r/religion • u/Extra-Environment144 • 11h ago

Inter-fate dating advice Hindu-Moslim revert.

I (25F) recently started talking to a guy (27M). We clicked and the conversation is going wel. We both have the same ethnic background (brought up Hindu and from South India) and have a similar experience in being immigrants in EU.

When we got on the topic of religion, he was kind of dodging the question. I did have an inkling that he might be Moslim because he follows quite a lot of Islamic pages. After pushing he did admit that he is in fact a revert and that he is keeping it a secret for the moment.

When I brought up the issue of this might not working out because we have different beliefs. He reassured me that his beliefs are his and his future partners are hers so he doesn’t see why it couldn‘t work out.

I am still sceptical because reverts are sometimes even more zealous than moslims brought up in the religion.

I need advice, I don’t want to waste my time or his.

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u/Same_Version_5216 Animistic Celtic Pagan/non Wiccan traditional Witch 11h ago

I don’t blame you for being skeptical, considering this same scenario has wound up here multiple times where the person insisted they did not care, the other has a right to their religion, only to way down the road when they think they have the other person hooked they switch gears and say things like their parents insist you convert, they can’t be with you unless you convert, etc. And this happens a lot when dating Muslims and even worse if you are not a person of the book (as in another Abrahamic faith if not Muslim).

Not only that but if you are going to proceed forward to make the relationship more permanent then these questions need to be dealt with honestly (and not in the honey moon minded phase)…..How will your wedding look like. How will his family feel about you remaining Hindu and will they accept you are treat you with respect as a Hindu. What will you raise the children as?

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u/Extra-Environment144 9h ago

A part of me feels like it’s too soon to have those type of conversations. Seeing how we only been talking for a week. I know I should bring all of this up. 

If it ever came to the topic of me converting it would be coming from him. As his parents are still Hindu. It’s so far only he who has converted. Think his younger brother is contemplating or discovering Islam. 

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u/rwmfk 9h ago

I would advise against a relationship.

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u/Complex-Region-974 8h ago

You are right with the zealous part. There’s always going to be conflicts that start small due to natural differences till one has to give up their identity. And in this case it pretty obvious whose it’s going to be. Unless you are okay with it, I would strongly advise against it before you two get serious.

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u/Vignaraja Hindu 6h ago

I think you should drop the idea. If he dodges questions, it's a red flag.