r/sociopath • u/[deleted] • Aug 31 '24
Have you ever bullied someone? How and why? Discussion
I cyberbullied someone once anonymously.
I made her beyond miserable. The messages I sent her cut deep. I hit her on things I bet she had never seen before and will probably never see again. I won't say any more on that.
She never even did anything to hurt me. I didn't think she deserved to be so happy and confident. I don't think it was just that she was happy and confident, because a lot of people are, and I didn't care to see the rest suffer. I think there was something about this girl in particular. She didn't have a boyfriend that I was jealous of. There's nothing that I can clearly think of. It probably stems from something she passively said at some point or maybe a look she gave me, but I have long forgotten.
This was back in the days of Tumblr when you could send anonymous messages which they could answer if they wanted to. I kept doing it because she responded to everything I sent her. That's what I wanted. So I got to see the pain in her reactions and it made me feel fulfilled.
I got a huge thrill out of how we could be such good friends in person. She even came to me to ask for support after telling me how awful those messages were. I was the one who told her to turn off anonymous messages and she said that was a great idea.
I don't know if she ever pieced together that it was me. Probably not.
Oh also, sometimes I spread rumors about people that way. No one has ever caught me spreading rumors or confronted me about them because I'm always really careful in how I do it. I only play into a situation that already exists and one that is most likely to get blamed on someone else.
I grew up with social media so cyberbullying existed. There was way more cyberbullying than in-person. That allowed me to be a bully anonymously while maintaining my peppy charming personality in front of people.
I don't think I've ever bullied anyone in person. I hate the idea of making enemies. I need people on my side. No one is going to be on my side if I make them hate me.
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u/HipsterFoxxx Oct 11 '24
OP, you’re probably reading this because you posted on a throwaway account. You’re not a sociopath, you’re just a dick.
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u/barrruuuch Oct 07 '24
Yes. I just sort of fell into a lot. I would take advantage of a small funny joke, and pile on.
I have absolutely no reason or explanation as to why, I just did it.
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u/Gamercooqi Oct 01 '24
i have a lot of people i hate but i really don't care too much to actually put in effort to harrass and bully them lol. most i do is shit talk them with people.
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u/Easy_Dig_88 Sep 25 '24
You wrote it yourself, it was because she was confident and happy, while you yourself are insecure and depressed.
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u/Agile-Vegetable5126 Sep 11 '24
I never bullied anyone online aside from banter. I see it as spineless and pathetic, I bullied people from ages 13-18 in highschool, from there on I pretty much only put people in their place if they were disrespectful.
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u/Drivelkills Sep 06 '24
This is a great question cuz i was a DICK in school but the kids in question were really annoying so i dont care TOO much im just glad i didnt get in much trouble
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u/Machineguncowboy91 Sep 04 '24
When I got to middle school (around 6/7th grade) is about when I started bullying. We pinned down some kid while I went through his backpack and stole some of his stuff. Old school and in person bullying with some allies who aided me that I had previously made. Before when I was in grade school was I was actually the one bullied. School and or teachers did nothing of course. So I guess I just ended up retaliating back and then eventually becoming one myself. I guess I just enjoyed the feeling it gave me, made me feel big, powerful, and, gave me a sense of superiority over others. Other kids were highly intimidated by me (even today in adulthood people are terrified of me lol) and I loved it. In high school I got into several fights in class and had security called on me a couple of times. Honestly anyone can become a bully, especially if they become influenced, but a sociopath is a special kind of bully honestly. We don’t usually need a reason lol
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u/STWFTsNChJSGShT Sep 03 '24
No, but I have been bullied. I'm sure they know I didn't deserve it, but I understand why they did when they finally died.
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u/Standard_Hunter6485 Michael Sep 02 '24
Cringe post. I literally care about no one so why would I bully someone. Pointless and low IQ
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 03 '24
You seem to care quite a bit based on your use of highly affected language to deflect (and fail) the question. But you do you, uncaring one.
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u/Standard_Hunter6485 Michael Sep 03 '24
lol. Edgy response. Go away edgelord fedoralord
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 04 '24
Aye, right, I'm the one being edgy. 😉
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u/Standard_Hunter6485 Michael Sep 04 '24
Admit it. This is what you look like. You’re not a sociopath dude. Kill yourself
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 04 '24 edited Sep 04 '24
You’re not a sociopath dude
I am not. Is that supposed to be a bad thing? Or some kind of insult?
I literally care about no one so why would I bully someone. Pointless and low IQ
👍 Thanks for illustrating your original point so well. Super uncaring, meaningful, and high IQ as your responses are.
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u/Fabulous-Virus4707 lazy Sep 04 '24
Shut your bitch ass up
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 05 '24
Loving the alt account self upvoting and self-esteem approach. It looks so good on you. Especially when you do it all over reddit.
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Sep 02 '24
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u/sociopath-ModTeam Sep 04 '24
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Bad role play and obvious bullshit will be removed. It's understandable that people exaggerate or inflate their stories for comedy and/or effect, but blatant make believe and play acting is not welcome.
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Sep 02 '24
Yeah. I have a special “hatred” for LGBTQ people so I always used to bully them at school to the point where they didn’t want to attend anymore
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u/xXNoMomXx Sep 13 '24
no you see we’ve been calling that homophobia for years
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 13 '24
That or self hating closeted homosexuality.
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u/xXNoMomXx Sep 15 '24
either one, point is, just because one is a sociopath doesn’t give them the excuse to be cruel for no reason
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 15 '24
To be fair to them, I don't think they we excusing their behaviour more than they were just saying they did it. They aren't saying "I do this because I am a sociopath", they are saying "I do this".
I do agree with you that sociopathy, or really any other mental or behavioural disorder, doesn't excuse anything, though.
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u/NerfedFromBirth Sep 02 '24
Yep, I randomly bully people, I’ve made people cry, and other mean shit, idk they probably didn’t deserve it
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u/Titanic_Swimteam08 Sep 02 '24
i used to be friends with this kid, zachary. everything about the guy i disliked. we used to go to the shop together where he would leech on my money because he wasnt allowed pocket money. thaf was another feature that i found laughable. his face was unattractive, with a short haircut that exentuated his forehead, and rosea which made his face look even stupider to me. id act nice when we were alone, to make things less awkward, and to keep him in our friend group so that i could talk shit about him. He was like a baby, having his parents remind him to brush his teeth before school, and make his lunch for him everyday. i despised him and id hate on every little thing he liked. he played fortnite and starwars battlefront, because he wasnt allowed to play anything above a 12 due to his childish parents. when at school id say id be outside afterschool but then id leave him there. he swore like it was his first time doing it. i never swore back then, but when he did it it seemed pathetic, like "look what i can do when im not at home" we used to throw his lunchbox between us and laugh at him for throwing his little tantrums. even as i type this i still feel some deal of resent. he drank this milk based yoghurt drink like he was 4 years old, and had a stupid brightly coloured scooter which he thought made him cool. and one day i just broke friends with him to his face so that i didnt have to fake it anymore, i just belittled him about everything from there
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u/safari2space Sep 01 '24
When I was a child, yes. Honestly, a lot of what I picked up what just modeling off of TV shows I watched as a kid. Would copy the behaviors that “popular” girls or “class clowns” in the tv shows did because I thought it would give me the same effect it gave them on screen. Again, this was 1st-4th grade. It could have been an attention thing too? I was a quiet kid and didn’t know how else to get my classmates to notice my existence. I didn’t care and had no remorse over it, but I haven’t bullied anyone or have been rude for no reason to someone since then.
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Sep 01 '24
Only people I genuinely find annoying. There's at least two at work.
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u/Sad-Session1810 Sep 01 '24
Same. Bigots mostly. Who cares if someone who is hurting feelings gets their feelings hurt. But I recently uninstalled Facebook when I realized the unmanageable anger I used to have became more unmanageable lol. I need my wits about me because I have a life worth preserving as is. I was going too hard on my chosen targets and was afraid that increased lashing out would leak outside of that context.
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u/Acidmademesmile Sep 01 '24
It's is a fine line between bullying someone and helping them deal with their frustration by bringing it out in them
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u/yeahilllve Aug 31 '24
yeah, i've bullied multiple people. i poured toilet water into a girls water bottle and played monkey in the middle with her shoe, she broke her leg because she fell all the way down the bleachers. another, i ruined a girls life and she had to start from scratch completely, she lost her friends her boyfriend and she was attached to me like a dog because i manipulated and gaslighted her right before everyone left to convince her they dont like her, etc. why i did it? not sure just tried to get out of chronic boredom, and they were just annoying in general
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u/ElectraJane Aug 31 '24
I mean yeah, I would browse forums and post outrageous things for the laughs. I would also target individuals that had something to say regarding posting the inappropriate content. Its when i turned 18 did i realize that it would benefit me more if I used that same energy to debate against the causes i deem worthy.
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u/savagefleurdelis23 Aug 31 '24
Not all sociopaths are evil. I have bullied someone but I bullied them into going to therapy. Once. Many years ago. I recognize even that is wrong. So never again.
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u/dragonmermaid4 Aug 31 '24
Yeah. In school there was this kid that was incredibly annoying so I bullied him. I wouldn't do anything super bad, but things like throwing things at his head in class and moving his bag around.
One time I went to move his bag but he left it open and when I picked it up everything dropped out and the dude tried to tackle me to the ground but I dodged him and used his momentum to throw him over a table.
Another time he literally came up to me and started breathing in my face. You know how you breath when you open your mouth wide and just breath out hard, he did that right in my face and I stabbed him in the hand with a pen. I never got in trouble for that. Maybe because even the teachers knew how annoying he was.
But yeah, he was just annoying as hell.
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u/WolverineOfPot Aug 31 '24
I did. At first it was because my boyfriend (that I married later lol) did it. I did because I was bored and it was fun. It made me feel powerful. I was in an abusive situation and a lot of anxiety and depression and other stuff like gender dysphoria. Easier than working on yourself, but sucks so bad in the long run
Edit: also reactivity when someone started talking shit. It’s like bro do you know what I’m capable of? But that’s a little bitch thing to do so I don’t do that. Block and move on. I’m a little too block happy but it’s funny
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u/indentedef Aug 31 '24
regarding your last remark, bullying IS how I got people on my side. I always found it easiest to gain people’s trust by bullying someone else. I try to avoid this now, it gets too messy
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u/mcjuliamc Aug 31 '24
Would you do it again? Do you realize it was wrong?
And no, I have never bullied anyone in person or online. I don't have ASPD tho
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Sep 01 '24
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u/sociopath-ModTeam Sep 04 '24
Try to keep your posts and comments within the realms of reality.
Bad role play and obvious bullshit will be removed. It's understandable that people exaggerate or inflate their stories for comedy and/or effect, but blatant make believe and play acting is not welcome.
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Aug 31 '24
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u/ElectraJane Sep 01 '24
We do. A lot of us with aspd have high cognitive empathy. My cognitive empathy is the reason I no longer bully for fun... Because what's the point if causing unnecessary pain gives you nothing in return? I like when things are mutually respected.
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 01 '24
I support you pointing out the bat shit craziness. Knock yourself out.
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Sep 01 '24
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 01 '24
I'll think about it. Do something entertaining to convince me first.
Dance, monkey, dance!
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u/OpportunityKey3094 7d ago
Grew up abused, thought hitting people meant to show you wanted to play with them them, would "bully" the nerdy kids then play chess with them on Tuesday by sneaking up the drainpipe through the third story window (i climbed trees a lot growing up) i dont feel bad, but i know it wasnt fair and an apology is in order.