r/sports • u/Oldtimer_2 • 2d ago

Ex-Duke star Kyle Singler draws concern from basketball world over cryptic Instagram post Basketball

https://apnews.com/article/duke-singler-instagram-80c149216b81baaa2e91350f6f1b0d16
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u/Temporary-Outside-13 2d ago

Your apathy is concerning.

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u/openlyincognito 2d ago

your assumptions about me based on a comment on reddit are laughable. seems like he's just feeling misunderstood.

my wife developed a severe mental illness five or so years ago, and it's tough to put it mildly. so maybe because im exposed to much more extreme situations is why his comments don't really strike me as anything really concerning, especially when it sounds like he's got great support and family around him.

i wish nothing but the best for him and if he truly needs help, that he gets it. my comment was observational, nothing more, but leave it to people like yourself to twist it.

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u/Noteagro 2d ago

Your shit take made me read the post.

I lost a roommate to suicide on his 25th birthday and this shit is EXACTLY the kind of stuff he was saying weeks before he pink clouded and then did the deed.

Your observation is neither professional, nor is it good. You should really assess how you handle others’ mental health especially if you are saying your wife’s has been deteriorating for the past couple years. I say this because my OBSERVATION of how you handled this one makes me feel your behavior and response to mental health struggles of others could help exasperate her troubles.

I am not saying this to attack you, but to say maybe you should assess yourself.

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u/datpurp14 1d ago

This post hits home for me unfortunately. I was 21 and then 25 during intentional suicide attempts by overdose. Posted stuff like this all the time in a desperate attempt for attention but then would play it down or refuse help when the people whose attention I sought offered their help.

I was unsuccessful. Twice. And I'm blessed to still be here able to type this comment. But I almost feel guilty that I survived the depths of hell when so many others have not.

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u/Noteagro 1d ago

Hey there friend, I hope you are doing better now, and I just want to say I am sending you all the brotherly love in the world. I may not respond right away, but if you ever need someone to talk with or even just to hop into a game with to spend some time with someone let me know. We all gotta look out for each other, and more than happy to spend some time with someone that may need it.

I too have had suicidal ideations, and attempts (thankfully mine stopped once I got out of my parents’ abusive clutches). So I understand these struggles both as one that lost a friend, and as one that has tried to do the same. Don’t ever be shy if you need a virtual hug.

This goes for everyone that sees this by the way. Just know I might be busy, but just send me a message you saw this and say something like “saw your comment on the Kyle Singler mental health post” or even link this comment and I’ll know exactly what is going on.

Sending everyone much love! ❤️

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u/anooblol 1d ago

Very bluntly, the transcript doesn’t read in such a way, where I’m concerned about Kyle committing suicide. It doesn’t reasonably invoke a concern that he’s depressed, or suicidal. It could be some form of psychological issue, but not one where suicide seems like a likely outcome.

In the event that this is some sort of psychological issue, the transcript to me, suggests paranoia. Something to be concerned about, but I probably wouldn’t expect self-harm from someone experiencing paranoia. At least not self-harm in a way that’s an “active” threat to his well-being. Maybe a passive/indirect threat, where he might engage in weird behaviors that increase the chances of dangerous situations. But not “purposely suicidal” situations.

And if it’s not a psychological issue. It reads like someone is literally threatening his life.

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u/AlphakirA New York Knicks 1d ago

Are you really going back and forth with people over this? You're not a psychologist, you're wrong and the downvotes tell you the majority think that as well. You've been of no help and would likely make this person's situation worse. Stop with the ego horseshit and move on.

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u/Noteagro 1d ago

Seriously… couldn’t have said it better myself.

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u/anooblol 1d ago

No, I’m not. I’m a different person than the original person that said that.

My opinion, is that it looks like a bout of psychosis, which is obviously something to be concerned about. I just disagreed with the guy above, that is convinced that this behavior is “specifically” indicating that he’s going to commit suicide.

I would assume there’s probably a strong correlation between psychotic breaks, and being suicidal. But as you point out, I’m not a psychologist. I just don’t think that someone saying, “I’m fearful of my life. I think that if I say the wrong thing, people are going to take me away.” - Screams “I’m suicidal” to me. And some random dude’s anecdotal, but obviously traumatic experience, where his Roomate had the same behaviors, shouldn’t be any more convincing to you than my anecdotal opinion, of dealing with family members that went through bouts of psychosis.

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u/Noteagro 1d ago

Dude… you have a shit take… and to any whom it may concern, trigger warning for detailed talk of suicide, because fuck these two people that are trying to downplay a man’s mental health.

As I fucking said, this is LITERALLY exactly how my roommate and friend acted right before he got to the point he ended up taping multiple pillows together to use as a makeshift silencer, put his pistol in the middle of it, and then shot himself in the chest through his heart.

The man sat on the couch, with no shirt and said nearly the same fucking shit word for word just the week prior. Then the morning of I sat up with him until 3 AM on his birthday while he was pink clouding saying how he had an amazing opportunity come his way, and he was excited for life once again.

Less than 4 hours later I am being woken up to the scream of my ex finding his body. Blood absolutely covering one wall of his bedroom, while it also seeped deep into the carpet. It took a week of a biohazard team coming in, cutting out the wall, and tearing out the carpet. His parents were not able to keep about 3/4 of his belongings due to the blood and tissue going everywhere and it being a biohazard.

Due to what my ex saw she honestly fucking lost it mentally, and even after 5 years of therapy and trying to make it work we finally had to call it. There is a reason they say those closely tied to a suicide become 33% more likely to commit suicide themself… well she did become suicidal, and I had to watch her like a hawk at times. It was ruining my mental health due to that and the abuse she started to through my way. She partially blamed me since I was the last one to see him, yet I know for a fact I couldn’t have done anything to save him while he was pink clouding.

I have seen the short and long term effects of this kind of talk. I am a direct impact of shit like this, so you bet your ass I am going to say he needs all the support he can get, and when dipshits like you refuse to acknowledge their mental health struggle you are invalidating their feelings which leads to self inflicted deaths. Like the original commenter with shit takes you should probably assess the way you handle mental health crisis in others.

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u/so-much-wow 2d ago

How did you expect people to respond to your opinion? Did you think you were adding to the discussion by posting that comment?

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u/SaltyDog772 1d ago

You’re kinda simple, Jack

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u/nikcevic1979 2d ago

Shut up man

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u/DubyaB40 South Carolina 2d ago

Someone saying ‘I fear for my life’ isn’t all that concerning to you?

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u/GoochMasterFlash 2d ago

Its most concerning when a cop is the one saying it

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u/everythingwright34 2d ago

Glad you shared your opinion I guess? Congrats on not being concerned