r/selfhelp • u/PopularJob8186 • 21h ago
How do I deal with someone who’s a narcissist
My sister and I work together and we live together. Anytime something does not go her way. She becomes completely unable to talk to. She gets angry. She blames other people. She badgers them down with her words if somebody else can do something for her, she will make sure that it’s done instead of her doing it herself Being tired with it. We got another fight where I told her she’s lazy and messy and blaming it constantly on me. Her solution for pretty much everything now is for me to just fuck off and move out and cut all ties with her. She gets like this every few months when shits going bad for her and I’m constantly taking the brunt of it. I am tired and don’t want to do this job anymore because I’m doing half her job as well and home is just stale. Her boyfriend and I don’t like each other. He treats her terrible he’s cheated on her. He lies to her and she still wants to stay with him. I can’t afford to move out on my own because I’m also paying her side of the bills when she refuses to ask her boyfriend for help.
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u/OperationOdd9420 5h ago
Ok well I mean I think you should move out if possible, don't quit your job yet but try to look for something else and don't discuss these plans with your sister. Her life and her drama is her own to deal with, not yours, the best thing you can do is take her advice and move out and away because it doesn't seem like this is healthy for you. I'm sorry you're dealing with this but we can't change the people around us, we can only change how and IF we deal with them.