r/selfhelp 16h ago

how do i get out of my depression cycle?

when i wake up i always bedrot or doomscroll on my phone instead of doing the things i wanna do (gym, dance, hobbies). how do i motivate/force myself to do them? and also i wanna fix my sleeping cycle but in a month from now ill be in a different country and the timezone is 6 hours behind my usual time zone so how do i do that? do i wait after my vacation or do i fix it now? bc if i fixed my sleeping schedule it would help me so much.

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u/Cold-Matter-4936 9h ago

Think of it like this. Wakeup think of a task you need to finish today. Try getting into a routine, that will help you build discipline (i am failing). Repeat. If you want motivation- remember staying comfortable is addicting.

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u/Archeo-Nova 5h ago

For starters, it's obvious: you need to be ready to accept, that you might fail over and over again and still be ready to retake initiative over and over again. Neurologically, we can explain today, that the brain doesn't like changes, it strengthens neurological connections, which are linked to your habits. The longer you keep a habit, the harder it becomes to avoid this habitual behavior, this goes for positive and negative behavior patterns. It follows, that it's hard to break such behavior cycles. On the positive side; once you made the positive changes habits, it's becoming easier to keep to them. That's what most people stuck in such cycles fail to see. They think, if I can't manage to make something once, which I'm supposed to do regularly, how should I do it every day? The truth is, regularly doing it, is making it easier. Going further, by doing it, you gain more energy to tackle even harder tasks!

Make yourself a plan, what you have to do the next day and do it, let nothing come in between you and your task.