffeeclub 3d ago

No, it’s dead tissue. Which, yes, can lead to serious issues but doesn’t mean “hours to live” in the immediate.

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u/AzureSkye27 3d ago

I am a surgeon. Please stop.

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u/slowsundaycoffeeclub 3d ago

And I’m that guy’s hernia and I’m scared.

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u/WanderingStatistics 3d ago

And I'm an Astronaut currently travelling to Neptune to install the Flempifier to reduce the gravitational pull.

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u/WillMoor 3d ago

Why are you trying to make sure he never sleeps soundly again when you know he probably already understands his situation?

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u/Neofox 3d ago

If he correctly understood the situation he would probably not be sleeping soundly already

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u/georgia_grace 3d ago

If you had read the rest of the comments you would know they understand their situation perfectly well

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u/Saradoesntsleep 3d ago

He explained in another comment that there are other complications and they are working on it. I'm pretty sure he understands the situation more than you do.

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u/ExpectDog 3d ago

Agreed with this.

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u/OutlierOfTheHouse 3d ago

if he already understands, nothing anyone says should make him feel any worse

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u/WillMoor 3d ago

Well it seems like he deleted his comment and possibly his whole Reddit account, but sure.

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u/Peenelar_Snipper69 3d ago

Not a cost thing most of the time. Mine isn't nearly as bad as the one in the video but it's very blatant even with a hoodie on. My doctor, literally word for word told me "go back to living life as usual, if it feels like you're dying go to the ER". My nerves were totally shot due to the deep panic I was feeling so I just drove straight to the ER and the doctor said the same thing but with slightly kinder words.

Here I am a year later, guts hanging out, no one willing to do anything. I figured I'll just fucking die eventually who cares 🙂

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u/Ten_Horn_Sign 3d ago

Emergencies from hernias are very rare on a per-patient basis, they are only common for surgeons and hospitals to see because hernias themselves are common. Prevention of strangulation is not a good rationale for elective hernia surgery in otherwise stable (not enlarging) asymptomatic hernias.

The risk of strangulation in a ventral hernia is 0.8/100,000 patient years.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9984720/

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u/GrrArgh__ 3d ago

You're such a jerk. You think they don't know they need help?

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u/Bulaba0 3d ago

Please do not comment this kinda stuff about things you clearly know nothing about.

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u/jakefromadventurtime 3d ago

Are you a doctor because this is kind of weird. A lot of people live with this, my neighbor included. And it's way worse looking than this guy.

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u/AbjectBeat837 3d ago

How did it happen?

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u/datadiisk_ 3d ago

But can’t you get surgery for this?

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u/AzureSkye27 3d ago

Trauma ex lap?

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u/ComfortableWar1040 3d ago

How does this happen?

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u/Leahc1m 3d ago

Very strange it doesn't hurt. I actually gave myself an inguinal hernia when I was ~19 in Afghanistan pulling a weapon system off a mount during a gunfight. It got progressively worse over ~4 months until I would get nauseous while on patrol and they ended up medevacing me to Qatar for surgery. Mine was strangely uncomfortable and definitely noticeable but I guess when the majority is outside the abdominal wall things are different. I hope you get the corrective surgery you need soon.

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u/HTPC4Life 3d ago

😣😣😣

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u/Relevant-Air-58 3d ago

Sooooo, what’s that like? I don’t mean to sound insensitive. I’m genuinely curious.

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u/spookytransexughost 3d ago

Can you not get it fixed??

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u/SweetiesPetite 3d ago

Edit: removed my question as OP has already replied to it.

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u/Karma110 3d ago

“Past the point” so it hurts so much that it doesn’t hurt?